is this obsessive? always wanting to hangout with people?

[platinumike]

in my earlier years, i had alot of distant friends, but hardly ever did anything, only like major events like a concert or some other event, never just kicked it. Now, Iam seeing alot of people that i knew a few years ago, and i want to chill/talk with just about every one of them, but not just once like a few times a week.

Like 2 weeks ago, my friend came down with a group of his friends that i knew somewhat back in HighSchool, and like everyday that week I was hanging out with one of um, be it lunch,dinner, at work, etc. IS this obsessive? heres my problem, see its been about 1.5 weeks since i did anything with them, Im just wondering, if i am either being the pest and annoying them or are they just waiting for me to call thinking iam the outgoing one, because i just realized, i was the one who called in all theese situations. Am i being to obsessive?

 

[Juice Box]

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[quakefiend420]

well...if they aren't calling you and are still going and doing things...i think theres your answer

 

[quakefiend420]

Originally posted by: Juice Box
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[Juice Box]

Originally posted by: quakefiend420

Originally posted by: Juice Box
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[platinumike]

Originally posted by: quakefiend420
well...if they aren't calling you and are still going and doing things...i think theres your answer

so... should i just see if they call or not? and if they dont just maybe hangout once in a blue moon? also, I used to be on the opposite end of the situation, my friend would always call me to chill, i would never call him, yet he's the coolest dude i ever met. Now I call him, and he's always at work..gggrr..

 

[AreaCode707]

Originally posted by: platinumike

Originally posted by: quakefiend420
well...if they aren't calling you and are still going and doing things...i think theres your answer

so... should i just see if they call or not? and if they dont just maybe hangout once in a blue moon? also, I used to be on the opposite end of the situation, my friend would always call me to chill, i would never call him, yet he's the coolest dude i ever met. Now I call him, and he's always at work..gggrr..

As long as they're saying yes when you call and everybody's having fun, why are you worried about "obsessive" and "normal" behavior? Who cares?

 

[mercanucaribe]

They don't like you. It's hard to admit you are the outgoing guy who annoys everyone else, but you've taken the first step in posting this thread.

 

[PHiuR]

Originally posted by: mercanucaribe
They don't like you. It's hard to admit you are the outgoing guy who annoys everyone else, but you've taken the first step in posting this thread.

:light:

 

[Patt]

Stop using 'like' so much and maybe they'll want to hang out, like, with you.

 

[LordNoob]

How old are you?

 

[meltdown75]

it's not obsessive. maybe it seems weird b/c you didn't get out as much when you were younger. not much tops hanging with the buds when you get into your mid and upper teens, does it? friends pretty much define your high school and college years, in a way - so it's obvious you'll be spending a little more time with people and "getting out of the nest", so to speak... pretty normal to spend the lion's share of your spare time with friends in this phase, imho... as you get older (well, in my case anyway) things definitely dwindle down ie. i have a handful of solid friendships and a lot of friends / acquaintances. i aim for a nice balance of friend / wife / solo time, but probably fall into the solo mode a little more often than most because i'm an introverted computer geek and my wife is damn busy.

anyhoo no i don't find it strange and / or obsessive. by all means, get out there and be social.