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Leros

Leros

Lifer
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I'm in college, living 400 miles from my family. I was planning on going home for Christmas on the 23rd.

Today my dad calls me up and says he planned out a vacation for us. First of all, nobody likes the idea but him. He wants to drive to Los Angeles (1200 mile away), go to DisneyLand for a few days, then drive home. Nobody wants to go to DisneyLand and nobody wants to drive to LA.

Besides that, his plan requires that I come home earlier than I had planned on. I'm have to hop in the car immediately after a final exam, drive 400 miles home. If I'm lucky I'll get there around 2am. Then we're gonna leave for our drive the next day at 6am. That sucks for me.

So I'm gonna drive home exhausted late at night, get a few hours of sleep, and get into a car and drive 1200 miles to LA.

I hate driving long distances, I hate DisneyLand. I had plans with people in my hometown to do stuff, which I am now going to have to bail on.

My little sister called me up later tonight, crying that she doesn't want to go on this trip. I really don't understand why we are doing it. He's real stuck on doing it and has already paid for hotels and such.

Does this seem unreasonable? Either way, I'm currently angry.
 
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Saint Michael

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You'll get little sympathy. Most people here are obsessed with claiming the father is always right.
 
Maleficus

Maleficus

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Yes it seems like he is being selfish assuming no one else wants to go and you are not exaggerating.
 
Leros

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Originally posted by: Maleficus
Yes it seems like he is being selfish assuming no one else wants to go and you are not exaggerating.
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I know I'm being a bit selfish and whiny here, but nonetheless. The thing that concerns me the most is this part

So I'm gonna drive home exhausted late at night, get a few hours of sleep, and get into a car and drive 1200 miles to LA.
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I don't necessarily want to kill myself driving home exhausted.
 
Platypus

Platypus

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Sounds like your father just wants to spend some family time but is approaching the situation in the wrong manner.

Call him and explain the situation to him objectively and suggest a local alternative where you can spend some quality family time.

I'm not defending his cavalier decision.. but try to remember that family comes first no matter what.
 
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mooglemania85

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Woohoo! Family vacation!

Sucks, but sounds like you're stuck going if he's already paid $$$ for this trip. Have fun at Wally World.

Dunno bout your family life. Is this going to the last family vacation your dad will get to go on with his "kids?"



Originally posted by: PlatypusI'm not defending his cavalier decision.. but try to remember that family comes first no matter what.
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Yes. It would be a shame if your dad had you whacked while out fishing on the lake.
 
Maleficus

Maleficus

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Originally posted by: Leros
Originally posted by: Maleficus
Yes it seems like he is being selfish assuming no one else wants to go and you are not exaggerating.
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I know I'm being a bit selfish and whiny here, but nonetheless. The thing that concerns me the most is this part

So I'm gonna drive home exhausted late at night, get a few hours of sleep, and get into a car and drive 1200 miles to LA.
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I don't necessarily want to kill myself driving home exhausted.
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I guess I should clarify, I was saying your father is being selfish if he is forcing everyone to go along assuming he is the only one who truly wants to go. I find it hard to believe that no one else wants to go, especially a 12 year old girl.

My sister is 25 and every year she tries to get the family to go back to disneyland/world. :D
 
Leros

Leros

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Originally posted by: coldmeat
She's 12 and doesn't want to go to Disneyland?
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She said last time she went it wasn't that much fun. I remember having the same feelings when I was about her age. There were a few things there that were cool, but I was pretty much done with the place in 4 hours.

Christmas might be different. I don't what they do at Christmas time.

Hmm... got me thinking. Is the place going to be extremely crowded? He wants to go on Christmas Eve day and Christmas.
 
zinfamous

zinfamous

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I say go for it. sounds like the beginnings of a hilarious adventure ripped off of a well-known 80s comedy.

...is your dad Clark Griswold?
 
