Is it pathetic to not have had any "relations" in over 6 months?

Descartes

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I'm a single guy, and haven't had any relations in well over 6 months. I was talking with a girl friend of mine last night, and this topic came up. She thought that most guys would do anything to get their "fix." It's not an opportunity issue, nor a moral issue, I just simply don't want to. It's not a libido issue either, I certainly would if the circumstances were right. I've never been much of a "casual" guy, for no reason other than I just simply don't feel good after a "casual" relation.

For me, I don't get as much enjoyment out of the whole process unless my mind is into it. It's not necessarily that I have to feel that the other participant "loves" me, I just get bored unless there's some form of mental stimulation.

Any other guys feel this way?
 

TuffGirl

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<< I just get bored unless there's some form of mental stimulation. >>


I feel the same way. I can't speak for guys but for me, I'd rather have no sex than bad or boring sex. You're not pathetic at all IMO. :)
 

Saltin

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Depends how old you are. If you are older than say, 23 or so, then yes. Yes it is.
 

jjones

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Yes, it's pathetic. I rather have casual, meaningless sex with a female than casual, meaningless sex with my hand.
 

TuffGuy

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what about great sex with no mental stimulation?


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<< I just get bored unless there's some form of mental stimulation. >>


I feel the same way. I can't speak for guys but for me, I'd rather have no sex than bad or boring sex. You're not pathetic at all IMO. :)
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Swag1138

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Me too. Same boat here.


(heck, Ill say anything to excuse my not having had sex....ever......)
 

Descartes

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<< Depends how old you are. If you are older than say, 23 or so, then yes. Yes it is. >>



21 actually, but I don't see how that makes a difference.



<< what about great sex with no mental stimulation? >>



Call me crazy, but for me, some form of mental stimulation is a requisite for great sex.
 

Sir Fredrick

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<< Going on 22 years without relations...still waiting to fall in love... >>



Nearly 21 years here. I've been in love...
 

GasX

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<< Call me crazy, but for me, some form of mental stimulation is a requisite for great sex. >>



Then you haven't had any...
 

Descartes

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<< Then you haven't had any... >>



Well, I'm glad I now know what constitutes great sex in the eyes of MWilding :)

It's all relative. Some find bondage exciting, for others it's a prostitute in cheap hotel. Neither of the aforementioned would ever constitute great sex in my eyes, nor would casual sex.

 

yakko

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I see nothing wrong with your situation. I actually like the fact that you don't feel the need to just go out and bang some chick just because.
 

Elledan

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Are you referring to a platonic relationship, or any of the other forms of relationships?

The former requires time and is quite hard to accomplish and to maintain, while the latter is only necessary for procreation.

FYI, there's absolutely nothing wrong with staying single, even if it's for your whole life. Anyone who says otherwise simply beliefs in the propaganda certain people are spreading around.
 

LordThing

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I do think its bad when your in a relationship and haven't had relations more than once in the last 6 months. I can tell ya, it sucks. :eek:
 

Descartes

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<< Are you referring to a platonic relationship, or any of the other forms of relationships? >>



I have several platonic relationships with females, one of which who asked this question, I'm referring more to the idea of a sexual relationship sans any form of mental relationship.
 

GasX

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<< Well, I'm glad I now know what constitutes great sex in the eyes of MWilding :) >>

I doubt it.


<< It's all relative. Some find bondage exciting, for others it's a prostitute in cheap hotel. Neither of the aforementioned would ever constitute great sex in my eyes, nor would casual sex. >>

Sex is about passion. Love for someone goes a looonnngggg way to create that. Sex with some stranger you met while drunk doesn't exactly cut it. Trust me on this one. If you meet someone with whom you can have a relationship (yes, relationship) that revolves solely around sex, you will most likely find out what I am talking about. You may have no long term future with this partner, but you won't ever forget her.
 

StageLeft

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<< I see nothing wrong with your situation. I actually like the fact that you don't feel the need to just go out and bang some chick just because. >>



Me too...kinda turns me on :Q
 

Pliablemoose

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Who was it that said "Bad sex is like bad pizza, it's still pretty good."

Seriously though, it's worth the wait, seems like I'd have a dry spell, hook up with someone, and then have all kinds of opportunities for other relationships, makes one more than a little crazy.
 

TuffGirl

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<< << what about great sex with no mental stimulation? >>

Call me crazy, but for me, some form of mental stimulation is a requisite for great sex.
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I feel the same way.


<< << It's all relative. Some find bondage exciting, for others it's a prostitute in cheap hotel. Neither of the aforementioned would ever constitute great sex in my eyes, nor would casual sex. >>

Sex is about passion. Love for someone goes a looonnngggg way to create that. Sex with some stranger you met while drunk doesn't exactly cut it. Trust me on this one. If you meet someone with whom you can have a relationship (yes, relationship) that revolves solely around sex, you will most likely find out what I am talking about. You may have no long term future with this partner, but you won't ever forget her.
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Mwilding, who said anything about Love? Love is not a requisite for mental stimulation.


<< << I see nothing wrong with your situation. I actually like the fact that you don't feel the need to just go out and bang some chick just because. >>

Me too...kinda turns me on :Q
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rofl


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Elledan

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<<

<< Are you referring to a platonic relationship, or any of the other forms of relationships? >>



I have several platonic relationships with females, one of which who asked this question, I'm referring more to the idea of a sexual relationship sans any form of mental relationship.
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<< It's all relative. Some find bondage exciting, for others it's a prostitute in cheap hotel. Neither of the aforementioned would ever constitute great sex in my eyes, nor would casual sex.
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Are you contradicting yourself? :)
 

Descartes

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<< Are you contradicting yourself? >>



I don't think so. When I said this...



<< I'm referring more to the idea of a sexual relationship sans any form of mental relationship. >>



I'm saying that's the topic of discussion, not saying that's what I want. Is that what you mean?