<< If you have a domain, someone can find your AP and do whatever to it, but they aren't going to get access to the domain without a valid user name and password. >>
Sure, there are ways to protect your internet connection by blocking IP address assignment and things of that nature (running up some serious $$ in software cost in the process, something that few home users are willing to do), but you still can't prevent layer-2 access to your wireless LAN to someone completely unknown. And THAT is not something that I would be comfortable with regardless of how securely I think I've set up the rest of my systems, if I were worried about people breaking in.
It's tantamount to giving people a hacking platform...
<< If you want to get REALLY serious, have ALL wireless clients outside an internal proxy server (for your LAN only) and have them log in using a VPN connection. ALL users will be logged going through teh proxy and you can even dump the data on a server running MS Access or better yet MS SQL. >>
Okay, you've lost me here because I don't know of a way to construct VPNs without first assigning IP addresses to the wireless clients. And if you do that the normal way, you've already lost the battle... Remember, we're not trying to protect the company servers behind a firewall; we're trying to prevent unauthorized hackers from using our 802.11b LAN to access the Internet or do damage to other systems, wherever they may be.
Now, if you're talking about using VLANs for a VPN-like effect, then you might be able to use such a scheme, but now you're talking about hardware that 95% of consumers out there aren't going to buy. After all, the whole topic here is "Is 802.11b secure enough for home broadband sharing?" I know that I can't afford a VLAN-enabled switch for home!
<< your ISP isn't the one who is going to be knocking at your door. >>
No, you're quite right, the FBI will be doing that favor for you if the attack was serious enough. But what I'm saying is that you haven't done anything fundamentally wrong. It's like someone stealing your car and running over people with it: you're not to blame, even if the car was unlocked. There are NO legal precedents established putting blame on the owner of equipment that gets misused, and the FBI is completely aware of that fact. I know several lawyers that would have a field day if anyone got prosecuted for something like that!