Is it OK for a friend to date your ex?

[OhZyeah]

Ok, here's the deal. This happened awhile ago, but basically in cliff notes format here's what happened:

1. I was with my GF for about a year.
2. Graduated HS, went to college and dumped her ass.
3. A year or two goes by and I find out my close friend is dating my ex.
4. Not a big deal, except I didn't find out from him, but third party.
5. And since he's been with her, he avoids me and we stopped kicking it.
6. Now, 3 years later, I am not as mad as I was b4 for him not telling me. However, should I still be mad at him for going "behind" my back per say to date my ex. Keep in mind, their "dating" lasted only a couple months i think.
(Keep in mind, I do not give a fawk about my ex, she is a slut. I grew up wiith my friend and was wondering if its a waste to throw the friendship away over a dumb ass girl)
7. But, he did act sorta shady by not telling me and avoiding me. What to do?

Edit: Also now, most of my other friends don't really talk to him since this happened. They all thought it was fawked up on his part.....

 

[fs5]

NO

oh and it was shady that he went behind your back but what's done is done. If you dumped her then maybe you could forgive him. But the answer to your Topic is NO.

oh.. and add YAGT.

 

[CraigRT]

i'd say it's technically OK, but i'd probably be upset in some sort of way over the situation.. i've never had it happen, but i could foresee problems ....

 

[Red Dawn]

If you are Tony Soprano it isn't

 

[minendo]

Who cares? You are not dating her, so why the hell do you care who or what she does?

 

[Quixfire]

Quit wasting time and forgive your friend if you feel that is necessary.

 

[djheater]

Originally posted by: fivespeed5
NO

I would say yes, actually.

 

[shimsham]

3 yrs later? if youre not over it by now, you wont be. its old news, if hes a good friend, let it go. people make mistakes, and even hurt thier friends sometimes.

edit:if shes a slvt, and you dont care, he just did the same thing you did: get laid.

 

[new2AMD]

If you are over her why cant he date her? He didnt tell you cuz he prolly figured youd be pissed and from the sounds of it he was right. How long after you guys broke up did he start dating her?

 

[conjur]

Bros befo hos.

 

[cloude27]

I dont think you should toss your friendship a way... you should atleast talk to him

 

[fs5]

Originally posted by: djheater

Originally posted by: fivespeed5
NO

I would say yes, actually.

it's no generally, it's rule one in the handbook.

 

[OhZyeah]

Originally posted by: minendo
Who cares? You are not dating her, so why the hell do you care who or what she does?

I don't care who she dates or who she sees...but I do care more about my friend and I and our friendship. keep in mind, i looked to him as a 'homie" since we grew up together. I'm asking if I should forgive him for doing that, even tho he acted shady.

 

[OhZyeah]

Originally posted by: conjur
Bros befo hos.

Exactly, but he didn't follow that rule.

 

[djheater]

Originally posted by: fivespeed5

Originally posted by: djheater

Originally posted by: fivespeed5
NO

I would say yes, actually.

it's no generally, it's rule one in the handbook.

It would probably depend on which one of his rambling questions you were answering.

 

[Ameesh]

i'd say no.

 

[OhZyeah]

Originally posted by: cloude27
I dont think you should toss your friendship a way... you should atleast talk to him

But didn't he toss the friendship away by going behind me and acting all shady...
the question is why should i be accepting of him if he did that to me.?

 

[TuffGuy]

Originally posted by: OhZyeah

Originally posted by: minendo
Who cares? You are not dating her, so why the hell do you care who or what she does?

I don't care who she dates or who she sees...but I do care more about my friend and I and our friendship. keep in mind, i looked to him as a 'homie" since we grew up together. I'm asking if I should forgive him for doing that, even tho he acted shady.

cuz he knew you'd be pissed. and apparently he was right.

i'll ask you a question. what if he genuinely liked this girl? if you really cared about your friend you would want him to be happy.

not only that, but he dated her a year or two AFTER you guys broke up. he probably knew that you wouldn't be happy, but if you're over her as you claim, why would you care who she dates? and if you're not secretly in love with him, why would you care who he dates?

 

[gopunk]

as long as i was over her, i would have no problem.

 

[Jetblade]

yagt.com

 

[Tom]

uh, how long do you intend to maintain attitudes appropriate for a first year high school student, about friends and girls, etc ?

Given the chronolgy of events you describe shouldn't you have grown up 5 or 6 years ago ?

 

[Feldenak]

Originally posted by: minendo
Who cares? You are not dating her, so why the hell do you care who or what she does?

 

[Frdm51472]

Sooo....somehow even after you dump a girl you still have a claim to her and everyone who dates her should get your permission first?

 

[J0hnny]

It's forgivable but that's still a NO NO.

 

[Jzero]

It's been 3 years. Get over it. You "dumped her ass" and you're pissed b/c your friend picked up the slack?
Move on.