- Nov 2, 1999
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About a month ago, my 19 year old friend started dating Johanna, a 17 year old girl He met online through AIM. Her birthday arrived one week later, and of course Ken drags me along. Although there were a few guys at the party, ratio of girls to guys was about 4 to 1 (
). It was shaping up to be better then first expected. So there I am, having a great time - the whole while hoping I might hook up with a 17-18 year old hottie. I was getting vibes from a few directions, but one girl in particular caught my attention. Taryn is only a few inches shorter then me, at approximately 5'8", has beautiful eyes and a very sweet smile. Although we didn't talk very much that night, I had the feeling we would again very soon. Less then one week later I was browsing around on AT, when an AIM message pops up. "Hey Danny, this is Taryn," she said. We hit it off right away, chatting for hours on end every night for the next several days. It seems that we have quite a bit in common, and share a similar sense of humor, style, and interests. When your best friend is dating her best friend, information gets around. I soon found out that she is obsessed with me, and hasn't been thinking or talking about much else as of late. Getting the first date is basically a sure thing.
So you're probably wondering, what the problem is. Things seem to be going really well, right? Well I come to find out that she is only 16 years, 7 months old. I was rather shocked, under the impression that she couldn't be less then 17. She's mentally and physically equal to the average 18 year old. The big kicker, my age-o-meter rolled over to the big 20 a mere few weeks ago.
Now let me explain something - I was born prematurely, and have always been physically about two to two and a half years behind my peers. At 16, I looked 13 - at 18, people would often ask what high school I attended. Now that I've forever left my teen years behind, I get mixed results in the "how old do I look" department. Some figure I'm no more then 17, other's have the impression that I'm older then 21. They seem surprised when I have to call for a liquor override. (
) I personally agree with most, eighteen tops. I suppose that I'd look a bit older if I let my facial hair grow out, but the look really doesn't fit me. Besides, a lot of chicks seem to dig the baby face thing. This may be off topic, but here's a picture of me at hot or not dot com. (note: I totally shocked myself with a final score of 9.3
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Ken is encouraging me to pursue a relationship with Taryn. He reasons, "age is only a number" and points out that she is physically and mentally far more mature then the average 16 year old. Furthermore, He seems to think my dating her would be okay, as long as we don't get sexually intimate. I wouldn't have a problem with keeping the snake in it's cage until she's eighteen and/or the eventual possibility of marriage. She's a real sweetie, so on one hand I'm seriously considering making a move. On the other, there's nearly a three and a half year age difference between the two of us. Several years down the road, most will consider such an age difference no big deal - many married couples are seperated in age by several years. Then again, at 16 she's still considered a minor and I am nearly old enough to legally buy alcohol.
All of this to ask your advice on my situation. Is she too young? Should I give the "let's be friends talk," or should I pursue an emotional and physical relationship greater then friendship?
The Plot Thickens:
On a side note, I've had a big time crush on a red headed hottie at work for nearly a year now. She's dropped a few hints that seem to suggest that she likes me (ala being called "sexxxY"), and I've caught her looking my way quite often. Then again she might be the type to flirt/tease. The only way to find out whether she's actually interested, is to ask her out. Why haven't I done so? You guessed it ... she's only a couple months older then Taryn.
So you're probably wondering, what the problem is. Things seem to be going really well, right? Well I come to find out that she is only 16 years, 7 months old. I was rather shocked, under the impression that she couldn't be less then 17. She's mentally and physically equal to the average 18 year old. The big kicker, my age-o-meter rolled over to the big 20 a mere few weeks ago.
Now let me explain something - I was born prematurely, and have always been physically about two to two and a half years behind my peers. At 16, I looked 13 - at 18, people would often ask what high school I attended. Now that I've forever left my teen years behind, I get mixed results in the "how old do I look" department. Some figure I'm no more then 17, other's have the impression that I'm older then 21. They seem surprised when I have to call for a liquor override. (
Ken is encouraging me to pursue a relationship with Taryn. He reasons, "age is only a number" and points out that she is physically and mentally far more mature then the average 16 year old. Furthermore, He seems to think my dating her would be okay, as long as we don't get sexually intimate. I wouldn't have a problem with keeping the snake in it's cage until she's eighteen and/or the eventual possibility of marriage. She's a real sweetie, so on one hand I'm seriously considering making a move. On the other, there's nearly a three and a half year age difference between the two of us. Several years down the road, most will consider such an age difference no big deal - many married couples are seperated in age by several years. Then again, at 16 she's still considered a minor and I am nearly old enough to legally buy alcohol.
All of this to ask your advice on my situation. Is she too young? Should I give the "let's be friends talk," or should I pursue an emotional and physical relationship greater then friendship?
The Plot Thickens:
On a side note, I've had a big time crush on a red headed hottie at work for nearly a year now. She's dropped a few hints that seem to suggest that she likes me (ala being called "sexxxY"), and I've caught her looking my way quite often. Then again she might be the type to flirt/tease. The only way to find out whether she's actually interested, is to ask her out. Why haven't I done so? You guessed it ... she's only a couple months older then Taryn.