Is it wrong for a Father to teach his Son how to defend himself? I spent some ugly times when I was a kid, getting pushed and punched. I hate to think my Son may suffer through this also. Should I show him a couple tricks?
Is it wrong to teach your kids how to fight?
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Heck no. Either you teach him or he finds out on his own. Make sure you tell him not to start fights, only to finish them. Teach him that fighting dirty isn't bad. When you fight, you fight to win and there are no rules.
That's true, if you teach your kid a few tricks, he'll more than likely get a big head and be more prone to fuel an escalating fight rather than doing everything possible to stop it, like running away.
First of all, you should advise him on how to avoid those situations. You should also tell him that fights lead to more fights. Words are better than fists. If you teach him to fight, then he will be more inclined to use those skills and get himself in a fight.
Don't teach him to fight. Teach him to defend himself, preferably with words. Fighting is a childish way to resolve a situation.
Don't teach him to fight. Teach him to defend himself, preferably with words. Fighting is a childish way to resolve a situation.
how about you teach him that fighting at all is bad.
that whole thing of, "dont start fights, but end them" is just some macho way of saying "dont fight"
cut the macho crap and be down to earth, you know? Ever notice, growing up, there were kids who got in fights, and there were some kids, who NEVER, EVER, EVER, got in fights. My goal would be to guide my kid to be one of those kids. I got in fights when i was younger, not many, but a few, and though i didnt start them, i helped to instigate certain things. That should be avoided, i now have come to realize. Fighting is absolutely stupid, it is barbaric and only has a point if you give it one.
that whole thing of, "dont start fights, but end them" is just some macho way of saying "dont fight"
cut the macho crap and be down to earth, you know? Ever notice, growing up, there were kids who got in fights, and there were some kids, who NEVER, EVER, EVER, got in fights. My goal would be to guide my kid to be one of those kids. I got in fights when i was younger, not many, but a few, and though i didnt start them, i helped to instigate certain things. That should be avoided, i now have come to realize. Fighting is absolutely stupid, it is barbaric and only has a point if you give it one.
yes and no! Its ok to teach him how to fight if there's no other way to avoid trouble, just for defense. But if he's gonna do it to bully others, that's a different story, and that's where you come in!!!
My dad didn't teach me anything. And I was better off. But if your kid is getting pushed around. Maybe a little self-defense training would be good.
By all means, teach your child self defense.A defenseless person is a victim.If the person who stated that self-defense is macho,please walk through a rough neighborhood late at nightand practise your non-violent negotiating skills.
There is a difference between self-defense and stupidity.Sooner or later, most of us find ourselves in situations where we either have to defend ourselves, or run,or worse yet;become a victim of crime.
I personally feel that if a group of people tolerate bullying,by trying to analyze people and negotiate their way out of a difficult situation;that group is enabling the bully.They're actually encouraging his/her behaviour.
Everyone has certain rights,and others should not be allowed to infringe upon others' rights.If the majority runs away during a confrontation, than the minority (Thugs) gain all power. Is that what we want to teach our children?Passive acceptance of criminal activity?
There is a difference between self-defense and stupidity.Sooner or later, most of us find ourselves in situations where we either have to defend ourselves, or run,or worse yet;become a victim of crime.
I personally feel that if a group of people tolerate bullying,by trying to analyze people and negotiate their way out of a difficult situation;that group is enabling the bully.They're actually encouraging his/her behaviour.
Everyone has certain rights,and others should not be allowed to infringe upon others' rights.If the majority runs away during a confrontation, than the minority (Thugs) gain all power. Is that what we want to teach our children?Passive acceptance of criminal activity?
If you're REALLY worried about this, why not consider a Martial Art?
Not only will he learn self-defense, but also self-respect and discipline!
Not only will he learn self-defense, but also self-respect and discipline!
<< That's true, if you teach your kid a few tricks, he'll more than likely get a big head and be more prone to fuel an escalating fight rather than doing everything possible to stop it, like running away. >>
Yea, another possible outcome if he can't fist fight like a man should, is that he picks up a GUN.
Everyone should know how to defend themselves when they have no other choice.
I say a few years of martial arts should be mandatory in all schools.
i am one for martial arts, it is a defined way for self defense and disipline. that is one of the staples for the teaching. I found it very interesting on how calculated each move was and how purposeful it was to self defense.
I have taken karate and learned alot as to self defense and plan on very using it, but with that in mind there always seems to come a time where it is either u or them and no way out....it is times like that make me happy I took schooling or instructions on how to defend myself when there is not other solution.
If and when I have children they will be in some form of self defense...guaranteed !!!
lee
I have taken karate and learned alot as to self defense and plan on very using it, but with that in mind there always seems to come a time where it is either u or them and no way out....it is times like that make me happy I took schooling or instructions on how to defend myself when there is not other solution.
If and when I have children they will be in some form of self defense...guaranteed !!!
lee
Teach him how to self-defend himself! But as Namuna suggest, get him in martial arts. Not only will that teach him self defense, but also boost his self esteem and teach him discipline, and he'll be kept busy (you know what they say about idle hands).
I'm with leeland too, my kids are definitely going to learn a martial arts, whether it's a boy or girl (especially a girl).
I'm with leeland too, my kids are definitely going to learn a martial arts, whether it's a boy or girl (especially a girl).
Hmmm... i think your intentions are good but I don't think you should train him yourself. He might get the wrong idea and he may (or may not) use his new found knowledge of fighting to his advantage. Send him to a martial art school where they train him not only in self defense but also the displine of the mind + body.
Heh...my dad sat me down one time before I started middle school, and had the whole "fight" discussion with me. He was a bit of a rough-and-tumbler when he was growing up, so he imparted a few choice phrases unto me, such as, "If he's bigger than you, look around for anything to even it up. Broken bottle, pipe, dirt, whatever you can find."
And loe and behold, I've never had to use his advice. The only person I've ever gotten into a fight with is my brother, and that's just a mandatory part of growing up So yes, if you feel the need to teach your son how to defend himself, then go right ahead. It most likely won't increase his likelihood of starting fights and such, and will probably help him feel better about himself as well.
And loe and behold, I've never had to use his advice. The only person I've ever gotten into a fight with is my brother, and that's just a mandatory part of growing up
So yes, if you feel the need to teach your son how to defend himself, then go right ahead. It most likely won't increase his likelihood of starting fights and such, and will probably help him feel better about himself as well.If you know some "tricks" then by all means teach your child how to defend himself. If your just going to send him to some boxing or martial arts class, make it a family thing. Go with him. Teaching him yourself will give you two more time together and in the long run your son will appreciate that more than just sending him off to "another class."
Another vote for Martial Arts.
They'll teach him everything he needs to know about self defence, when to use it, when to run, etc, etc. That's what I did and it was very worth while.
They'll teach him everything he needs to know about self defence, when to use it, when to run, etc, etc. That's what I did and it was very worth while.
GasX
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If you feel that your son could benefit from knowing how to fight, send him to Karate, Tai Kwon Do, etc...
He will learn to defend himself and be taught the discipline not to abuse those skills. It has also been shown that kids studying martial arts do well in school...
He will learn to defend himself and be taught the discipline not to abuse those skills. It has also been shown that kids studying martial arts do well in school...
I would say it depends on the kid.
Teaching some kids how to fight would be a bad move.
However if the kid is responsible, I think it would be a good thing.
Teaching some kids how to fight would be a bad move.
However if the kid is responsible, I think it would be a good thing.
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