Is saving yourself for marriage usually because...

[alkemyst]

Just wondering as while there are a few that could get some action yet choose to remain a virgin...many I couldn't see anyone taking on except if the money was right or they had ran out of other options.

Just my thoughts.

Å

 

[Anubis]

because... nobody wants you?

yes alke that is why you are still a virgin

 

[yllus]

Not really. I know some near-model level of hotness Indian girls who are virgins because they're just too afraid to do something their parents might find out about. If they decided they wanted action, however, there would be a pileup outside their door.

 

[SP33Demon]

Alke did you just start signing your posts?

 

[PricklyPete]

For guys...most likely...

For girls...no

 

[Xavier434]

Originally posted by: Anubis

because... nobody wants you?

yes alke that is why you are still a virgin

:laugh:

HAHA! I almost spit out my coffee. I'm sorry alkemyst. No hard feelings. :beer:

 

[Gamingphreek]

I'm sure if I went to parties and what not I'm sure it wouldn't take too long. I am saving myself for that one special girl whom God has planned for me in my life-- and it is going to be worth the wait I'm sure

 

[TallBill]

Maybe. Waiting is a terrible idea; it makes you question what other women would be like.

 

[JulesMaximus]

Originally posted by: Gamingphreek
I'm sure if I went to parties and what not I'm sure it wouldn't take too long. I am saving myself for that one special girl whom God has planned for me in my life-- and it is going to be worth the wait I'm sure

Yeah...good luck with that.

 

[bignateyk]

Originally posted by: Gamingphreek
I'm sure if I went to parties and what not I'm sure it wouldn't take too long. I am saving myself for that one special girl whom God has planned for me in my life-- and it is going to be worth the wait I'm sure

Except for the fact that you'll be terrible at sex to start out with. Although if you get a girl who is also saving herself she won't know any different.

I've got myself a born again christian and DAMN... she's a freak in bed. I think she has the kama sutra memorized. You'd never suspect it either. She is completely innocent, and the perfect girl to take home to mom.

edit: My sister saved herself for marriage. She was with her husband for 7 years before they got married. I feel bad for my brother in law Oh well... at least he's getting some now.

 

[TallBill]

Originally posted by: bignateyk

Originally posted by: Gamingphreek
I'm sure if I went to parties and what not I'm sure it wouldn't take too long. I am saving myself for that one special girl whom God has planned for me in my life-- and it is going to be worth the wait I'm sure

Except for the fact that you'll be terrible at sex to start out with. Although if you get a girl who is also saving herself she won't know any different.

I've got myself a born again christian and DAMN... she's a freak in bed. I think she has the kama sutra memorized. You'd never suspect it either. She is completely innocent, and the perfect girl to take home to mom.

edit: My sister saved herself for marriage. She was with her husband for 7 years before they got married. I feel bad for my brother in law Oh well... at least he's getting some now.

I hope your mom reads anandtech.

 

[TruePaige]

Some people like to make sure you won't leave with marriage before having sex.

Then by the time you realize you will have a horrible sex life, and have to be with a person that has severe intimacy issues for the rest of your long...LONG life, it's too late. =p

You should want and need each other emotionally, physically, and spiritually, before you get married, not after.

 

[mooseracing]

Originally posted by: TallBill
Maybe. Waiting is a terrible idea; it makes you question what other women would be like.

I do that all the time and I didn't wait. Of course I also notice I am one of those people that the grass is almost always greener on the other side.

 

[hiromizu]

relevant?

 

[Gamingphreek]

Originally posted by: bignateyk

Originally posted by: Gamingphreek
I'm sure if I went to parties and what not I'm sure it wouldn't take too long. I am saving myself for that one special girl whom God has planned for me in my life-- and it is going to be worth the wait I'm sure

Except for the fact that you'll be terrible at sex to start out with. Although if you get a girl who is also saving herself she won't know any different.

I've got myself a born again christian and DAMN... she's a freak in bed. I think she has the kama sutra memorized. You'd never suspect it either. She is completely innocent, and the perfect girl to take home to mom.

edit: My sister saved herself for marriage. She was with her husband for 7 years before they got married. I feel bad for my brother in law Oh well... at least he's getting some now.

Yet another reason to wait. If you are with someone whom you love and you know you will love until "Death parts [you]" -- why should it matter? Plus if you both had the same mindset, that girl would be equally nervous.

As for what you say "you have". I seriously hope you treat her with more respect than you are giving her on the AT Forums here.

-Kevin

 

[JulesMaximus]

I had sex with a number of women before I married my wife and we had sex before we were married too...hell, we lived together for 2 years before we got married.

