In-Laws and Exes, Oh My! (A Rare Islan Rant)

Isla

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You know, I try really hard to get along with people and be understanding of our differences... but there are just some people that I can barely stand and I find myself forced to be civil and kind because they are indirectly related to me in some way. :p

Mr Isla's family alone has 5 individuals who make me sick to my stomach with the things they say and do... three of those are in his immediate family. Recently, one of his sisters has taken it upon herself to 'get us right with God' again... you see, we are no longer among the Saved... Everyone knows that is true because I have a reclining Buddha in my bathroom garden and Mr Isla is taking Tae Kwan Do, which is obviously a Satanic practice. The fact that he is taking Tae Kwan Do is evidence of his rebellion against God. His mother wouldn't let him take it as a boy, not even Christian Martial Arts. She says she was saving his soul... I say she was saving her money for more jewelry and furniture for her estate! In fact, anything that isn't from the Christian Bookstore or Victorian in style is suspect. When you walk into my house and see my eclectic tastes... everything from antiques to asian art... you will realize that I am a non-Christian... Never mind the fact that I have a collection of religious art... that's all evil, too.

Anyway, what brought this up besides the fact that she keeps sending us Christian publications for everyone's birthday (which is fine EXCEPT that she is being none-too-subtle about the fact she thinks we are no longer 'Saved') is that she told my daughter that the reason her little romance with the preacher's son did not work out was because my daughter isn't virtuous enough. :| Um, how about proximity? The boy and his family live over 20 miles away. That's enough freaking reason for me!

The horror of it all is that, unbeknowst to us, it seems the whole evil family plans on being in St Augustine the weekend Mr Isla and I are going. Well, the Mr and I plan on having the most hedonistic time we can handle in our advanced age, so they better steer clear of us sinners! Heh, I don't plan on letting him out of our room except maybe to go for a bike ride. I may flip out if he says we have to meet them for dinner or something! Since it is my birthday that weekend, I bet I can get my way. ;)

Next on the list of complaints is my ex-husband, his wife, and their incredibly spoiled younger daughter. Unfortunately, I have to be nice to them (they think I'm a freaking angel) because they are part of my daughter's family. But in truth, they do not treat her well and she and I both look forward to the day we do not have to deal with them any more. Well, she may have to deal with them a little as an adult, but I doubt she will have much contact with them. They treat her like dirt, basically, and I believe it because I know them well enough to know they have their heads so far up their butts that they can't see what they are doing. :p

It just sucks that there are people you have to put up with because they are either important to your spouse or to your children. One of these days, I'm gonna pull a GirlFriday and let them all have it!

Thank you for listening. The End. ;)
 

myputer

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Tell them where its at! Its always better to speak your mind then to feel regret for being silent.
 

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<< Christian Martial Arts >>



LMAO, I'm afraid to ask what that is exactly. :D

Give 'em hell, errr, I mean pray for them Isla.
 

AMDJunkie

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Isla, I'll be honest with you, though I may be young and not as &quot;experienced&quot; as some older than me, your hubbie's immediate family sounds wayyyyyyyyy too out-of-whack to be true. I know of some really conservative people, but these people would probably seem like freaks to them.
 

Yeeny

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s that she told my daughter that the reason her little romance with the preacher's son did not work out was because my daughter isn't virtuous enough

And you did not snatch her bald? You are such a saint Isla. ;) I don't blame you for fuming, that is just cold to say to a child. I did not realize being saintly meant hurting childrens feelings.

One of these days, I'm gonna pull a GirlFriday and let them all have it!

LOL! I am glad I would not be there when you explode, I bet you have a fiery temper. Oh well, why should I worry? I am not the one who pissed you off, they are. I could just get some popcorn and enjoy the show. :D
 

ArkAoss

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I like people that have the guts to stand up for what they feel is right,
Why am I not standing? Oh I will when I remember what feel is.
 

Yuckysgf

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You go girl! Better cover your hand in glue and then sand for your slapping, scratching, etc., etc. hand! j/k ::)
 

Ornery

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Well, you could solve one problem by saying that you became Baptist. There's no way you can become &quot;unsaved&quot; then.

Oh, and for the St Augustine situation, if they invite you to dinner just say, &quot;I'm sorry, we have that time already scheduled for the oral sex&quot;.

Oh dear, I hope this isn't one of those times when I'm supposed to just nod in agreement and say, I understand. :eek:
 

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Isla,

Sorry to hear of the problems with the relatives.... :( yes, I know what you mean to get lots of flak from hard core Christians (not to say that ALL Christians are this way, just some of them).

