Is gossping/sh*t talk tolerated by most companies and supervisors?

[Nocturnal]

This is how I see it, I?m a little overweight, not the greatest looking, and don?t really talk much to anyone besides friends I?ve already made at work.

I work at a call center for a bank.

Today I noticed that this lady that was speaking to my immediate supervisor accidentally slipped something up and had to correct herself as I made my way passed them. They were going to say something along the lines of ?He?s is like ____________? insert derogatory remark there.

I want to quit just because I feel that sh*t talk should not be tolerated in the work place, especially by a supervisor and her employee. From what I?ve observed this lady who was going to say something about me is her ?teacher?s pet? per se.

I?m going to e-mail her tomorrow and ask her what was going to be said, and if it was derogatory that I want to put in my two weeks notice. I will not stand for bullsh*t gossiping about me just because I am overweight and not the greatest looking.

The lady who was going to say something stupid about me, is, I?ll admit it, pretty, high class, nose in the air, only dates the most handsomest guys in the world, type of lady.

So, is it the norm for gossiping and sh*t talk to be OKAY? Along with the lady talking to a supervisor and laughing about it.

The lady had to correct herself right as she saw me walk passed to get my chair. She was about to say, ?He?s like __________? and then she had to slip in ?like a Sandra, yeah like a Sandra.? She started with ?HE?S like? so I know she was talking about me. They both had their eyes on me and it got rather large as soon as they noticed me walking passed.

Please advise. I need the $ to pay bills but I?m also not going to stick around at a place that allows/tolerates sh*t talking. I can find another job and or sell my personal belongings in order to make ends meet. I can also go homeless if the need arise, I do not care.

 

[AgaBoogaBoo]

Apply for other jobs, stick with this one till you find a new one

 

[saxophonoia]

ditto that......you shouldn't have to put up with that

 

[Shawn]

ah, common now. who cares?

 

[Nocturnal]

Originally posted by: AgaBooga
Apply for other jobs, stick with this one till you find a new one

However, is it the norm for this to be going on? I honestly do not like dealing with ignorant people who like to make fun of others just because they have a weight or heriditary problem of being ugly. It wasn't my fault I was born. If I could go back in time to stop my birth I certainly would.

 

Fvck it. If the money's good, milk the company for all it's worth and then leave when you've had your fill. Who cares if people talk about you?

It would be much more effective to take the company's money as compensation for an uncomfortable working environment. Speak to your boss about it, though, definitely. Quitting will only show the company that it's okay to tolerate that type of thing.

 

[Nocturnal]

Originally posted by: iloveme2
ah, common now. who cares?

Maybe you're skinny, never experienced this, loved by everyone.

On the other hand, you have me. I'm a little overweight, not the greatest looking, easy target to pick on for most people who are insecure about themselves.

 

[saxophonoia]

It's going to happen anywhere I guess, but I wouldn't expect a supervisor to do that

 

[Nocturnal]

im so sad right now. it isnt funny anymore. im so sad im crying. its hard, very hard. i wish i wasn't born. it really isn't my fault for my looks. if i could stop it i would but i cant. people are so cruel. i dont talk crap about anyone. i stick to myself, im kind. i make friends with whomever is down to be my friend. i dont hate anyone because theyre gay, blac,, white, or any other race. i am there for whoever wants to be my friend. i believe in god yet i dont know anymore. i understand he gave us all free will but crap i really dont know right now. freewill, to be hated by many people basedd upon looks. im so sad.

 

[Mo0o]

Actually you would get less sh1t talk if you were more outgoing. Being overweight/"not the best looking" isn't really a good excuse not to make new friends. Granted you might be more hindered that others in finding dates, finding friends is a whole nother matter. And as far as that woman goes, theres always gonna be those kind of people around, all you can do is say fvck it and keep on truckin.

 

[Nocturnal]

i understand. i wish there was just more options out there.

 

[Yossarian]

Originally posted by: Nocturnal


I?m going to e-mail her tomorrow and ask her what was going to be said, and if it was derogatory that I want to put in my two weeks notice. I will not stand for bullsh*t gossiping about me just because I am overweight and not the greatest looking.

