In keeping with recent topics.....YAGT!

BlueWeasel

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I have know said girl since we were in college several years ago. We now live in the same city and frequent the same bars. I saw her for the first time since our college days towards the end of last year at one of the local bars. Well, we talked and caught up on each other's life.

I was interested in her and called her a few days later to ask her out. Unfortunately, she was seeing someone at the time. No big deal to me, and I soon moved on to bigger and better things. However, I always made it a point to go up to her in the bar to say hello and whatnot.

About a month ago, as she was leaving the bar she came over to my table and told me to call her. I didn't waste any time and called her the following night. This marks the beginning of a very physical relationship. :)

We have a great time over the next few weeks and it seems that we are compatible and its easy to talk. However, once the newness wears off, I can tell that "something" is wrong with her. She basically switches into mode where she starts to ignore me.

Well, this continues on for a few days until I finally take the hint. I ask her if something is wrong, and of course, she says no. After questioning a friend of hers, I find out that she really justs wants me to fade away in the sunset.

It's been two weeks and I have not heard anything from this girl. I am not mad that she "rejected" me, as quite frankly, it was just a casual sex relationship anyway. However, I am taken back by the fact that she has not bothered to tell me herself. How hard is it to tell someone you want to be friends?

It's just a matter of time before I see her hanging out. How would you handle the situation? I would like to remain friends with her, but a part of me says to ignore her just as she as done me. Then again, a part of me says to continue being my friendly self....nothing wrong with some more casual sex.... :)...and it shows I am bigger person.
 

radioouman

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Good luck dude! Just don't become attached to her enough that it might interfere with a better relationship later on.
 

godmare

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Originally posted by: BlueWeasel
nothing wrong with some more casual sex.... :)...and it shows I am bigger person.
Uhh, something about that statement is off, but I can't quite put my finger on it.....
You've obviously put nothing into this relationship (puns aside), so you won't be losing naything by letting it go, either.

 

BlueWeasel

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Xirtam Sorry...no drive-thru girl here. :(

Godmare
I agree with what you said about letting it go. However, I don't how I should react the first time I see her out. We were friends before this, and I have no hard feelings, so why couldn't we be friends now?

Then again, considering the way she acted toward me at the end, maybe she doesn't want to be friends at all. So why should I even speak to this girl?
 

CChaos

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Be nice. Say Hi. Don't let her inability to communicate in your relationship reflect badly on you. You'll both know what happened. That's enough.
 
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Don't begrudge her. you were her rebound guy. Enjoy the memories of her company and just be pleasant... maybe let her know that you don't hold any hard feelings for her, and that you hope the best for her.

 

MacGaven

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You seem pretty cool about it, as you should be.

Just don't take it too seriously. It's a shame that she acted so rudely and cared very little about the friendship you two had, but I would just her 'fade away into the sunset.'
 

BooGiMaN

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stand outside the bar she hangs out in with a sign tellign her u want to date her...or give her a survey :p

although judging from other YAGT this might not work..but you never know
 

xirtam

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Originally posted by: BooGiMaN
stand outside the bar she hangs out in with a sign tellign her u want to date her...or give her a survey :p

although judging from other YAGT this might not work..but you never know

It's untested! I recommend the survey. And be sure to let me know how it works.
 

About a month ago, as she was leaving the bar she came over to my table and told me to call her. I didn't waste any time and called her the following night. This marks the beginning of a very physical relationship.

WAIT TWO DAYS BEFORE CALLING YOU CLUEBY!
Jeez, everyone knows its a test of your desperation.
You failed, you were just a minor fling, move on, and learn.
 

BlueWeasel

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Originally posted by: SammySon
About a month ago, as she was leaving the bar she came over to my table and told me to call her. I didn't waste any time and called her the following night. This marks the beginning of a very physical relationship.

WAIT TWO DAYS BEFORE CALLING YOU CLUEBY!
Jeez, everyone knows its a test of your desperation.
You failed, you were just a minor fling, move on, and learn.


Yeah, Yeah....I know I didn't follow the "unwritten rules" as I should have. I should have waited a minimum of 2 days and a maximum of 5 days before calling her. Our entire relationship has crumbed because of speed dial! :)

Overall, I am cool about what happened. I realized I was the "rebound" for her, and I honestly didn't think longevity was going to come into the picture. I will continue to treat her as a friend, and hope she does the same for me. If she decides that a friendship is not for her....then that's her loss.
 

wnied

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Next time you see her in a bar, just wave hello and continue on with whatever your doing and leave her to her own accord.

~wnied~
 
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Originally posted by: BlueWeasel
Overall, I am cool about what happened. I realized I was the "rebound" for her, and I honestly didn't think longevity was going to come into the picture. I will continue to treat her as a friend, and hope she does the same for me. If she decides that a friendship is not for her....then that's her loss.

Dude, you were the rebound guy. You came, you saw, you uNfed, it's over.

Rebound guys are never anything more than fvckbuddies. Sorry to burst your bubble.

But hey, it was fun while it lasted, no? :D

- M4H
 

BlueWeasel

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Originally posted by: MercenaryForHire
Originally posted by: BlueWeasel
Overall, I am cool about what happened. I realized I was the "rebound" for her, and I honestly didn't think longevity was going to come into the picture. I will continue to treat her as a friend, and hope she does the same for me. If she decides that a friendship is not for her....then that's her loss.

Dude, you were the rebound guy. You came, you saw, you uNfed, it's over.

Rebound guys are never anything more than fvckbuddies. Sorry to burst your bubble.

But hey, it was fun while it lasted, no? :D

- M4H

Quite delightful....yes.... :evil:
 

BooGiMaN

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Originally posted by: wnied
Next time you see her in a bar, just wave hello and continue on with whatever your doing and leave her to her own accord.

~wnied~

also feel free to grab her ass and honk her boob especially if she is trying to talk to a guy or is around her freinds..u can also comment about that cool thing she does with her tongue ;) :p