It sucks losing your friends

[Martin]

So I have this pretty close group of friends and we've all known and hung out with each other for 7-8 years now (most of HS and all of university). Over the last little while, everybody has started going away. Two went off to different cities to do grad school, another three went to different cities to work, one has gone off to Japan to teach English...

So in the space space of about 2 months there's just 3 of us left and its pretty sad. Acquaintances come and go, but having a long time friend leave sucks big time. There'll still be occasional emails and phone calls, but that's a pretty pathetic replacement for hanging out face to face regularly.

What makes this even worse is that at my age people really aren't that interested in making friends and acquaintances, coworkers etc make a very poor friend substitute.

 

[Whoozyerdaddy]

Originally posted by: Martin
So I have this pretty close group of friends and we've all known and hung out with each other for 7-8 years now (most of HS and all of university). Over the last little while, everybody has started going away. Two went off to different cities to do grad school, another three went to different cities to work, one has gone off to Japan to teach Engrish...

Fixed. :laugh:

*cough* I mean... sorry about your situation. It sucks when friends move away.

 

[simms]

I can be your friend! At least we're in the same city.

But yes, definetely... when you start working FT coworkers are no substitute for personal friends you've known for so long.

 

[imported_LoKe]

I moved to a different city right before my last year of high school.

I know what it's like to lose friends. Be thankful you have some left.

 

[Howard]

Wha? I didn't know you were in Toronto.

 

[imported_stev]

That sucks, but you're never too old to make new friends, it just won't be with any people out there who think you make friends in high school and that's it.

 

[bdude]

Yup, make sure to keep in touch and always remember the good times.

 

[djheater]

Originally posted by: Martin
So I have this pretty close group of friends and we've all known and hung out with each other for 7-8 years now (most of HS and all of university). Over the last little while, everybody has started going away. Two went off to different cities to do grad school, another three went to different cities to work, one has gone off to Japan to teach English...

So in the space space of about 2 months there's just 3 of us left and its pretty sad. Acquaintances come and go, but having a long time friend leave sucks big time. There'll still be occasional emails and phone calls, but that's a pretty pathetic replacement for hanging out face to face regularly.

What makes this even worse is that at my age people really aren't that interested in making friends and acquaintances, coworkers etc make a very poor friend substitute.

I got married\settled down right after high school...
All my 'friends' went on to college and grad school etc. without looking back. From my perspective, you've had a longer run than I ever had and should be grateful.

The friendships of adolescence can not last forever. People need to make their own way in life. Don't resent them for it, get to work on your life.

 

[Drako]

That's pretty much the human condition. It is sad, but after awhile, you get used to it. It will happen many times over your lifetime if you are lucky .

 

[Oceandevi]

I feel tied down to my friends and family. They always want you around to support them.

 

[soydios]

Yeah, I just started college this year. Don't get me wrong, I have an awesome bunch of guys on my floor, and a nice bunch of gals on the floor below, but I now realize just how great my friends for the last four years of high school were.

 

[KarmaPolice]

Yeah we all get that. I am horrible at keeping in touch with friends, but you know what they don't really try either so they can't just blame me. Why can't you make new friends when you get out of college? Just because you have to work all does not mean that you can't make new friends outside of work...this thought process confuses me.

What pisses me off the most are friends that are still around but don't hang out with you anymore. This happens to me all the time because of really one reason. Girlfriends. I've been single for a long time..I don't really do long term relationships at the moment. My friends are great when they are single but as soon as they get a gf they are pretty much dead to me...pisses me the fuck off.

 

[Ryan]

I'm horrible at keeping touch, but I hope the ones that matter know that I still care about them (as cheesy as it sounds).

 

[compuwiz1]

Wecome to life 101. My name is Mr. Pritchard. The objective of this class is to teach you that life changes and people move, as well as take on new interests. May you never stand still.

 

[Snapster]

I've had one friend move to Hong Kong, one to Malaysia all within six months...was it something I said :Q I digress though, yes it does suck to lose long term friends. :beer: You never know what opportunities may arise from this situation.

 

[UncleWai]

I think that's the problem with friendship in the United States in general, the places are too far apart and people have a hard time keeping in touch.
I still maintain frequent contact with my Hong Kong primary schoolmates. Even when I left Hong Kong for 12 years and came back, we are still close as brothers. Every weekend we would go play basketball together or just go dinner after work.
In the US, after college/high school people move to different cities, then it will be near impossible to meet up again.

 

[needalife]

I am one of those friends that moved away... I can haz new frwendz?

 

[JulesMaximus]

I've met some of my closest friends through work and through meeting neighbors over the years. I don't keep in contact with a single person I went to HS with in fact.

 

[KillerCharlie]

Welcome to the real world.

 

[Whisper]

Just keep in touch, and I'm sure at least a few of them will come back eventually.

 

[Pepsi90919]

Originally posted by: LoKe
I moved to a different city right before my last year of high school.

I know what it's like to lose friends. Be thankful you have some left.

where were you

 

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: Martin
So I have this pretty close group of friends and we've all known and hung out with each other for 7-8 years now (most of HS and all of university). Over the last little while, everybody has started going away. Two went off to different cities to do grad school, another three went to different cities to work, one has gone off to Japan to teach English...

So in the space space of about 2 months there's just 3 of us left and its pretty sad. Acquaintances come and go, but having a long time friend leave sucks big time. There'll still be occasional emails and phone calls, but that's a pretty pathetic replacement for hanging out face to face regularly.

What makes this even worse is that at my age people really aren't that interested in making friends and acquaintances, coworkers etc make a very poor friend substitute.

That's life, that's what people say.
You're riding' high in April,
Shot down in May.

 

[Martin]

Well, this kind of thing happening certainly is a part of life, but that doesn't mean one can't be a little sad when it happens. This happened to me before when my family immigrated here and I effectively lost 4 friends that I'd known for about 10 years and it sucked back then as well.

And neither am I mad at them for leaving or anything of the sorts - after all I myself thought (and still do a bit) about moving away, so I understand them...

 

[imported_LoKe]

Originally posted by: Pepsi90919

Originally posted by: LoKe
I moved to a different city right before my last year of high school.

I know what it's like to lose friends. Be thankful you have some left.

where were you

Belle River. Not terribly far away, but even when I was there most of my friends lived in Leamington or around that area.

 

[erub]

can't really say I talk with any of my HS "friends" anymore, some of my best friends I met back in HS, but I consider our friendship began more in college, as they went to different schools for HS. Also made a good group of friends since moving to ATL for grad school, I'll be bummed if I have to leave here for a job after graduation (in December)