Don't email. Confront her. Don't be a pussy and hide behind your computer.

 

[BillyBatson]

unfortunatly it is the norm at my work aswell, the United States Air Force!!!! We were even taught at basic training that gossip, talking crap, anythign said that could bring down the moral of others will not be tolerated! You can get into a lot of trouble for it and possible be charged with certain articles for it BUTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTT everyone and i mean EVERYONE does it including our own supervisers about us!!!!!
I HATE IT!!!!! so much for an army of one or whatever

 

[SmoochyTX]

Originally posted by: Yossarian

Originally posted by: Nocturnal


I?m going to e-mail her tomorrow and ask her what was going to be said, and if it was derogatory that I want to put in my two weeks notice. I will not stand for bullsh*t gossiping about me just because I am overweight and not the greatest looking.

Don't email. Confront her. Don't be a pussy and hide behind your computer.

 

[her209]

Tell her you slept with her husband.

 

[Mo0o]

Originally posted by: her209
Tell her you slept with her husband.

Naw, just tell her you slept with her mom. And her sister.

 

[Shawn]

Originally posted by: Nocturnal
i understand. i wish there was just more options out there.

if it's really that big of a problem then start workin out. lose the weight.

 

[Nocturnal]

Originally posted by: iloveme2

Originally posted by: Nocturnal
i understand. i wish there was just more options out there.

if it's really that big of a problem then start workin out. lose the weight.

i wish it was that easy to just start working out, lose the weight and nobody would ever talk about me again. it's wishful thinking alright. its the now that i am mad about and worried about. the future is later, i guess i can workout just to please my co-workers, but why should i? should i have to be skinny in order to work in peace and not have anyone talk about me? that's kinda strange... or do you feel that way? i mean it's like i have to be handsome/skinny in order to work peacefully. why can't i just be myself, a tad bit overweight, but not bothersome to anyone. i honestly do not make any scenes or cause any commotion. i do not speak bad about anyone behidn their backs, that is for sure. i'm calm as can be, kind, thoughtful, very nice. it all backfires though. im not here looking for someone to feel sorry for me but rather advice and also im just venting my frustrations as i dont know where else to do it.

 

[Chumpman]

Originally posted by: Nocturnal
im so sad right now. it isnt funny anymore. im so sad im crying. its hard, very hard. i wish i wasn't born. it really isn't my fault for my looks. if i could stop it i would but i cant. people are so cruel. i dont talk crap about anyone. i stick to myself, im kind. i make friends with whomever is down to be my friend. i dont hate anyone because theyre gay, blac,, white, or any other race. i am there for whoever wants to be my friend. i believe in god yet i dont know anymore. i understand he gave us all free will but crap i really dont know right now. freewill, to be hated by many people basedd upon looks. im so sad.

Are you serious? I'm a little on the overweight side too, but I really don't give a flying fvck if people decide to make fun of me. If you care that much just go to the gym and start working out. Jesus, little pansy bitch can't take some woman with a pole in her ass talking sh!t about you.

 

[darkswordsman17]

Hey man, just "brush the dirt of your shoulders". Just try talking to the woman or supervisor and be as nice as possible. Don't stoop to their level and get pissy or anything, it'll only complicate things. Just ask that they give you a little more respect, because despite your differences you are in fact a human being too. While I know that regardless of the place people do talk trash on others (there's some rare exceptions). Hell even I did/do it some, but I try to be nice and respectful to all the people, it was only usually when they were less than kind to me or others that I'd trash on them. I try not to be judgemental, but it isn't easy. I used to be the exact same as you, overweight and not the best looking (mostly caused by the weight in my case) and I know how hard it can be. Just hang in there man, keep on being yourself, if they don't like it then fvck 'em. It seems like they do like to pick on you though, and so I'd try finding a different job if you don't think you can better the situation.

 

[Nocturnal]

Originally posted by: Chumpman

Originally posted by: Nocturnal
im so sad right now. it isnt funny anymore. im so sad im crying. its hard, very hard. i wish i wasn't born. it really isn't my fault for my looks. if i could stop it i would but i cant. people are so cruel. i dont talk crap about anyone. i stick to myself, im kind. i make friends with whomever is down to be my friend. i dont hate anyone because theyre gay, blac,, white, or any other race. i am there for whoever wants to be my friend. i believe in god yet i dont know anymore. i understand he gave us all free will but crap i really dont know right now. freewill, to be hated by many people basedd upon looks. im so sad.

