Is it possible to live with someone who's depressed without becoming depressed yourself?

[Riprorin]

What coping mechanisms are there for living with a chronically depressed person who refuses to get help?

 

[Grasshopper27]

Originally posted by: Riprorin
What coping mechanisms are there for living with a chronically depressed person who refuses to get help?

*hug*

 

[mithrandir2001]

Depends on the root cause of the depression. And it's very possible they don't get help because help is not possible.

 

[HappyPuppy]

No. It will destroy your life.

 

[Geekbabe]

Yes it is but the non-depressed person has to be willing to keep up their own outside interests, sometimes just doing that while allowing the depressed one to do as they see fit will result in he/she joining in.

 

[Grasshopper27]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
Yes it is but the non-depressed person has to be willing to keep up their own outside interests, sometimes just doing that while allowing the depressed one to do as they see fit will result in he/she joining in.

*hug*

 

[agnitrate]

I worry about replying for fear that I am hugged by grasshopper but....

Yes it is possible and they might actually fall out of the depression if your attitude impresses upon them enough. I think it's definitely possible.

-silver

 

[Riprorin]

Depends on the root cause of the depression. And it's very possible they don't get help because help is not possible.

That could be. Maybe there are certain traumas in life that can never really be completely overcome or at least there's a perception that they can't.

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: grasshopper26

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
Yes it is but the non-depressed person has to be willing to keep up their own outside interests, sometimes just doing that while allowing the depressed one to do as they see fit will result in he/she joining in.

*hug*

thanks for the hug but there's no need,I'm not depressed but I know a lot about it.

 

[xuanman]

It's tough. Good luck

 

[Jfur]

No, I have a lot of depressed co-workers, and it is exhausting I can barely crawl home after a few hours -- I certainly could not live with them.

 

[gopunk]

it's pretty sick, but i seem to get more cheerful around depressed people...

 

[Grasshopper27]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

thanks for the hug but there's no need,I'm not depressed but I know a lot about it.

I'm in a huggy mood tonight...

Just got off the phone with Thumper awhile ago, so I'm all happy and have one of those warm fuzzy things going on...

Just thought I'd give you a hug, for no reason in piticular...

Grasshopper

 

[Viper GTS]

While I have not been in that position, I have been the depressed one & seen the impact it has on people.

It is not easy, you're pouring yourself into someone & getting nothing in return. It's not that they don't want to respond to you, they can't.

It is not a good situation, but it is manageable as long as you understand that they aren't intentionally hurting you. You have to make a conscious commitment to love them, even when it's not fun, rewarding, or (apparently) worthwhile.

I wouldn't blame her if she left me, but I'm glad she hasn't.

Viper GTS

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: Viper GTS
While I have not been in that position, I have been the depressed one & seen the impact it has on people.

It is not easy, you're pouring yourself into someone & getting nothing in return. It's not that they don't want to respond to you, they can't.

It is not a good situation, but it is manageable as long as you understand that they aren't intentionally hurting you. You have to make a conscious commitment to love them, even when it's not fun, rewarding, or (apparently) worthwhile.

I wouldn't blame her if she left me, but I'm glad she hasn't.

Viper GTS

She's smart, she see's how special you are,even when you can't !!!

 

[Riprorin]

Thanks for the advice. I'll just try to make the best of the situation.

 

[tcsenter]

No. It will destroy your life.

In many cases, yes it will. Many O' people have been dragged down to the gutter along with a loved one or friend hell bent on destroying themselves, trying to stop them. Many O' people...

 

[FrancesBeansRevenge]

My wife has lived with my psychosis(which manifests itself in different ways from severe depression to an obsessive compulsive addiction to certain types of food or drink) for 5 years now.

One span of 3 weeks I ate the exact same thing for every meal. I was *afraid* to deviate from that menu.
Of course that litte bit of crazy whack funkiness just went away only to be replaced by something else.
Ahhh such is the cycle of loony toons.

BTW, no, you cannot live with a mentally or emotionally disturbed individual for any length of time without adverse affects.
Either the healthy person takes on personality traits from the loon or the healthy person becomes a serious enabler to the loons
luncacy which is never good.
Or it can simply be small things like the healthy partner 'missing out' on activities or parts of life due to thier partners madness.
For example, my wife enjoys dining out however we have not in about 4 years because I have panic attacks in resturants.

However, despite me having told my wife to F off and find someone who can give her a real life she insists on staying and loving and taking care of me....
without which I would easily be dead by now. That bitch. She robbed me of glorious suicide. Oh wait no thats right I grew up and realised I want to live I just can't figure out how to.

The End.