is it true in relationships..

[Dumbledore]

that one person loves the other person more..from my experiences, it never seems like its an equal thing..amybe its just me.

 

[AndyHui]

Perhaps people have different ways of showing their love, rather than it being an unbalanced thing.

 

[Emulex]

In a utopian relationship, both love each other equally.

In an ideal relationshop, both love each other more than anything else in this world, to the best of their abilities..

In dysfunctional relationshops, one person loves the other more than the other loves them.

I don't see how love can be "weak" or "little" . I only see it as "absolute unconditional" in my eyes. ymmv

 

[Total Refected Power]

Typically men and woman express themselves in different manners but the level of affection is equivalent.

 

[Zucchini]

In dysfunctional relationshops, one person loves the other more than the other loves them.

more like reality better to be on the recieving end of more love though

 

[Cable God]

<< that one person loves the other person more..from my experiences, it never seems like its an equal thing..amybe its just me. >>



It happens all the time..... :frown: :frown:

 

[StormRider]

This is very true. I once had a female friend. At the time she was probably my best and only friend. Then one day I actually got up the nerve to talk to her and she replied, &quot;I'm sorry, have we met?&quot; and then I realized our friendship was very one sided...

 

[AndyHui]

<< better to be on the recieving end of more love though >>


Not necessarily. Anybody remember The Crush?

 

[Dumbledore]

<< In a utopian relationship, both love each other equally.

In an ideal relationshop, both love each other more than anything else in this world, to the best of their abilities..

In dysfunctional relationshops, one person loves the other more than the other loves them.

I don't see how love can be &quot;weak&quot; or &quot;little&quot; . I only see it as &quot;absolute unconditional&quot; in my eyes. ymmv >>



gee thanks emulex..all my relationships are dysfuctional..thx for the support..luv you too! hahahaha

 

[AdamDuritz99]

<Typically men and woman express themselves in different manners but the level of affection is equivalent>

what i hate most (speaking from expiernce)

it would seem like the woman would be all &quot;love, love&quot;
and the guys are all &quot;whatever&quot; (not too extreme though)

but with younger women (17-20 or so)
women don't show their affection that much as young men do. It's like that with me ,my best friend, and a lot more people i know.
kinda wierd huh?

oh well
peace

 

[Isla]

In dysfunctional relationships, the balance of power can get out of kilter that way.

For YEARS, the Mr was very rejecting of me. I couldn't figure out why the heck he married me if he looked down on me so much.

Then I started to realize he was treating me the way his mother always treated him... she keeps him (and others) on their toes all the time because she is never happy with anyone or anything. It gives her all the 'power', but not really.

The minute I stopped playing the game of always trying to please someone who was never satisfied, things started to change. As soon as I was the one who didn't give a flying fig, the balance of power mightily shifted. However, I am not a game player that way and I wasn't exactly thrilled with that, either.

The trick has been in getting things to equal out. It's taken quite some time, but we have finally managed to have what I think is a fairly balanced relationship.

All I have to say is this: If you find yourself in one of those unequal relationships, stop playing the game. Insist on real relating and get counseling if you need, but don't keep the dynamic going. It is a destructive cycle!

Those are my words of wisdom for the day.

 

[loup garou]

<< In dysfunctional relationships, the balance of power can get out of kilter that way.

For YEARS, the Mr was very rejecting of me. I couldn't figure out why the heck he married me if he looked down on me so much.

Then I started to realize he was treating me the way his mother always treated him... she keeps him (and others) on their toes all the time because she is never happy with anyone or anything. It gives her all the 'power', but not really.

The minute I stopped playing the game of always trying to please someone who was never satisfied, things started to change. As soon as I was the one who didn't give a flying fig, the balance of power mightily shifted. However, I am not a game player that way and I wasn't exactly thrilled with that, either.

The trick has been in getting things to equal out. It's taken quite some time, but we have finally managed to have what I think is a fairly balanced relationship.

All I have to say is this: If you find yourself in one of those unequal relationships, stop playing the game. Insist on real relating and get counseling if you need, but don't keep the dynamic going. It is a destructive cycle!

Those are my words of wisdom for the day. >>



Isla: have you read The Celestine Prophecy? Your example reminded me of one of the Insights from it.