It looks like I'm going to be living alone for a while.....

Scarpozzi

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I got married in September to the most amazing woman I've ever met. It turns out that she's going to be moving out in May. I knew this day would come, but didn't expect it to happen so soon. She's starting grad school and I can't afford to move with her. While it's only 120 miles away, it makes me sad.

I'm probably going to telecommute 2 days a week and live 4 days there and 3 days here when possible. Her grad school program is 28 months, but in the second half, she may be moving around the state....so she could potentially move back here. *crosses fingers* Has anyone else had to do something like this?

I would quit my job in a heartbeat, but I'm up for a promotion to a senior level position in the next 2 weeks and don't want to play games with good insurance and the fact that I'm building my pension...plus I have tons of time off that I can use to be with her.
 

apac

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:thumbsup: that you can stick with your wife through this.
:thumbsdown: to your thread title.
 

ViviTheMage

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thread title makes it seem like she is leaving you in the dry dirt of sorrow or something.

rename :

wife going to grad school, party time!! ?? or something more fit.
 

Whisper

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28 months is very doable, especially given that you two are already married. Beyond that, 120 miles might seem tough, but it's really not terribly bad...maybe an hour and a half to two hours of driving, yes? Definitely something you could pull off a few times a month.
 

OVerLoRDI

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Originally posted by: apac
:thumbsup: that you can stick with your wife through this.
:thumbsdown: to your thread title.

Aye, I thought his wife was leaving him as in a divorce. Long distance relationships suck but if you guys are strong you can handle it. Especially if she is just two hours away so it isn't too difficult to spend some time with her.
 

bennylong

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I say Ban for no pic and misleading title.

I think a new rule for the forum is, if the post is about a significant other and you don't provide a pic, you get an automatic ban.
 

lokiju

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I'd without a doubt quit my job and move to stay with the wife.

You can always get a new job and climb the ladder again, family is more important than any job ever IMO.

Just my opinion and don't mean to offend.
 

D1gger

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I lived apart from my wife for a year to further my career and it was tough, but I just put my head down and worked 12-14 hours per day to ease the pain. Was it worth it? Financially and career wise ... yes ... but it was very hard on our marriage. We did work hard to patch up the marriage when we moved back to the same city, but it was not easy. I just caution you to be sure to spend as much time with her as you can during the next two years. When we lived separately, we were 2,700 miles apart so it was tough to ge together.
 

SacrosanctFiend

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Originally posted by: Scarpozzi
I got married in September to the most amazing woman I've ever met. It turns out that she's going to be moving out in May. I knew this day would come, but didn't expect it to happen so soon. She's starting grad school and I can't afford to move with her. While it's only 120 miles away, it makes me sad.

I'm probably going to telecommute 2 days a week and live 4 days there and 3 days here when possible. Her grad school program is 28 months, but in the second half, she may be moving around the state....so she could potentially move back here. *crosses fingers* Has anyone else had to do something like this?

I would quit my job in a heartbeat, but I'm up for a promotion to a senior level position in the next 2 weeks and don't want to play games with good insurance and the fact that I'm building my pension...plus I have tons of time off that I can use to be with her.

Which city is she moving to?
 

Rage187

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I lived away from my wife for 3 years. Sometimes a good job oppurtunity comes around and you just have to take it.


BTW, unless you have kids, marriage is just monogamous dating.
 

allisolm

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My husband and I had to do it frequently for 21 years. Sometimes he went as much as 7,000 miles away for as long as a year. They called it military service. :)

What's the most time you'll be separated? Three days at a time? Piece of cake! Think of what it will mean down the road in terms of her education, job satisfaction, financial benefit, etc. You say you can't go with her now, but that might change before the 28 months is up. You'll do fine.
 

FoBoT

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yeah, i went to sea 7 times after getting married, ten weeks each time, no phone or mail (submariners only got eight 50 word radio telegrams one way from their familes back then, i couldn't send anything out to her)

count your blessings
 

Scarpozzi

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Originally posted by: D1gger
I lived apart from my wife for a year to further my career and it was tough, but I just put my head down and worked 12-14 hours per day to ease the pain. Was it worth it? Financially and career wise ... yes ... but it was very hard on our marriage. We did work hard to patch up the marriage when we moved back to the same city, but it was not easy. I just caution you to be sure to spend as much time with her as you can during the next two years. When we lived separately, we were 2,700 miles apart so it was tough to ge together.
Luckily, we won't be that far apart, but it still bothers me. I know she'll be studying hard because it's a medical school program.

SacrosanctFiend, she's moving to Nashville, TN. I'm going to have to look into getting an apartment there next month so we can get her settled in before classes start in May.

Thanks for the support guys. She applied to this school and made the alternate list. We honestly didn't expect a phonecall from them so I had written it off until next year in my mind. I'm excited for her, but at the same time nervous about the situation. We haven't been married that long so being away will be hard (we don't hate each other fully...yet).

-Scar
 

zerocool84

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The only thing I would worry about, and I'm being serious, is that since you will not be there, she could have "friends" come over. Hope everything turns out great for you guys.
 

AnyMal

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Look on the bright side, within 28 months (probably sooner) you will know for sure if she really IS the one.