Skunkwourk

Skunkwourk

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Its not very practical, but to me the bigger issue seems to be that your father is trying to spend some quality time as a whole family and his eagerness might be causing him to overlook everything else. I'd try and suck it up or at least compromise. Maybe you can try asking him if he can delay it one day so you can get there safe. Thats my suggestion anyway.

Maybe Im the minority here, but my dad is somewhat similar. He always tried to plan trips as a "nice" gesture without any of our consent, and if there was any objection he became offended. Childish but yeah, even grownups can be sometimes. So I can understand your frustration, but your dad is just trying to be nice in my opinion.

EDIT: Couldn't agree more with my fellow Platypus, Platypus
 
Skeeedunt

Skeeedunt

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Sounds like a pretty shitty vacation. I don't know much about your dad, but I'd either give him credit for trying to get in some family time or some shit for being such a dick. Your call.
 
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Corporate Thug

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Originally posted by: Leros
I'm in college, living 400 miles from my family. I was planning on going home for Christmas on the 23rd.

Today my dad calls me up and says he planned out a vacation for us. First of all, nobody likes the idea but him. He wants to drive to Los Angeles (1200 mile away), go to DisneyLand for a few days, then drive home. Nobody wants to go to DisneyLand and nobody wants to drive to LA.

Besides that, his plan requires that I come home earlier than I had planned on. I'm have to hop in the car immediately after a final exam, drive 400 miles home. If I'm lucky I'll get there around 2am. Then we're gonna leave for our drive the next day at 6am. That sucks for me.

So I'm gonna drive home exhausted late at night, get a few hours of sleep, and get into a car and drive 1200 miles to LA.

I hate driving long distances, I hate DisneyLand. I had plans with people in my hometown to do stuff, which I am now going to have to bail on.

My little sister called me up later tonight, crying that she doesn't want to go on this trip. I really don't understand why we are doing it. He's real stuck on doing it and has already paid for hotels and such.

Does this seem unreasonable? Either way, I'm currently angry.
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1. you can sleep on the 1200 trek
2. roadtrips can be a lot of fun
3. its nice that he is trying to do a family thing
4. you should go.
 
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RichardE

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Originally posted by: Corporate Thug
Originally posted by: Leros
I'm in college, living 400 miles from my family. I was planning on going home for Christmas on the 23rd.

Today my dad calls me up and says he planned out a vacation for us. First of all, nobody likes the idea but him. He wants to drive to Los Angeles (1200 mile away), go to DisneyLand for a few days, then drive home. Nobody wants to go to DisneyLand and nobody wants to drive to LA.

Besides that, his plan requires that I come home earlier than I had planned on. I'm have to hop in the car immediately after a final exam, drive 400 miles home. If I'm lucky I'll get there around 2am. Then we're gonna leave for our drive the next day at 6am. That sucks for me.

So I'm gonna drive home exhausted late at night, get a few hours of sleep, and get into a car and drive 1200 miles to LA.

I hate driving long distances, I hate DisneyLand. I had plans with people in my hometown to do stuff, which I am now going to have to bail on.

My little sister called me up later tonight, crying that she doesn't want to go on this trip. I really don't understand why we are doing it. He's real stuck on doing it and has already paid for hotels and such.

Does this seem unreasonable? Either way, I'm currently angry.
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1. you can sleep on the 1200 trek
2. roadtrips can be a lot of fun
3. its nice that he is trying to do a family thing
4. you should go.
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/agree
 
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TheNewbie

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Jul 17, 2007
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It was unreasonable to post such a vague topic which gave me no indication of what this thread is about, I came it out of curiosity, found out its a dumb thread, and thought to myself, oh well, at least I'll let him know how I feel.

</bitching >
 
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puffff

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Just go and try to enjoy it.

Think how you'd feel if you planned a surprise vacation for someone you really cared about, with good intentions, only to find your efforts were totally wasted and you've made everyone angry.

If you're dead set against it, try to discuss it with im, but be nice about it. Explain how you really appreciate his consideration, but it's difficult for you logistically, and suggest an alternative 'family event'.
 
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