I'm young and frustrated; does life get better?

[ProUser]

Brief history here. I'm 23, male, graduated school a little over a year ago.

I've really busted my rear, through my education and my job. Recently it just seams like everything has fallen apart. My company has had 4 layoffs, and numerous pay cuts. I feel I should be moving forward in my career, and instead I feel like I keep taking steps backwards everyday. (I work in the Tech industry, so looking for another job has been an effort in futility). Work truly sucks because morale is so horrible, so I literally go to work everyday and spend 9-10 hours in absolute agony. There is nobody my age there, and I really have nothing in common with any of them anymore (since most are now gone).

When I graduated school, I stayed local in the area because that is where my job is. Pretty much all of my friends have since taken jobs and moved away. Where I used to have too many friends to deal with, I now feel like I have only a handful left. And of those, their lives are so busy I rarely get to see them.

I don't know if anyone read the thread someone elase had 'my gf = piss drunk' or whatever. I posted a comment in there about an event, which ultimately just recently lead to the breakup of my girlfriend and I. I really loved that girl, but she had to go. On top of all my other frustrations my heart is now broken. I feel like I am at a 30 year olds mentality level; as I just want a mature commited relationship. It just seams like every girl I am attracted to is still stuck in her young party phase and ends up burning me. And all the girls who don't burn me, I break up with only to go off with some girl who eventually does only to kick myself and go wtf!? (I know it's the age; but it's frustrating because I'm simply not attracted to older women).

I know I have an unbelievable amount to be thankful for. And most people would probably give anything they had to be in my situation. But that still does not make my frustrations invalid.

Has anyone else out there experienced this? Does life get better? Is this really what I have to look forward to? Or am I just a big ass cry baby (oh yeah, I know I'm gonna get flamed for sure)? It just seams like everything that was once "solid" in my life has collapsed in the last few weeks, and everytime I pick part of me back up something else gets knocked down. I'm young. Shouldn't this be the "prime" of my life? Good lord this is like an enema from hell.

And as a testament to how frustrated I am, I'm drinking a damn Night Time Thera Flu just to try and get to sleep. I swear the second my head hits the pillow my brain starts going into overdrive... ok, I'm off my soapbox.. just needed to vent...

 

[pyonir]

i didn't read your post. i'm 24. and no. life doesn't get any better. it continues to suck.

 

[Sluggo]

Well to some degree you are being a crybaby...that being said most everyone here has shared the same feelings you are currently feeling...and has cryed about it a little themsleves.

Although it is extremely difficult during trying times, you must keep an eye on the big picture, and not the the little trials and tribulations drag you down. In a few months you will probably look back on your current thoughts and laugh at yourself.

It does get better, and it most certainly gets worse as well.

 

[smp]

"I'm young and frustrated, does life get any better?"

No .. it gets worse, you just get tougher (or break).

 

[Platypus]

No.

 

[MacBaine]

No. And now this thread belongs to me.

I claim this thread in the name of the Posters' Republic of ATOT!

 

[CrackRabbit]

Just wait a couple of years, gov't will collapse, get yourself some funky armor and a shotgun and go mad max style....


Seriously though, stick through it, the economy is bad everywhere, lots of things are folding not just tech, it will bounce back. Just may take some time. Dont Worry about relationships, let one find you dont look for one, Looking only leads to heartbreak.


Cheer Up!

CrackRabbit

Oh yeah, Almost forgot. P -8 and counting...

 

[Anubis]

simple answer is no

 

[Pixelated]

Quit your whining. Adapt and overcome. Most women in their early to mid-20s will want to party. Why is it so hard to be attracted to an older women who looks young. (My wife is over 30 and looks 22)

it gets worse... and it gets better... get over it.

 

[Kadarin]

You should hold yourself to higher standards when it comes to women; good ones really are out there, so you shouldn't just go out with the first good-looking one that comes along. As for the economy, well, it goes through cycles, and right now is not a good time. However, it will improve, and unless civilization collapses, there will always be a need for skilled tech workers. So yes, things will get better for you, and at some point you will reach a mental and emotional perspective which will allow you to laugh at your present situation.

 

[Maetryx]

The most important thing to realize is that you have many, many options. You seem to be stuck with the idea that your only choice is to go to work with your fingers crossed until they lay you off. Shoot, you're 23! If your not married, and you don't have any kids then the world is your playground.

Look for a job overseas. Move to Alaska. Join the military (an Air Force officer would be awesome for a single 23 year old college graduate). Change careers. Go back to grad school and get an MBA. Or go to law school. Start your own computer business. See a career counselor. Take a philosophy class at a local community college. Buy a duplex and rent out the other side.

There is so much you can do. Stop worrying about women and take advantage of the fact that you don't have one. Really. You just got out of college a year ago! You don't need to settle down with a wife just yet. And if that is an important milestone for you, then more power to you. But I'm telling you that if you are happy and successful in the environment that you ultimately provide for yourself, there will be a mature and stable woman that will be attracted to you because of her sense of maturity and stability.

You have the American dream, my friend. Male, 23, single, college education and no boundaries other than the ones you are putting up for yourself. Man. You don't even have to tell anyone what time you'll be where or why....

 

[poopaskoopa]

I know 2 guys in our age group who seem to ponder the same question as you. One doesn't have a degree nor certification. He got laid off, and hasn't found a decent job in 7 months. The other one got a degree in CPE, went to work for a very popular company and just bought a 2002 310-horse power Camaro Z28. I guess my point is that your life can get much worse, and you can always get a very fast car to amuse yourself.

