Is it considered weird to be rude/mean in the U.S?

kyrax12

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When I went to the S.F, I found the people to be pretty nice. The rude people were some of the vagrants that started to go on a profanity spree towards me... for some odd reasons.
 

John Connor

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I'm polite until you tell me to fuck off or some shit. Then I'm coming down on you like your fat ugly mother sitting on your chest eating a donut.
 

shortylickens

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As a country, we're actually very polite. Its the relatively small number of assholes who get all the attention. The loudest make up for the quiet.
 

wabbitslayer

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"rude" is a matter of perception. Most people born/raised in the Southern U.S think that people born/raised "up north" (NYC, Boston, Philadelphia) are rude as hell, just based on daily interaction/conversation...but to folks born/raised there, that same behavior is considered perfectly acceptable. IMHO, it's just a matter of what is the social norm in that area.
 

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It depends where you are in the U.S. Many people on the internet are extremely rude because they can hide, just faceless posters on the internet.
 

KentState

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I just see a lot of people that are self-absorbed which comes off as being rude. Simple stuff like holding doors for people or saying thank you goes a long ways.
 

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Most Americans I have seen stick their nose into other peoples business, but overall they think they are trying to help.

Normally being rude is just someones choice so there's nothing wrong with it if something bothers you and you feel like you have to retaliate.
 
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When I went to the S.F, I found the people to be pretty nice. The rude people were some of the vagrants that started to go on a profanity spree towards me... for some odd reasons.

Not really there are rude people all over the place. The vagrants were most likely homeless people. Here is a very brief explanation. Up until the 1980's insane people & troubled people (the kind that are not capable a caring for themselves but are capable of walking) were kept in homes or hospitals for mental patient's. Turns out many of these homes were not taking good care of them and some were abusive. Society decided that this was not what we wanted and closed many of them. The idea was family care was better. We also made it harder to lock someone away for treatment against their will. The problem is many homeless people have distanced or don't trust their relatives, since they are ill its impossible to hold a job or pay rent. Yes the homeless can be rude, its more about their health than something you did.
OP where are you from?
 

MagnusTheBrewer

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Well, I wouldn't call San Francisco as representative of the U.S. or even California but, people do tend to interact more politely (according to our culture) than in other countries.
 

Wyndru

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In some cases, you aren't cool unless you are rude.

At least that's what the teen generation thinks. I was at an amusement park yesterday and the ride attendants all stick their hands up to give everyone a high five at the end of the ride (kinda cheesy IMO, but whatever they are probably instructed to do this). All of the older people and little kids participated in this, but most of the teenagers would just look away and walk past them leaving them hanging.
 

kyrax12

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In some cases, you aren't cool unless you are rude.

At least that's what the teen generation thinks. I was at an amusement park yesterday and the ride attendants all stick their hands up to give everyone a high five at the end of the ride (kinda cheesy IMO, but whatever they are probably instructed to do this). All of the older people and little kids participated in this, but most of the teenagers would just look away and walk past them leaving them hanging.

Maybe they were just socially awkward or just doesn't want to make hand contact with another person.

Heh.. it is really cheesy.
 

MongGrel

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Depending on where you go, your results may vary.

But that is true of people in general in many places.
 

norseamd

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I just see a lot of people that are self-absorbed which comes off as being rude. Simple stuff like holding doors for people or saying thank you goes a long ways.

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MongGrel

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My experience agrees with this map 100%.


I'd tend to agreem having lived over most the US or the people I know from spots.

No Alaska on there, but as it's a small population to begin with, at least during the summer when I was there were some of the most polite people I've ever met.

Not sure how it might be in the middle of winter, they might be cranky then, he he.
 
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MrDudeMan

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I'd tend to agreem having lived over most the US or the people I know from spots.

No Alaska on there, but as it's a small population to begin with, at least during the summer when I was there were some of the most polite people I've ever met.

Not sure how it might be in the middle of winter, they might be cranky then, he he.

I've lived in Pennsylvania, West Virginia, Ohio, Kansas, Nebraska, Arizona, Tennessee, Colorado, and Texas. I spent a lot of time traveling to Washington, California, Florida, New Mexico, and New York over the last several years as well. I know this is just a generalized map, but it mirrors my personal experiences very closely.

I've never been to the Iowa/Michigan/Wisconsin area, but I don't have a hard time believing they're very friendly based on the people I know from that region.