Alright, I'll try to explain. I've known this guy since 5th grade, we haven't always been close, but off and on. We went to college together this is our freshman year - we're staying in an apartment-style place, and he's one of my three roomates (but we each have our room). In Dallas, our circle of friends used to revolve around him, well at least to a large extent. I always considered him a fairly social guy, he used to like to go hang out or go out (not much of a partier or a drinker though, but that's okay, its not for everybody). He's now been dating his current girlfriend for a year (well it will be tomorrow). She's always been the real shy type, and I guess its rubbing off on him. She goes to another college, about 200 miles away, and basically every weekend he either goes to see her or she comes here.
I like her, she's just not the most social person, but she's real nice. What I'm worried about is that he doesn't seem to be making any friends here - espically at A&M, a place known for its friendliness - he just appears to not want to hassle with it - he's totally absorbed with her. He will talk to her on IM for at least an hour each day, and after 9 pm, i should basically forget he's here, cause he'll be on his cell phone for a good 2-3 hours with her. What they talk about I have no idea, but he gets irrated when I interrupt them (and my interruptions are always brief). He never wants to go out at night (cause he's always on the phone) - and when she's here, they basically hang out in his room for about 18 hours a day - I never see them. I have no idea what they do at her school, but I imagine its pretty much the same. Worse still, I think he's becoming more irratable, and sometimes comes off to me as the fact that he thinks the only person worth his time is her. Even some of his (and mine) close friends from Dallas are starting to not want to talk to him. I just don't know if this relationship is healthy - it sure doesn't appear so to me. I'm also worried that if they broke up, the damage (to both of them, really, since her few friends have drifted away from her), it would be catastrophic since their support structure is so thin. Thankfully, I don't see that happening anytimesoon. Is there anything I can do, or should I just keep my nose in my own business?
I like her, she's just not the most social person, but she's real nice. What I'm worried about is that he doesn't seem to be making any friends here - espically at A&M, a place known for its friendliness - he just appears to not want to hassle with it - he's totally absorbed with her. He will talk to her on IM for at least an hour each day, and after 9 pm, i should basically forget he's here, cause he'll be on his cell phone for a good 2-3 hours with her. What they talk about I have no idea, but he gets irrated when I interrupt them (and my interruptions are always brief). He never wants to go out at night (cause he's always on the phone) - and when she's here, they basically hang out in his room for about 18 hours a day - I never see them. I have no idea what they do at her school, but I imagine its pretty much the same. Worse still, I think he's becoming more irratable, and sometimes comes off to me as the fact that he thinks the only person worth his time is her. Even some of his (and mine) close friends from Dallas are starting to not want to talk to him. I just don't know if this relationship is healthy - it sure doesn't appear so to me. I'm also worried that if they broke up, the damage (to both of them, really, since her few friends have drifted away from her), it would be catastrophic since their support structure is so thin. Thankfully, I don't see that happening anytimesoon. Is there anything I can do, or should I just keep my nose in my own business?