 

[lozina]

my opinion on waiting until marriage is best expressed by the following movie quote:

Grandpa: Are you gettin any? You can tell me. Are you gettin' any?
Dwayne: [shakes his head no]
Grandpa: Christ! what are you? 15? My God man! You gotta be gettin' that young stuff! The young stuff is the best stuff in the world. You're jail bait, they're jail bait. You turn sixteen and your looking at three to five.

 

[Xavier434]

Being compatible sexually is such a big part of any long term marriage. It is foolish not to explore and gain an understanding of your likes and dislikes with sex before getting married. All it does is add a big risk and stress to something that is already challenging enough to succeed in.

 

[bignateyk]

Originally posted by: Gamingphreek

Originally posted by: bignateyk

Originally posted by: Gamingphreek
I'm sure if I went to parties and what not I'm sure it wouldn't take too long. I am saving myself for that one special girl whom God has planned for me in my life-- and it is going to be worth the wait I'm sure

Except for the fact that you'll be terrible at sex to start out with. Although if you get a girl who is also saving herself she won't know any different.

I've got myself a born again christian and DAMN... she's a freak in bed. I think she has the kama sutra memorized. You'd never suspect it either. She is completely innocent, and the perfect girl to take home to mom.

edit: My sister saved herself for marriage. She was with her husband for 7 years before they got married. I feel bad for my brother in law Oh well... at least he's getting some now.

Yet another reason to wait. If you are with someone whom you love and you know you will love until "Death parts [you]" -- why should it matter? Plus if you both had the same mindset, that girl would be equally nervous.

As for what you say "you have". I seriously hope you treat her with more respect than you are giving her on the AT Forums here.

-Kevin

Why should it matter? Because there is more to love than just emotional and spiritual. I've been with people before who I had strong feelings for emotionally and spiritually, but we didn't "click" in bed. In order to truly love someone I think you need all three components. Most people with your mindset seem to think that the physical part can be worked on as an after-thought, when it is just as important as the others.

More respect? It's a complement to her. At least to those who don't view sex as some kind of taboo subject.

 

[Xavier434]

Originally posted by: Gamingphreek

Yet another reason to wait. If you are with someone whom you love and you know you will love until "Death parts [you]" -- why should it matter? Plus if you both had the same mindset, that girl would be equally nervous.

As for what you say "you have". I seriously hope you treat her with more respect than you are giving her on the AT Forums here.

-Kevin

I understand that you look towards the book for guidance and direction, but you really shouldn't let that stop you from listening to those who are far more experienced than you are. You have never been married and you have never had sex. You have no experience. If you ask the majority of people who are married and have been married for a while they will tell you how important being sexually compatible is especially in this day and age despite your love and commitment towards the woman. I'm not saying that your way doesn't work for some people and nor am I saying that you should do something which you do not believe is right, but just understand that the odds are against you if you continue walking this path.

 

[SP33Demon]

Originally posted by: bignateyk

Originally posted by: Gamingphreek

Originally posted by: bignateyk

Originally posted by: Gamingphreek
I'm sure if I went to parties and what not I'm sure it wouldn't take too long. I am saving myself for that one special girl whom God has planned for me in my life-- and it is going to be worth the wait I'm sure

Except for the fact that you'll be terrible at sex to start out with. Although if you get a girl who is also saving herself she won't know any different.

I've got myself a born again christian and DAMN... she's a freak in bed. I think she has the kama sutra memorized. You'd never suspect it either. She is completely innocent, and the perfect girl to take home to mom.

edit: My sister saved herself for marriage. She was with her husband for 7 years before they got married. I feel bad for my brother in law Oh well... at least he's getting some now.

Yet another reason to wait. If you are with someone whom you love and you know you will love until "Death parts [you]" -- why should it matter? Plus if you both had the same mindset, that girl would be equally nervous.

As for what you say "you have". I seriously hope you treat her with more respect than you are giving her on the AT Forums here.

-Kevin

Why should it matter? Because there is more to love than just emotional and spiritual. I've been with people before who I had strong feelings for emotionally and spiritually, but we didn't "click" in bed. In order to truly love someone I think you need all three components. Most people with your mindset seem to think that the physical part can be worked on as an after-thought, when it is just as important as the others.

More respect? It's a complement to her. At least to those who don't view sex as some kind of taboo subject.

Your argument is pointless, he's doing it because of God. I agree with you on the emotional/spiritual/physical though. I consider myself a Christian, but don't agree with the "premarital sex is bad" clause.