 

[joohang]

Originally posted by: Maetryx
The most important thing to realize is that you have many, many options. You seem to be stuck with the idea that your only choice is to go to work with your fingers crossed until they lay you off. Shoot, you're 23! If your not married, and you don't have any kids then the world is your playground.

Look for a job overseas. Move to Alaska. Join the military (an Air Force officer would be awesome for a single 23 year old college graduate). Change careers. Go back to grad school and get an MBA. Or go to law school. Start your own computer business. See a career counselor. Take a philosophy class at a local community college. Buy a duplex and rent out the other side.

There is so much you can do. Stop worrying about women and take advantage of the fact that you don't have one. Really. You just got out of college a year ago! You don't need to settle down with a wife just yet. And if that is an important milestone for you, then more power to you. But I'm telling you that if you are happy and successful in the environment that you ultimately provide for yourself, there will be a mature and stable woman that will be attracted to you because of her sense of maturity and stability.

You have the American dream, my friend. Male, 23, single, college education and no boundaries other than the ones you are putting up for yourself. Man. You don't even have to tell anyone what time you'll be where or why....

You, sir, are a great man.

I'd contribute but my brain is fried at the moment.

 

[joohang]

Originally posted by: MacBaine
No. And now this thread belongs to me.

I claim this thread in the name of the Posters' Republic of ATOT!

Who the HELL are you?

 

[joohang]

Originally posted by: Pixelated
Quit your whining. Adapt and overcome. Most women in their early to mid-20s will want to party. Why is it so hard to be attracted to an older women who looks young. (My wife is over 30 and looks 22)

it gets worse... and it gets better... get over it.

Not intending to pick on you personally, what is this "get over" sh*t? Just be oblivious to the problems and that will somehow solve these issues? That is an outrageous waste of time.

The real solution is to investigate within oneself, ProUser. Keep asking yourself. Why are you mad or sad? Why are you frustrated? How do your problems block you from doing what you want to do with your life?

In most cases, you will ultimately come to that you are the only one blocking yourself from doing what you want.

Ask for help. Ask your friends to engage with you in a serious discussion where they, without intending to get some sort of previously-decided outcome, asks you questions like "what blocks you from doing that?" or "how/why does (your problem) screw up your problems?" etc etc.

Life does not suck for me, but I could always perceive it that way if I chose to do so. It is all within the eye of the beholder. It's not like we live in Afghanistan.

 

[yakko]

This is frustrated. You are Pro. Get it straight.

 

[joohang]

Originally posted by: yakko
This is frustrated. You are Pro. Get it straight.

LOL

 

[amok]

Sometimes things are good, and sometimes bad. Part of the time we screw things up, and part of the time others crap on us. But those moments where everything falls into place can be enough to weather all the bad times.

 

[Bluefront]

Well "young and frustrated", with that attitude you'll soon be old and frustrated. You've got the wrong job, at the wrong time. Just move on...it's not so hard at your age. Get a second job in another field, if that's what it takes. Get out more....bars, whatever. You'll find many people less well-off than yourself who manage to make life a happy place, despite the frustrations.

 

[toadstool]

I doesn't get better....or worse. I've had some good years, and then some really crappy ones. I don't think that trend is going to change. Don't expect age to be a cure for life's ills. life stays the same no matter what age you are.

Basically, you just have to learn to go with the flow. Life is like the stock market. You reach some real highs.............then you crash
Then life's good again. Then something else comes along and kicks you hard, right in the ass!

Just learn to deal with it dude. Your're only going to be around another 40-50 years. You don't want to spend that whole time worrying about when the next meteor is gonna hit.

Like I said before, things just don't change all of a sudden, when you hit a certain age. You're gonna continue to have the good times and bad times the rest of your life. If you can't change it, why waste time worrying about it.

 

[ToBeMe]

Na, doesn't get any better..............you just get more responsiblities and more problems as you go................

 

[Pliablemoose]

To quote a friend of mine about what to expect out of life, "There are more 0's on the amount of your check, but there are more 0's on your bills, sometimes I have really excellent sex with my wife, and every once in a while, I get to eat a really good meal."

I had the same frustrations too when I was in my 20's, the female situation does get better, but when you're in late 20's early 30's they (women) usually have a failed marriage (with a guy who was totally wrong for them in the first place) and a kid or two (from the guy who was a bad choice

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The older you get, the better the odds of meeting a decent woman get better, the old guys I know that go to the senior centers say that if you live long enough, you have to beat the women off with a stick, of course your stick doesn't work that well anymore, but that's what Viagra is for

 

[gotsmack]

Life's a bitch, then you die. sometimes you marry one and just wish you were dead.

There's so much stuff you can still do before you get married and start a family. Y not get started on it now. I'm sure you have a list of things like skydiving or bungee jumping.

Originally posted by: Pliablemoose

The older you get, the better the odds of meeting a decent woman get better, the old guys I know that go to the senior centers say that if you live long enough, you have to beat the women off with a stick, of course your stick doesn't work that well anymore, but that's what Viagra is for

That was great.

 

[FeathersMcGraw]

Life gets better when you make it better. Seek career counselling, dating services, whatever is needed to address what you think is deficient in your life.

 

[skace]

I have noticed this is an often affect of the corporate workforce. It beats people down and keeps them there. Some get used to it, some feed off it, some get out while they can, some turn into zombies. Corporate workforce is really a scary thing when you analyze it.