Is it good to be assertive

[Ricemarine]

Well um... yeah... for community service, I've been having this issue with this <race> kid. He waltzes in the office doing stuff while I'm there, and does that with many others too. I try my hardest to push him out of the officewithout getting myself kicked out of the school, but I cannot... Only the leader of the after school club can...

The leader tells me to be assertive.
I ask another teacher, he says he doesn't act assertive.


Is it good to be assertive? Otherwise, how do I fix this problem?

 

[mercanucaribe]

Assertive? You need to shift paradigms with your leadership abilities.

 

[badmouse]

Some classic management techniques are:

when he walks in, hand him something important to do.

surround yourself with a power team (intimidate him)

pretend he's your friend, greet him profusely every time he comes in, welcome him, share a bit of small talk and then say you wish you could hang out longer but you have work to do

find out who he's afraid of and get that person on your side

find something he likes (a gorgeous chick?) and distract him

set up a trap and get him into trouble

make friends with him for real and share the glory, sounds like he's got some cool assertiveness talents

invite some handicapped wheelchair kids in so that whenever this dude disrupts things he gets in trouble for disrupting the handicapped wheelchair kids

spread rumors around that you're upset with him and that you have the power to do something to make his life miserable. hope that he gets rattled and makes a stupid mistake

and so on. get the idea? use whatever your talents, your connections and your authority gives you, and play the game.

good luck.

 

[sixone]

If that doesn't work, discipline is not your job. Go up the chain until you find someone to reign him in, or authorize you to do so. If you can't, tough luck.