Is a Subway Stranger Even Approachable?

[uptown]

I live in NYC ... Lead a good life, have a good job, stay in shape, dress well ... all of that.
What I'm wondering is if there is any acceptable way to approach a complete stranger on the subway and start a conversation without her thinking that you're a complete creep. Yesterday I saw a gorgeous woman on the subway, and would have loved to talk to her, but I can't see how she wouldn't have been receiptive to a complete stranger approaching her on the subway.

Any ideas?

 

[ndee]

'Tschuldigung, ficken?

 

[uptown]

<< 'Tschuldigung, ficken? >>



English please.

 

[minendo]

<< 'Tschuldigung, ficken? >>


hehe

 

[ndee]

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[Anghang]

i say go for it...worse case scenario is that she says no or ignores you, in which case so what...life goes on..
i used to live in Manhattan so i know what your talking about, but like i said...just go for it...of course chances are against ya, but at least you won't be stuck wondering "what if..."

 

[NakaNaka]

as someone who takes NYC subways at least two times a day and sometimes more, I know what you mean. I guess you could just try it, but I know if someone started talking to me on the subway it would be a little strange. What train you regularly take? I'm a 4-5-6 person.

 

[yobarman]

uptown, I doubt she'll think you're a bum...if you're dressed pretty well and have clean hair and clean shoes, than you're fine.

It's not uncommon to be friendly to strangers on the subway. Trust me, people do it all the time. As long as you dont come off sounding like a loser then you should be fine. You'll know within the couple first sentences if she's interested in you or not.

What you have to do right is the approach...or you opening sentence. For god sakes dont use pick up lines. Say something like:

"Wow, I couldn't help but notice how beautiful you are. My names ______, would you like to grab lunch sometime?"

or

"Hey, my names _____ ...I was wondering if I can get your number so I can give you a call some time."

 

[freebee]

Taking the 7 train on a daily basis, i see plenty of attractive ladies on the train. However, I am hesitant to talk to them...simply because if it doesn't go well, too many people are around to witness your failure.

In addition, I've had girls come up to me to try to engage in a conversation. Most of them are quite ugly and I was in a bind on how to get rid of them without embarrasing anyone. In my lifetime I've only had one hot female try to get a date with me and I was in a rush so I left. Thinking back, I should probably kill myself.

 

[yobarman]

<< I should probably kill myself. >>



Hahahahah...funniest line to end a reply, EVER!

 

[NakaNaka]

yes freebee you should

lol im sure another hottie will come up to you sometime. Once I had this dream about meeting the perfect woman on a train. Some jerk knocks into her and her book falls to the floor. I pick it up and its a book I love and we start talking about it. Then we go out to get something to eat and then I realize I'm dreaming

 

[Hossenfeffer]

<< if you're dressed pretty well and have clean hair and clean shoes, than you're fine. >>

BUT, if you're dressed pretty well and have clean hair and scuffed shoes, you're asking for trouble.

 

[uptown]

<< as someone who takes NYC subways at least two times a day and sometimes more, I know what you mean. I guess you could just try it, but I know if someone started talking to me on the subway it would be a little strange. What train you regularly take? I'm a 4-5-6 person. >>




I live in the upper-east so I take the 6 mostly.
This happened on the N/R crossing town to get to the 6. I transferred at 59th ... She didn't.
I figure worst case scenario she knows I've go the balls to make a fool of myself in front of numerous other strangers...
But who knows... I'll probably never see that girl again (not like there aren't zillions of others in NYC) but you know what I mean.

uptown

 

[CichliSuite]

I thought about this as well...
I'm the type of guy that has no problem at all making conversation in most places. My friends always comment, "I leave you alone for one minute and you already know that guy's life story", or "Damn, how do you know all these people", etc.

But even so, I don't think I could successfully meet a person in the subway.
The only time I chatted with a girl on the subway, was when we sat next to each other and had the same shopping bag - we joked about whether we bought the same thing, pulled stuff out to compare in jest, and then once the ice was broken, chatted for a bit. She wasn't my age, nor exceedingly pretty, but it was a nice dynamic.

Its just to nasty and hurried of a place to get anything meaningful out of it. Thats the great loneliness in NY, isn't it? Soo many people around, yet not a soul to really talk to.

 

[uptown]

<< Thats the great loneliness in NY, isn't it? Soo many people around, yet not a soul to really talk to. >>



I don't know that I'd categorize it like that. It just depends on who know you, and if they know people.