i'm totally confused about myself

[pontifex]

I'm usually pretty shy, especially around people i don't know. unless they talk to me 1st i generally don't start conversations. i'm really shy around women that i'm attracted to.

now, the part that is confusing to me is this: sometimes i can talk to women i'm attracted to with no problem. for instance, last night at the dentist office. my dental hygenist is really cute and really nice. i had no problem talking to her.

the girl i'm attracted to here at work, forget about it. maybe a few small sentences if that. i just don't know what to say.

maybe because the dental hygenist started talking to me 1st and asking questions, that made it easier? maybe the setting? i don't know. i find it really weird and i don't know why i can't feel that comfortable around everyone.

i always thought i wanted a girl who was shy and quiet like me but maybe i need someon who is a little more outgoing to help me get rid of my shyness.

 

[krunchykrome]

Maybe you just need a woman who happens to be a Dentist.

 

[pontifex]

Originally posted by: krunchykrome
Maybe you just need a woman who happens to be a Dentist.

you think maybe i have a dentist fetish or something? lol

 

[LordMorpheus]

you have an oral fetish?!

 

[Ika]

This is eerily similar to something I've been thinking about.

 

[pontifex]

Originally posted by: LordMorpheus
you have an oral fetish?!

what guy doesn't?

 

[j00fek]

Originally posted by: LordMorpheus
you have an oral fetish?!

OMGZBBQZ :laugh:

 

[Doctorweir]

Originally posted by: krunchykrome
Maybe you just need a woman who happens to be a Dentist.

:thumbsup:

Or dressed in a white miniskirt giving you the "where does it hurt?"-look...

 

[pontifex]

Originally posted by: Doctorweir

Originally posted by: krunchykrome
Maybe you just need a woman who happens to be a Dentist.

:thumbsup:

Or dressed in a white miniskirt giving you the "where does it hurt?"-look...

damn, who's your dentist?
mine wear like hospital scrubs.

 

[krunchykrome]

Originally posted by: pontifex

Originally posted by: krunchykrome
Maybe you just need a woman who happens to be a Dentist.

you think maybe i have a dentist fetish or something? lol

LOL

I think it's always easier to talk to women when it's professional. For example, the woman the cuts your hair, or your dentist, etc.

A coworker is a little more intimate because you see each other everyday.

 

[laurenlex]

You know you have no chance with the dental hygenist, therefore you are not afraid.

You have something to lose with the chick at work, therefore you are timid.

 

[tfinch2]

Originally posted by: laurenlex
You know you have no chance with the dental hygenist, therefore you are not afraid.

LOL

Originally posted by: pontifex
no, its not about my sexual preferences

Are you sure?

 

[pontifex]

Originally posted by: tfinch2

Originally posted by: laurenlex
You know you have no chance with the dental hygenist, therefore you are not afraid.

LOL

Originally posted by: pontifex
no, its not about my sexual preferences

Are you sure?

100% sure. but i do worry about the guys who use female avatars.

 

[moshquerade]

you confuse us also.

 

[LanceM]

As others have said, you know you're going to see the coworker again. The dental hygenist may disappear tomorrow for all you know, so there's no risk involved. If, however, you muck things up with the coworker, everyone will know. EVERYONE.

Best bet is to hide. HIDE NOW. Find a cave, closet, or dark corner and hide so you don't get hurt.

Really, though, the problem is that you're trying too hard with the coworker. You don't TRY to have a conversation, you just DO. If it doesn't come naturally, then it wouldn't work out anyway.

 

[pontifex]

Originally posted by: LanceM
As others have said, you know you're going to see the coworker again. The dental hygenist may disappear tomorrow for all you know, so there's no risk involved. If, however, you muck things up with the coworker, everyone will know. EVERYONE.

Best bet is to hide. HIDE NOW. Find a cave, closet, or dark corner and hide so you don't get hurt.

Really, though, the problem is that you're trying too hard with the coworker. You don't TRY to have a conversation, you just DO. If it doesn't come naturally, then it wouldn't work out anyway.

so basically it wouldn't work out with any girl that i'm attracted to?

 

[LanceM]

No, you'll eventually find a girl that you're attracted to AND can talk to.

The problem is you're trying to make small talk with these girls. The *right one* will not require you to make these horrific attempts at small talk. It will come naturally, no matter how attracted you are to her.

 

[tfinch2]

Originally posted by: pontifex

Originally posted by: LanceM
As others have said, you know you're going to see the coworker again. The dental hygenist may disappear tomorrow for all you know, so there's no risk involved. If, however, you muck things up with the coworker, everyone will know. EVERYONE.

Best bet is to hide. HIDE NOW. Find a cave, closet, or dark corner and hide so you don't get hurt.

Really, though, the problem is that you're trying too hard with the coworker. You don't TRY to have a conversation, you just DO. If it doesn't come naturally, then it wouldn't work out anyway.

so basically it wouldn't work out with any girl that i'm attracted to?

Basically he's saying grow a pair.

 

[InlineFive]

Originally posted by: LanceM
No, you'll eventually find a girl that you're attracted to AND can talk to.

The problem is you're trying to make small talk with these girls. The *right one* will not require you to make these horrific attempts at small talk. It will come naturally, no matter how attracted you are to her.

Never were truer words written!

 

[shortylickens]

Originally posted by: LanceM
As others have said, you know you're going to see the coworker again. The dental hygenist may disappear tomorrow for all you know, so there's no risk involved. If, however, you muck things up with the coworker, everyone will know. EVERYONE.
Best bet is to hide. HIDE NOW. Find a cave, closet, or dark corner and hide so you don't get hurt.
Really, though, the problem is that you're trying too hard with the coworker. You don't TRY to have a conversation, you just DO. If it doesn't come naturally, then it wouldn't work out anyway.

Good point.
I learned it a long time ago.
If you have to try to like a girl or have to try to make her like you, its not happening. The relationships where people naturally come together work best.
Feeling comfortable with a gal is a much better beginning than having a crush on her.
Not that crushes are bad, they just arent a good start.

 

[pwilson316]

Part of the dental hygenist's job is to make you feel comfortable and strike up a conversation. She does the same with other people, all day, every day.

 

[Kyanzes]

Try this: sit down in front of the co-worker girl at he opposite side of her desk. Stare at her. Conspicuously put one of your hands under the desk out of view. Look at her with cloudy eyes and start to moan, after like ten seconds simulate an orgasm. If it won't work come back for more advices.

or

You could tell her that you like her.

 

[Blazin Trav]

The coworker sounds like a good friends with benefits sorta situation.

 

[GoldenGuppy]

Go meet some people you do not know and be the MOST CONFIDENT guy ever (act if you have to, that might help). The reasoning behind this is: these people do not know who you are or anything about you... for all they know, you might be the MOST OUTGOING and CONFIDENT guy this side of the world!

 

[pontifex]

Originally posted by: pwilson316
Part of the dental hygenist's job is to make you feel comfortable and strike up a conversation. She does the same with other people, all day, every day.

maybe i missed the part where i said i thought she liked me because she started a conversation with me, or maybe its just in your head.

i never said she liked me or that i thought she liked me. i just mentioned that i thought she was cute and i had no problem talking to her but i have a problem talking to a girl at work that i like.

you people amaze me every day. usually with unbelivable stupidity.