Tonight I went to a basketball game, and then took my sister and one of her friends home. We grabbed something to eat, and as we were talking it turns out that her friends bf was having a party at his house, do we want to go? This is approximately 11:00. So we end up going, and it turns out he lives way out, 45 min- 1 hr. So around midnight we stopped and called my mom to tell her where we were and what was going on. She immediately insists we come home. So, since we had driven for a while, we stayed at the party for a few more minutes. Pretty much sucked, just a sausage party with a bunch of guys I didn't know. So after about five minutes we leave, and I get home at quarter to 2. No drinking, no smoking, nothing. So when I get home, my mother is livid. Pissed off completely. Now keep in mind, I'm pretty much a nerd, someone who on a Friday night wonders what's on tv, so this is a pretty far departure from what I normally do. Anyways, do you think I screwed up, or do you think that in the grand sheme of things, this is nothing?
Is this a big deal?
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I think you've set the standard already that your mom judges you by.
By never going out, you've made it so she is freaked when you do.
Solution? Go out more! (Not kidding) Let her get used to you having a social life outside ATOT
By never going out, you've made it so she is freaked when you do.
Solution? Go out more! (Not kidding) Let her get used to you having a social life outside ATOT
MichaelD
Lifer
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She was just worried about you...found out you were going to a party with your sister and her female friend...she was worried you'd all get drunk, the girls would wind up w/their panties around their ankles and you'd get picked up for DUI on the way home.
Don't worry about it. Soon, you can move out and pay for EVERYTHING yourself and come home at whatever damn time and in whatever damn condition you please!!!! All for the low, low monthly price of oh...every damn penny you make.
Don't worry about it. Soon, you can move out and pay for EVERYTHING yourself and come home at whatever damn time and in whatever damn condition you please!!!! All for the low, low monthly price of oh...every damn penny you make.
Did you ask why it wasn't ok to go to the party? That might explain her side of things...from my POV you called her and told her where you were going...pretty responsible on your part (not when she told you not to go but oh well)
Tell her to lighten up. Insist that the next time she gets mad at you, you will drink, smoke cigarettes and marijuana, and engage in sexual intercourse with many partners.
Just go out more.
-silver
Just go out more.
-silver
All these responses are pretty much along the lines of what I thought. I'm not super ATOT geek, I usually go out at least once a weekend, but it rarely goes past 11. I was just wondering if anyone who is a parent themselves might have a different view.
Last year and in the summer I would pretty much be out late everyday (if summer) or on teh weekend. Initially parents said no to coming late, even once I got home at 2AM and my mom was standing by the door. But then after a while they get used to it. They still tell me not to come too late, but when I do they don't say much.
They im gonna come late, and they just say not to for the sake of it. However I don't drink or anything and they know my friends pretty well (only a few drink) so its ok on that grounds.
They im gonna come late, and they just say not to for the sake of it. However I don't drink or anything and they know my friends pretty well (only a few drink) so its ok on that grounds.
datalink7
Lifer
- Jan 23, 2001
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If you are still in HS (which I think is correct reading your post), you should have told her before you went, not once you got there. She is responsible for you and needs to know where you are at. Then she could have voiced her concern before you left. Maybe she had been worried where you were at for hours?
If you aren't still in HS... why are you still living at home?
If you aren't still in HS... why are you still living at home?
dahunan
Lifer
- Jan 10, 2002
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My guess is...
You went to a party without telling her anything beforehand
You called at 12..(OK for some parents) BUT you were at least one hour away when you called
Some parents want to know in advance when you plan to drive that far away....
It doesn't matter what you were doing.. coming home at 2am is very scary for any parent-they stay awake until you get home because they are worried about your safety.
When you called at 12 did you tell her that you were approximately 1 hour from home? She may have thought you were only 30 mins away and would be home at around 12:45--imagine how scared whe was when you didn't get home til 2am---
You went to a party without telling her anything beforehand
You called at 12..(OK for some parents) BUT you were at least one hour away when you called
Some parents want to know in advance when you plan to drive that far away....
It doesn't matter what you were doing.. coming home at 2am is very scary for any parent-they stay awake until you get home because they are worried about your safety.
When you called at 12 did you tell her that you were approximately 1 hour from home? She may have thought you were only 30 mins away and would be home at around 12:45--imagine how scared whe was when you didn't get home til 2am---
Your only option now is to go out and get wasted, then come home and pass out after telling your mom that you're a man and she can't tell you what to do.
BrunoPuntzJones
Lifer
- Feb 24, 2001
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Just be glad that you have someone who cares and worry about you. She may have overreacted but only because she loved you enough to be concerned about your well being.
Put yourself in her shoes, you'd be very worried too, especially if your child is out past midnight. Most of the parents are very forgiving of their children, and this will blow over very quick.
Next time, just make sure you have a good communication with her, just let her know every now and then that you are alright, and that you will be home at certain time, and If you think
you'll be home later than expected, just a simple phone call will put her at ease.
Good communication works just fine with my daughters and us, they understand that we are very concerned about their safety, so they always keep us abreast of their plans.
Put yourself in her shoes, you'd be very worried too, especially if your child is out past midnight. Most of the parents are very forgiving of their children, and this will blow over very quick.
Next time, just make sure you have a good communication with her, just let her know every now and then that you are alright, and that you will be home at certain time, and If you think
you'll be home later than expected, just a simple phone call will put her at ease.
Good communication works just fine with my daughters and us, they understand that we are very concerned about their safety, so they always keep us abreast of their plans.
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