is this okay?: an ex boyfriend question.

[eakers]

my exboyfriend (we were together 3.5 years, broke up over a month ago) is spending alotta time with a girl who used to be a mutual friend (she has since stopped speaking to me). when questioned, he stated that they were just friends now, but he didnt know where the future could go. ((which i take to mean that he likes her)).

i like his friend and they are still friends. i mean i like this boy, a lot and im pretty sure he likes me back. i was really hesitant about doing something about it as they are friends and i dont want to come between that. but really? should i even care about their friendship now that he is dating a girl that used to be my friend?

furthermore, do i only like this boy because im lonely and feel the need to replace all my feelings for my ex onto someone else? i dont want to do that, i want to like gavin because hes such an amazing person, not because im lonely.

should i just i just stop caring about everybody else and do what i want no matter who gets hurt?

*kat. <-- has a crush.

edit: you should prolley know that me and the ex are still good friends and hang out all the time.

 

[glen]

Don't date his friend.
Its too messy.
Wait a bit, someone will turn up...you're pretty!

 

[Scrapster]

If you want to "get over" your ex, don't date his good friend.

 

[Tauren]

If you like him, go for it. Don't worry about who gets hurt in a situation like that, maturity should prevail and everyone will be just fine.

 

[Stumps]

Hmmm don't know , I have never been dumped, but it sounds like you should take some time to sort your self out first, before you start another relationship

 

[Poontos]

Life is too short to worry about what your ex-bf's (or gf's in other cases) is doing, specfically relationship wise.

There are LOTS more guys out there, believe me (too many of them actually). So spend more time with your
girlfriends and have a good time. You are too young to waste your life on a gf/bf relationship, enjoy your youth!

 

[bunker]

Well, my opinion is if you want to keep your ex as a friend I wouldn't date his friend. Guys get reaaaalllllyyyy ticked about stuff like that, at least I did when one of my exes in college dated one of my friends. All of our mutual friends (my friend that dated my ex) and I pretty much broke off communication with both of them. It's this stupid code thing that guys seem to have...

 

[hevnsnt]

I wouldnt listen to an adverage guy like stumps.. hehe j/k man.

 

[glen]

<-------single

 

[Stumps]

Hey no body listens to me any way..... I guess that's why I'm average

 

[GL]

Have you observed the 3 month rule? I've got this rule...don't even think about dating somebody long-term for 3 months after a long-term relationship ends. Then, observe the secondary 3 month rule. Once you get back into dating, just keep it casual for 3 months before you start moving into another serious relationship.

My advice to you? Don't date for a while...go find something to keep yourself occupied like a sport or something.

When you enter a potential long-term relationship, the last thing you want on your mind is baggage from your last one. That's a disaster waiting to happen.

 

[hungrypete]

don't worry about it. If you guys are broken up, all is fair. Young people are allowed to make mistakes and date the wrong people and still have fun. Live it up, just try to minimize friendship casualties

 

[SuperCyrix]

Remember the three F's and you'll have nothing to worry about.

Find em, F*$k em, and Flee

 

[Bellweather]

When I stopped my a 2 year relationship with my abit kt7 four months ago, I quickly went out and picked up an epox 8k7a because I had gotten so used to living my life with a motherboard. Now I'm pining for something else, since the 8k7a was simply a quick fix. One of these days I'm going to have to break it off...

 

[Stumps]

huh????

 

[pulse8]

Sounds like a recipe for disaster. I'd stay away from all of them and possibly find some new friends. It can be tough, but it can also save you a lot of grief! Just somethin' to think about.

Good luck, Eaks!

 

[Stumps]

Sounds like good advice to me

 

[Nitemare]

kat

All is fair in love and war. I say go for it.

He is probably already banging your friend anyway. So what is the harm in testing the waters with a friend of his. If it doesn't work out, you always have a steady supply of ATOT'ers here for you.

 

[jonMEGA]

<<
Wait a bit, someone will turn up...you're pretty! >>



pics ??

 

[Yzzim]

<< When I stopped my a 2 year relationship with my abit kt7 four months ago, I quickly went out and picked up an epox 8k7a because I had gotten so used to living my life with a motherboard. Now I'm pining for something else, since the 8k7a was simply a quick fix. One of these days I'm going to have to break it off... >>


LOL!

 

[Rent]

Well, my now ex dated a circle of friends before me. She told me she regretted ever doing so.

<--- still loves his ex

 

[Stumps]

Hey I might be up for a new GF soon... How about it?

 

[Poontos]

I get first Dibs... I live in Ontario, and I know where Cambridge is!

 

[Stumps]

Bull, I live in Australia, I have no idea where cambridge is

 

[GL]

I thought of something else...

When you were going out with your ex, would you consider breaking up with him to start dating this new guy? If the answer is no, I suggest not dating the new guy...your emotions are probably too overwhelming for you to make much sense of them right now.

Right by asking this question and answering no, you're really saying that your ex was a better fit for you (ok no sexual conotation in that) than this new guy. Not only did this new guy not stand up to your love meter/criteria/standards then, but the guy who did, you've broken up with. Always look to progress...you need to meet a guy that exceeds your last bf, not one who came runner-up. And I'm not saying this like guys are cars or something, but rather saying "better" as in the guy that's better suitied to you, your personality and your life.