Is it normal?

xSkyDrAx

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to ask their friends to buy them expensive gifts for their birthdays by pooling money and such.

I.E Ipods and such.
 

TwinkleToes77

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Whats wrong with pooling money? i mean if they are each going to spend $20-50 on you anyways.. you might as well get something you want :)
 

xSkyDrAx

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Originally posted by: SynthDude2001
The girls I know, know that we (being her friends) are not made of money.

Yea I was brought up with the idea that one doesn't ask for what they want for their present heck I didn't even want presents but just somet friends of mine, mostly the girls, always try to pool together some massive amount of money 200-300 bucks for some crazy gift the b-day girl requested. I'm sitting here thinking...is that even polite to do?
 

TwinkleToes77

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Originally posted by: xSkyDrAx
Originally posted by: SynthDude2001
The girls I know, know that we (being her friends) are not made of money.

Yea I was brought up with the idea that one doesn't ask for what they want for their present heck I didn't even want presents but just somet friends of mine, mostly the girls, always try to pool together some massive amount of money 200-300 bucks for some crazy gift the b-day girl requested. I'm sitting here thinking...is that even polite to do?

Well that depends if someone asks them "what do you want for your bday?"
 

xSkyDrAx

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Originally posted by: TwinkleToes77
Whats wrong with pooling money? i mean if they are each going to spend $20-50 on you anyways.. you might as well get something you want :)

I know there's nothing wrong with pooling the money but the fact is that they're asking for the gift. One should be more appreciative of the things they get and sometimes a few of them even got angry/dissappointed that they didn't get the exact thing they wanted. I mean WTF, your friends are getting you something out of their own kindness and generosity and you go acting like some spoiled brat and their friends aren't exactly rich either.
 
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Originally posted by: xSkyDrAx
Originally posted by: TwinkleToes77
Whats wrong with pooling money? i mean if they are each going to spend $20-50 on you anyways.. you might as well get something you want :)

I know there's nothing wrong with pooling the money but the fact is that they're asking for the gift. One should be more appreciative of the things they get and sometimes a few of them even got angry/dissappointed that they didn't get the exact thing they wanted. I mean WTF, your friends are getting you something out of their own kindness and generosity and you go acting like some spoiled brat and their friends aren't exactly rich either.

I kind of agree. I don't really ask for things for my birthday anymore - partly because I don't want to ask/demand that my friends spend lots of money on me, and partly because I end up buying just about everything that I REALLY want for myself anyway...:p
 

yllus

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Originally posted by: xSkyDrAx
to ask their friends to buy them expensive gifts for their birthdays by pooling money and such.

I.E Ipods and such.
Hell no. What a money-grubbing little...
 

MulLa

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In my experience I always tend to be asked about money pooling for gifts by friends. But not from the one actually recieving the gift. Then again my experience is fairly limited :p
 

xSkyDrAx

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Originally posted by: MulLa
In my experience I always tend to be asked about money pooling for gifts by friends. But not from the one actually recieving the gift. Then again my experience is fairly limited :p

Well, for me, it has never the birthday person that is doing the actual pooling but all the people that are doing the pooling know that the birthday person has specifically requested it.
 

illustri

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hey why get ten $10 plastic dildos when you can get one $100 ultradeluxemega personal jubilation system?
 

xSkyDrAx

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Originally posted by: illustri
hey why get ten $10 plastic dildos when you can get one $100 ultradeluxemega personal jubilation system?

Speaking from experience? ;)
 

VirtualLarry

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Originally posted by: yllus
Originally posted by: xSkyDrAx
to ask their friends to buy them expensive gifts for their birthdays by pooling money and such. I.E Ipods and such.
Hell no. What a money-grubbing little...
She's training the men around her well, early in life, isn't she?
 

FreshFish

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Seems rude if she asked for them to pool money together. That kinda thing should be a surprise thought up by the friends
 

SnoPearL69

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I get annoyed if the birthday girl/guy's friend goes around asking 30 people that are friends (but don't hang out often) with the birthday person. Granted, it's just like $10 a person or so, but it's just impolite, when I had no intention of spending money on someone that I'm not very close to. And then of course, I end up feeling like a bad friend and guilty when I don't respond or say I'm busy. It's just unncessary crap. If good friends want to do it for them, fine. Just don't do it out of desperation for more money to pool.
 

gsaldivar

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Originally posted by: FreshFish
Seems rude if she asked for them to pool money together. That kinda thing should be a surprise thought up by the friends


:thumbsup::D
 

Kadarin

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Originally posted by: illustri
hey why get ten $10 plastic dildos when you can get one $100 ultradeluxemega personal jubilation system?

She'd have to have a LOT of friends to pool together to get that Sybian machine... ;)
 

her209

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Reminds me of the time Jerry, George, Elaine, and Kramer were going to pool money to buy the massage chair for Joe Mayo. In the end, George gets screwed because everyone backs out and he can't return the chair because he looses the receipt when it "pops" out of his obese wallet.
 

aidanjm

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Originally posted by: xSkyDrAx
Originally posted by: TwinkleToes77
Whats wrong with pooling money? i mean if they are each going to spend $20-50 on you anyways.. you might as well get something you want :)

I know there's nothing wrong with pooling the money but the fact is that they're asking for the gift. One should be more appreciative of the things they get and sometimes a few of them even got angry/dissappointed that they didn't get the exact thing they wanted. I mean WTF, your friends are getting you something out of their own kindness and generosity and you go acting like some spoiled brat and their friends aren't exactly rich either.

I tend to agree with you... altho gift etiquette is one of those things that seems tovary incredibly depending on who you are hanging out with, so maybe I'd just go with the flow.