Is it wrong for me to hate and blame my sister for all the grief she has caused?

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Hoeboy

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My family came over to America in '84 hoping to achieve happiness and unity. But for the past 18 years, I've only begun to see a SLIGHT change in us becoming a real family. One of the reasons why it has taken us so long is my older sister. She's mentally unstable for the past 10 or so years. Each day is hell because of her. She's abusive to my parents, to herself, and everyone is really tired of her. But my mom keeps putting up with her sh!t and won't send her away because she feels sorry for her. And the result of all this is animosity within the family and a lot of anger.

I just had to call the cops on her a few minutes ago because she hit my dad and he fell to the ground. He's in his 80s so I panicked that he might be hurt. I'm really tired of this sh!t and I really loathe my sister. I hate how she has destroyed this family for so long and I hate my mom for allowing her to do so. Then I feel guilty for feeling this way because no one wants her to have mental problems and I try to understand that my mom kept her out of love. How the hell am I suppose to feel? :(
 
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Migroo

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Sounds like a difficult situation. You have my sympathy.

To be honest I dont know... Its hard to recommend something from a bystanders point of view.

You might want to decide whose happyness or safety means more to you. Not that I know much about the situation at all, but if you want to ensure your parents safety, then you might want to protect them in some way, which may involve seperation of your parents and your sister etc. This may make it safer for them in some way, but from what you have said your Mom might become unhappy because of that.

I dont think anyone can give you a straight answer as there doesnt seem to be any right or wrong :(

Just know that its natural to feel the way you do. Good luck.
 
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Wallydraigle

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You can't help how you feel, so don't beat yourself up over it. Your family needs help, and unfortunately you won't find it here. Hang in there, and I hope everything turns out well.
 
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hans007

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dude i dont know what to say. i guess we talked about this before, and my brother was kinda like that, but with a ton of medicaton its not so bad anymore. also your dad is in his 80s? wow, and you are like 20 something arent you?
 
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weezergirl

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wow, your family is so disfunctional. i think u've made a post complaining about every single one of your family members! :p

i dont' really know what to say. when it comes to asian families, psychological problems abound and rarely do they seek help.
 
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What you're feeling is normal. Understand that. I think what you should strive for is understanding why you feel the way you feel and why it's ok to feel that way. Try writing out your feelings or expressing them through art. You may want to find someone to talk to, who can help you sort out your feelings.

Also, is your sister getting any sort of care for her problems? Is your dad ok?
 
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Ameesh

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your sister hit your dad? ive never even heard of anything like that. I guess calling the cops was the right thing to do, but what the fvck are you doing on atot only a few minutes after shouldnt you be helping your dad and waiting for the cops, or making sure your sister doesnt hit him again?



honestly this smells like BS.
 
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Hoeboy

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Migroo, of course I favor my parents safety since they're old. Even though I'm in my 20s, I'm still considered young and know jacksh!t. So there's not really much I can do in terms of deciding what to do with my sister.

hans, yeah we talked about this. I'm glad your brother is feeling okay. I think the drugs started to stop working with my sister. And yeah it shocks me that my dad is that old too. Everyone thinks he's my grandpa. And to be honest, I sometimes question whether it's biologically possible... :(

weezer, I'm surprised someone kept count :p So far it's only my parents and this time my sister. Hopefully I won't have to bitch about anyone else :)

Azrael, my sister is on medication but that's about it.

Ameesh, the cops came and left. My dad didn't want to goto the hospital and my mom doesn't want them to arrest her. Not much to do.

Oh the lighter side, my mom said she's definately sending my sister away this Sunday. I feel somewhat better hearing this but I somehow got a real bad feeling she'll eventually miss my sister and want her to come back home.
 
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arod

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<< your sister hit your dad? ive never even heard of anything like that. I guess calling the cops was the right thing to do, but what the fvck are you doing on atot only a few minutes after shouldnt you be helping your dad and waiting for the cops, or making sure your sister doesnt hit him again?

honestly this smells like BS. >>



I dont know your family specifically but it sounds to me that you sister is on of those types that thinks shas a badass.... Why dont you shut her up by showign her shes not the badass she thinks she is? I know my brothers know whos boss... and they never piss me off because they know I can beat the crap outta them....
 
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Ameesh

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<< your sister hit your dad? ive never even heard of anything like that. I guess calling the cops was the right thing to do, but what the fvck are you doing on atot only a few minutes after shouldnt you be helping your dad and waiting for the cops, or making sure your sister doesnt hit him again?

honestly this smells like BS. >>



I dont know your family specifically but it sounds to me that you sister is on of those types that thinks shas a badass.... Why dont you shut her up by showign her shes not the badass she thinks she is? I know my brothers know whos boss... and they never piss me off because they know I can beat the crap outta them.... >>



guys should not hit women under any circumstances, just lock her in a closet if you have to but you become a piece of trash if you start hitting women.
 
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Hoeboy

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no i'm not gonna hit my sister.

and ameesh, what do u mean by BS? u think i'm making this up for amusement?
 
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weezergirl

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<< weezer, I'm surprised someone kept count :p So far it's only my parents and this time my sister. Hopefully I won't have to bitch about anyone else :) >>



no, im pretty sure you made a post about your brother or some other male in your family. it's ok tho, not keeping tabs, i just remember stupid details like this :p
 
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arod

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<< no i'm not gonna hit my sister.

and ameesh, what do u mean by BS? u think i'm making this up for amusement? >>



I reread my post and I didnt mean to suggest you hit her... but you need to learn how to deal with her because the cops cant protect you all the time...
 
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Ameesh

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<< no i'm not gonna hit my sister.

and ameesh, what do u mean by BS? u think i'm making this up for amusement? >>




Not for amusement but for your depravity, i think you just want some attention.


again why are you posting on this board go talk to you mom and dad and figure something out (if it really happened)
 
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IGBT

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Step up tp the plate and save your family...sometimes you have to cut off a finger to save a hand. Or risk loosing the hand.
 
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riddlebox

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yes, i hate my mother, stepfather, and half sister for all the grief they caused me.. i plan to get back at them by sending severed horse heads to their respective funerals instead of actually coming
 
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Miramonti

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Your mom sounds like an enabler. Your sis sounds like she's got definite problems but hasn't completely lost touch with reality tho. Maybe she needs to get charged if she hits your dad next time, or something like that, to hopefully scare her so she can keep things in perspective. Sorry to hear about the situation. People don't realize how good they got it until you see other people struggling with stuff like this. :(
 
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Gulzakar

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my mom said this to me the other day, thought it was funny...

"zach, you can never ever hit a woman, but you can always smack a b!tch"
 
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