It is really hard to meet people in college when you commute!

[TGCid]

Is it me or is it really hard to meet people in college when you commute? I mean, I meet people casually but havent got the chance to really get to know anyone. College is about meeting people and so far so bad. High school was much easier for me. Any tips or comments?

 

[nihil]

good question. i'm going to be commuting to school next year and i'm kind of curious if it's gonna be hard to meet new people. seeing as how i have no friends right now. also, anyone majoring in CS. are there a lot of girls in your classes or is it pretty much mostly guys?

 

[pulse8]

Yes. It is harder to meet people when you commute, but just put forth more effort.

 

[mmesker]

Umm, how 'bout you stop commuting to school? You'll meet tons of people hangin' out in the dorms for a year or two (or three or four for myself).

 

[nihil]

<< Umm, how 'bout you stop commuting to school? You'll meet tons of people hangin' out in the dorms for a year or two (or three or four for myself). >>



i don't think that is an option, i know it's not for myself. seeing as how the school is 20 mins away. why would i want to live on campus?

 

[notfred]

College is not like high school. there is no communal "lunch" or "break". People come, go to thier classes, and leave. In the dorms it's different cause everyone's in the same building, they eat at the same place, and they share the same study rooms. you spend a lot more time with other people this way, then if you go home by yourself after your classes.

 

[notfred]

<< why would i want to live on campus? >>



um, to meet people, dumbass.

 

[b0mbrman]

<< Is it me or is it really hard to meet people in college when you commute? I mean, I meet people casually but havent got the chance to really get to know anyone. College is about meeting people and so far so bad. High school was much easier for me. Any tips or comments? >>


study in the library, join a bunch of clubs, go after ugly chicks...

 

[amnesiac]

<< why would i want to live on campus? >>



Because then you won't have the problem with meeting people. It's DEFINITELY worth living on campus, even if just for a year. If I commuted for my whole college run I'd have no friends. All my best friends here have been ones I've lived around. You'd be giving yourself a serious handicap by commuting.



<< i don't think that is an option, i know it's not for myself. seeing as how the school is 20 mins away. >>


Your point being...? My permanent home is 25 minutes away from school but I live near campus anyway for the above reasons. Not to mention I can wake up 5 minutes before class starts

 

[nihil]

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<< why would i want to live on campus? >>



um, to meet people, dumbass. >>



um, i can't afford to live on campus, dumbass.

 

[notfred]

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<< why would i want to live on campus? >>



um, to meet people, dumbass. >>



um, i can't afford to live on campus, dumbass. >>



Well, you didn't say you couldn't afford to live on campus, you said you wouldn't WANT to live on campus.

 

[nihil]

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<< why would i want to live on campus? >>



um, to meet people, dumbass. >>



um, i can't afford to live on campus, dumbass. >>



Well, you didn't say you couldn't afford to live on campus, you said you wouldn't WANT to live on campus. >>



i also said it wasn't an option.

 

[notfred]

i don't think that is an option... seeing as how the school is 20 mins away. <-- does not infer anything about your ability to pay for it

 

[nihil]

<< i don't think that is an option... seeing as how the school is 20 mins away. <-- does not infer anything about your ability to pay for it >>



sorry, let me reconstruct that post for you.


i don't think that is an option, seeing as how i cannot afford it. furthermore, i don't think it would make much sense considering i only live about 20 minutes away from campus.

^^^much better.

 

[eakers]

its hard but it takes a lotta effort. for me the key was taking the ppl i knew only from class and doing stuff outside of class with them more and more often and meeting their friends and friends of friends etc.

joining clubs works great too

*kat. <-- really regrets not living in res.

 

[Hoeboy]

snice you live pretty close, why don't you try to hang at the university more? eat there, study there, etc. when you meet people, ask them where they study, hang out on campus etc.

 

[oLLie]

I commute and look at how I....

wait...

forget it.

Ollie

 

[StattlichPassat]

Yeah, move into the dorms and have some REAL fun. (seriously)

I'm in a Coed dorm- it rocks.

 

[ElFenix]

do you live in a complex? large college apartment complexes are a good way... its almost like living in the dorms.

 

[areohbe]

i just transferred to UC Davis and i commute from Sacramento and it really is harder to meet new people. I mean i know a few folks from UC Davis but mostly i hang out with the people i met from the school i transferred from. But it is my first quarter so things should look up.

Plus, living at home and living on campus is a huge financial difference. just because the option of living on campus is available doesn't mean he can take it. He might be strapped financially like me and have to commute from home to be able to afford to go to the school. Financial aid doesn't help out everyone (i just learned this)

 

[troglodytis]

yes, it is harder, but you can do it.

clubs/student organizations are a great idea.

get together w/ classmates in study groups. you'll learn more and get a chance to get to know people.

library is good as well.

try eatting lunch at school the same time everyday. eventually you'll find someone you can strike up a conversation with.



i've commuted and lived on campuss as different schools. 2nd quater/semester has always seemed to be better for me in terms of friends/social life.

get envolved, do things you like to do with other people that like to do those things. the important things is to make yourself available for the opportunaty of friendship w/o trying too hard.

 

[GiGoLo]

<< are there a lot of girls in your classes or is it pretty much mostly guys? >>


don't get your hopes up about finding a lot of girls in cs

anyway, about the commuter thing... personally, and i don't mean to offend anyone, but i think that's a really lame excuse for not meeting people. most of the people i know (the ones who aren't in frats/sororities) dont make their friends in the dorms, they make their friends in classes and clubs, stuff like that. i personally live in apartment way off campus and have no problem whatsoever making new friends. if anything, i would say what makes it slightly difficult is how 90% of the students in the CS program are kinda freaky neways, my point is, it shouldn't take any more effort to make friends then it would living in a dorm. most people i know hate their dorm neighbors and stuff neway.

 

[Spoooon]

Just don't make friends. You'll have better grades and more money by the time you graduate.

 

[nihil]

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<< are there a lot of girls in your classes or is it pretty much mostly guys? >>


don't get your hopes up about finding a lot of girls in cs

anyway, about the commuter thing... personally, and i don't mean to offend anyone, but i think that's a really lame excuse for not meeting people. most of the people i know (the ones who aren't in frats/sororities) dont make their friends in the dorms, they make their friends in classes and clubs, stuff like that. i personally live in apartment way off campus and have no problem whatsoever making new friends. if anything, i would say what makes it slightly difficult is how 90% of the students in the CS program are kinda freaky neways, my point is, it shouldn't take any more effort to make friends then it would living in a dorm. most people i know hate their dorm neighbors and stuff neway. >>



cs students are freaky in what way? you should see me.

 

[thawolfman]

i've been saying the same thing for the past two years that i've been commuting