 

[Gamingphreek]

Originally posted by: bignateyk

Originally posted by: Gamingphreek

Originally posted by: bignateyk

Originally posted by: Gamingphreek
I'm sure if I went to parties and what not I'm sure it wouldn't take too long. I am saving myself for that one special girl whom God has planned for me in my life-- and it is going to be worth the wait I'm sure

Except for the fact that you'll be terrible at sex to start out with. Although if you get a girl who is also saving herself she won't know any different.

I've got myself a born again christian and DAMN... she's a freak in bed. I think she has the kama sutra memorized. You'd never suspect it either. She is completely innocent, and the perfect girl to take home to mom.

edit: My sister saved herself for marriage. She was with her husband for 7 years before they got married. I feel bad for my brother in law Oh well... at least he's getting some now.

Yet another reason to wait. If you are with someone whom you love and you know you will love until "Death parts [you]" -- why should it matter? Plus if you both had the same mindset, that girl would be equally nervous.

As for what you say "you have". I seriously hope you treat her with more respect than you are giving her on the AT Forums here.

-Kevin

Why should it matter? Because there is more to love than just emotional and spiritual. I've been with people before who I had strong feelings for emotionally and spiritually, but we didn't "click" in bed. In order to truly love someone I think you need all three components. Most people with your mindset seem to think that the physical part can be worked on as an after-thought, when it is just as important as the others.

More respect? It's a complement to her. At least to those who don't view sex as some kind of taboo subject.

I don't view it as a taboo subject.

Respect? You were openly flaunting that you have been having sex with a so called "born again Christian"!!

It matters for many reasons. Sex is a deep personal, spiritual, physical, and emotional connection. It shouldn't be so lightly thrown around.

As for not having pre-marital sex, I don't judge people who do, but it is my belief that is not what God intended.

Ephesians 5:3 says "But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God's holy people."

That is sexual immorality because the Bible defines sex and something between a man and a woman after they have been married.

That in mind, look in L&R's forum. Count the number of threads where people are posting about their significant other not putting out, or that the sex isn't good anymore, or something to that effect. Look at all the relationships in that forum where the two people are struggling based on sexual reasons.

-Kevin

 

[TruePaige]

Originally posted by: Xavier434
Being compatible sexually is such a big part of any long term marriage. It is foolish not to explore and gain an understanding of your likes and dislikes with sex before getting married. All it does is add a big risk and stress to something that is already challenging enough to succeed in.

I agree with you more every thread we both post in. :thumbsup:

 

[bignateyk]

Originally posted by: Gamingphreek


That in mind, look in L&R's forum. Count the number of threads where people are posting about their significant other not putting out, or that the sex isn't good anymore, or something to that effect. Look at all the relationships in that forum where the two people are struggling based on sexual reasons.

-Kevin

Better to find out your SO is gonna stop putting out before you get married than after.

edit: And having a relationship that struggles because of sex is just as valid as a relationship struggling for any other reason. If you wait until you get married to have sex it's not like those problems would just vanish. You're just waiting to uncover them until you're married and then you're screwed.

 

[Gamingphreek]

Originally posted by: Xavier434

Originally posted by: Gamingphreek

Yet another reason to wait. If you are with someone whom you love and you know you will love until "Death parts [you]" -- why should it matter? Plus if you both had the same mindset, that girl would be equally nervous.

As for what you say "you have". I seriously hope you treat her with more respect than you are giving her on the AT Forums here.

-Kevin

I understand that you look towards the book for guidance and direction, but you really shouldn't let that stop you from listening to those who are far more experienced than you are. You have never been married and you have never had sex. You have no experience. If you ask the majority of people who are married and have been married for a while they will tell you how important being sexually compatible is despite your love and commitment towards the woman. I'm not saying that your way doesn't work for some people and nor am I saying that you should do something which you do not believe is right, but just understand that the odds are against you if you continue walking this path.

I know it isn't easy. Not something you guys want to hear more than likely, but Jesus being crucified wasn't easy either.

Your argument is pointless, he's doing it because of God. I agree with you on the emotional/spiritual/physical though. I consider myself a Christian, but don't agree with the "premarital sex is bad" clause.

I don't mean to come off as rude or judgemental in anyway, but I honestly don't know how you can call yourself a Christian when you don't agree with God's word completely. The Bible, as you know, didn't say to believe part of its teachings. What don't you agree with about it? Not in anyway trying to mislead you, but I am curious and merely interested in the discussion.

I'm not doing it because of God. I'm doing it for God.

-Kevin