My live in girlfriend (and probably future wife) let me in on the fact that her Baptist parents believe she's going to hell since we are &quot;living in sin&quot;. She is actually scared to have me go visit them (their from Alabama) because she thinks that they would absolutely flip if they got wind of my non-conformist views (I'm an Atheist).

Fortunately for me her own religious views are somewhat non-conformist agnosticism and so we are real compatible as GF/BF :p

It is really difficult putting up with this kind of stuff.... so yeah, I can empathize.... although my probs are just starting, I can't imagine what I'm going to be put through once we are married and have kids.... the grand-parents will be freaking out about whether the kids are baptized, going to church... yadda yadda yadda.

And people wonder why the bible thumpers get such a bad rap for pushing thier views on non-Christians! :|
 

GL

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I'd tell you to wear a kinky Catholic schoolgirl uniform to that vacation...but seeing that they're family and they'd be highly offended (in the most ironic of ways...it's a Catholic schoolgirl uniform;) )then maybe that's not a good idea.

-GL
 

Elita1

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I'm sorry they have been giving you such a hard time, Isla! It really is difficult when you must tolerate their crap for the sake of peace because these people are important to someone you love.***cough**I'llPMyouwitdadetails**cough***
My grandmother gave me the best advice before I got married and I was a bit foolish not to follow it at first--&quot;Lay down the boundaries for your in-laws&quot;. At the time I thought this was a cold thing to do but now I see how important it is.
Hope your trip with the Mr. turns out alright.
And they start making it hell for you, well.... you give them what-for!:)
 

Azraele

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Sorry to hear about your family problems. I feel your pain.
My grandmother-in-law lives with my husband and I and ohhhh she gets me so mad!
She expects me to run errands for her right this minute as if I have nothing better to do. She's also a major smoker and won't even put in an air filter because &quot;it makes too much noise.&quot; It wouldn't bother me so much if I wasn't terribly allergic to it :(
There are times when I want to open my mouth and let fly some things, but I keep it shut for the sake of peace and because she truly doesn not realize how much some of what she does bothers me.
Hang in there!

You may want to approach them and let them know that what they are doing bothers you, just be nice about it and they'll probably be more inclined to listen. Course I should follow my own advice eh? :p
 

Isla

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LOL Ornery, I might have to try that! And GL, hmmm I wonder if I can find one of my old uniforms... ;)

GirlFriday... I wasn't there to hear it! My daughter just told me about the conversation, which happened last month. She has a tendency to hold things in and then tell me... she got a book on how to be a good Christian teen in the mail from her today and it all came out. She was a bit offended! :D

AMDJunkie, my mother-in-law has been asked to leave 2 churches because she insisted on giving prophecies in the middle of worship service and telling the pastor how to run his church.

It just so happens that my mother-in-law is well known in more normal Christian circles as a total fruitcake.

Really, the problems I have with my inlaws have more to do with her mental illness than anything else. Mr Isla has some really nice relatives, but his mom is legendary. Trust me! She is quite possibly the most insane yet functioning person I have ever met... and she raised 4 children! On going therapy has been necessary for my dear Mr Isla, who has suffered in ways many of you cannot imagine.

I wish it weren't true... the only thing good about it is that I have some rich material for a novel one day.

Anyway, thank you everyone for your support. I very rarely complain about the situation because I have had to learn to live with it.

My best advice to all of you.... If people tell you to watch out for your boyfriend's mother BEFORE you marry him, you had better watch out! I had no less than 5 people (including my pastor, who tried to be diplomatic) warn me about what I was getting into.

&quot;It's the good advice... that you just didn't take!&quot;

Oh well... I got Mr Isla out of the deal. As the family &quot;Black Sheep&quot;, he is quite a catch. ;)
 

Soybomb

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<< &quot;I'm sorry, we have that time already scheduled for the oral sex&quot;. >>

Bah far too tame, if you really want their heads to spin you can add more deviant details :)

It does sound like you're going to have a bit of a headache though by the time its over Isla. Someday you'll no longer have to deal with them, and its great. Trust me :D
 

whooosh

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The fact that he is taking Tae Kwan Do is evidence of his rebellion against God

I'd like to see what that has to do with your faith.

Kinda like saying,

&quot;The fact that he is learning to drive is evidence of his rebellion against God&quot;

BOTH are JUST as deadly. :D

 

Yeeny

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GirlFriday... I wasn't there to hear it!

Ahh, so that explains why the lady in question did not invest in stock from Dolly Parton Wig Company. I did not think you were quite that saintly... ;)
 

AMDJunkie

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Well if she's so psycho, why don't you put a few tapes here and there in her room with some &quot;divine&quot; messages? :)

I want to read that novel when your finished with it.