Are you serious? I'm a little on the overweight side too, but I really don't give a flying fvck if people decide to make fun of me. If you care that much just go to the gym and start working out. Jesus, little pansy bitch can't take some woman with a pole in her ass talking sh!t about you.

i guess so. its the fact that ive been teased my entire life. im kinda fed up with it. and i didnt think it would follow me to the professional world. i thought maturity would be rampant here. i guess not. i understand though. im not looking for sympathy. i posted just because i had frustration in me. i am venting that is all.

 

[CarlKillerMiller]

Originally posted by: Chumpman

Originally posted by: Nocturnal
im so sad right now. it isnt funny anymore. im so sad im crying. its hard, very hard. i wish i wasn't born. it really isn't my fault for my looks. if i could stop it i would but i cant. people are so cruel. i dont talk crap about anyone. i stick to myself, im kind. i make friends with whomever is down to be my friend. i dont hate anyone because theyre gay, blac,, white, or any other race. i am there for whoever wants to be my friend. i believe in god yet i dont know anymore. i understand he gave us all free will but crap i really dont know right now. freewill, to be hated by many people basedd upon looks. im so sad.

Are you serious? I'm a little on the overweight side too, but I really don't give a flying fvck if people decide to make fun of me. If you care that much just go to the gym and start working out. Jesus, little pansy bitch can't take some woman with a pole in her ass talking sh!t about you.

Don't have to be an ass about it. Help the man out.

 

[Shawn]

that kind of stuff happens everywhere, and to everyone. don't let stupid sh|t bother you.

 

[Mo0o]

Originally posted by: Nocturnal

Originally posted by: iloveme2

Originally posted by: Nocturnal
i understand. i wish there was just more options out there.

if it's really that big of a problem then start workin out. lose the weight.

i wish it was that easy to just start working out, lose the weight and nobody would ever talk about me again. it's wishful thinking alright. its the now that i am mad about and worried about. the future is later, i guess i can workout just to please my co-workers, but why should i? should i have to be skinny in order to work in peace and not have anyone talk about me? that's kinda strange... or do you feel that way? i mean it's like i have to be handsome/skinny in order to work peacefully. why can't i just be myself, a tad bit overweight, but not bothersome to anyone. i honestly do not make any scenes or cause any commotion. i do not speak bad about anyone behidn their backs, that is for sure. i'm calm as can be, kind, thoughtful, very nice. it all backfires though. im not here looking for someone to feel sorry for me but rather advice and also im just venting my frustrations as i dont know where else to do it.

If being overweight bothers you enough to give you low confidence and emotional problems then its probably in your best interest to hit the treadmill.

 

[Nocturnal]

Originally posted by: Mo0o

Originally posted by: Nocturnal

Originally posted by: iloveme2

Originally posted by: Nocturnal
i understand. i wish there was just more options out there.

if it's really that big of a problem then start workin out. lose the weight.

i wish it was that easy to just start working out, lose the weight and nobody would ever talk about me again. it's wishful thinking alright. its the now that i am mad about and worried about. the future is later, i guess i can workout just to please my co-workers, but why should i? should i have to be skinny in order to work in peace and not have anyone talk about me? that's kinda strange... or do you feel that way? i mean it's like i have to be handsome/skinny in order to work peacefully. why can't i just be myself, a tad bit overweight, but not bothersome to anyone. i honestly do not make any scenes or cause any commotion. i do not speak bad about anyone behidn their backs, that is for sure. i'm calm as can be, kind, thoughtful, very nice. it all backfires though. im not here looking for someone to feel sorry for me but rather advice and also im just venting my frustrations as i dont know where else to do it.

If being overweight bothers you enough to give you low confidence and emotional problems then its probably in your best interest to hit the treadmill.

i actually have a membership to 24 hour fitness. i pay 22.00 every month i dont' go. i just dont have the motivation even though this is a very motivating factor. i have mental problems i guess.