Is it possible to love, yet not want to be with?

[manlymatt83]

Is it possible for a girl to say and mean:

"I love you and want to be with you, and know you're the one for me, but I want to see what else is out there."

Or is the girl just confused?

 

[hypn0tik]

Pics?

 

[pontifex]

confused

 

[Nikamichi]

"I love you as a person, but your peepee is too small."

 

[pontifex]

Originally posted by: mjuszczak
Is it possible for a girl to say and mean:

"I love you and want to be with you, and know you're the one for me, but I want to see what else is out there."

Or is the girl just confused?

how can she know you're the one for her but want to see what else is out there? thats a load of BS dude.

 

[The Stigenator]

she is confused.

 

[manlymatt83]

Agreed. I'm ignoring her bull ****** and moving on, but wanted to know if anyone here had any ideas.

I was her first boyfriend, so she says "I know I love you and know I want to be with you" (we were together for over 2 years), but some people have just put thoughts into her head and now she thinks she can "find better". To me, its not worth it. I just wanted to know why she changed out of no where.

 

[shimsham]

changed out of no where? you shouldve seen this coming since you were her first bf.

and of course she can love you and want to be with you, but still know that shes young and to go out and live life.

 

[Zysoclaplem]

It sounds like she doesn't think her excuses through before she spouts them out. Find someone smart enough to come up with a decent lie.

 

[MikeyIs4Dcats]

she has her eye on someone else

 

[Baked]

She thinks you're... Are you sure she's not lesbian?

 

[Malak]

If she thinks there is a possiblity of better out there, then she doesn't love you.

 

[Anubis]

she wants to ****** other people

 

[manlymatt83]

Mikey: She doesn't have her eye on someone else. She's proven she loves me (or at least attempted to put out effort to show she does), but she says she can't help wondering what else is out there and whether she could find better (or someone closer, I live 5 hours away)....... I think its bull ****** because I love her and know I could find someone else but was still willing to stick it through until her and I could be closer distance-wise.

So you're saying the fact that I'm her first boyfriend, I should have expected this, and I should just accept it and see if she ever calls? We just kinda had a small fight and I'm not willing to say anything back to her about it....

 

[alien42]

i know i have heard that exact same thing a couple of times. good old emotionally and mentally confused women.

 

[Bryophyte]

Originally posted by: MikeyIs4Dcats
she has her eye on someone else

Sadly, this is probably true. Sorry.

 

[Zysoclaplem]

Originally posted by: mjuszczak
Mikey: She doesn't have her eye on someone else. She's proven she loves me (or at least attempted to put out effort to show she does), but she says she can't help wondering what else is out there and whether she could find better (or someone closer, I live 5 hours away)....... I think its bull ****** because I love her and know I could find someone else but was still willing to stick it through until her and I could be closer distance-wise.

So you're saying the fact that I'm her first boyfriend, I should have expected this, and I should just accept it and see if she ever calls? We just kinda had a small fight and I'm not willing to say anything back to her about it....

You live 5 hours away?
That's definately a relationship killer.

 

[imported_LoKe]

The statement is a contradiction in itself. If she truely loved you, she'd accept you for what you offer and who you are. If she truely loved you, she wouldn't have to "See what else is out there."

I'm sorry, but I don't believe she's in love with you, though, there is a strong chance for a relationship, still.

EDIT : 5 hours away? Well...you can keep a long distance relationship together, but starting one from that position is just rough. Not worth the trouble, I must say.

 

[shimsham]

lets see...

young...check
long distance.....check
first bf.....check
vagina......check


the writing was on the wall. doubtful that she truly loves you, but not impossible given the circumstances.

 

[Malak]

Originally posted by: alien42
i know i have heard that exact same thing a couple of times. good old emotionally and mentally confused women.

My favorite line was, "I want to be with someone like you." What's wrong with being with me then?!

 

[RaiderJ]

Originally posted by: mjuszczak
Is it possible for a girl to say and mean:

"I love you and want to be with you, and know you're the one for me, but I want to see what else is out there."

Or is the girl just confused?

That right there is all that matters. Move on and accept life.

 

[manlymatt83]

Originally posted by: LoKe
The statement is a contradiction in itself. If she truely loved you, she'd accept you for what you offer and who you are. If she truely loved you, she wouldn't have to "See what else is out there."

I'm sorry, but I don't believe she's in love with you, though, there is a strong chance for a relationship, still.

EXACTLY how I feel. I'm not hurt that I lost her, I'm hurt that she keeps messing with my emotions by saying she loves me and wants to be with me. I agree 100% with you here... just wanted to make sure I wasn't going crazy.

 

[manlymatt83]

She's confused and wanted me to be there for her right now. I would have, but shes felt this way for 4 months now and never told me. She said she just shrugged it off cause she didn't want to feel that way. And she said that most of this feeling is because her parents kept knacking her about it.

Thing is, she never felt this way until her and I had about a month long fight when I had hardly any time for her. I was pissed at her because she refused to stick up for me to her family (who hated me for no reason)..... so basically, it was a catch-22.

Point is, if she was honest with me from the start, I would have been able to give her more time so she didn't break down and feel the way she does today. The way I look at it, if she really cares, she'll call me one day.

 

[mrrman]

Originally posted by: pontifex

Originally posted by: mjuszczak
Is it possible for a girl to say and mean:

"I love you and want to be with you, and know you're the one for me, but I want to see what else is out there."

Or is the girl just confused?

how can she know you're the one for her but want to see what else is out there? thats a load of BS dude.

exactly

 

[doze]

She's telling you that so that if she goes out with a few guys and they treat her like crap you can be her fallback guy. As long as you don't mind that the relationship is over you may be able to get a little extra on the side in the future.