im so nervous!

[eakers]

i am going out with my boyfriends friend who i barely know. i am really really shy and this is a huge thing for me.
then this weekend we are going to her (and my bfs) friends
house. [like without my boyfriend.]
i cant even believe im going, this is so not me, i always stick with what i know and with people i know really well and stuff.

im so nervous, im so bad socially. ack!

perhaps this is the road to actually going out with people and making new friends.


yeah so any making conversation tips?
*kat.

 

[Technics1200]

Dudette, this is the road to get away from the computer, away from ATOT. Great chance, don't ruin it.

I know how you feel about being nervous and what not. Sometimes the friends turn out to be a great crowd, then sometimes they turn out to be a bunch of dick heads.

 

[gittyup]

Maybe I mis-understand something. You are a female and have a boyfriend? You are going out with your boyfriends friend, who is female?


By going out do you mean friends or other?

 

[gopunk]

lol, i had to read your post a bunch of times before i got it. i thought you were going on a date with your boyfriend's friend or something. i was like "wha..."

i know what you're going through. i dunno, try talking to the people you know, then turn around and include a stranger, like "yea that concert was awesome! *turn around* hey do you like *insert band name*?"

or you can be silent the whole time and only speak occasionally, thus leading people to believe you're wise. well, that might only work for guys who have beards and trenchcoats.

 

[eakers]

i was thinking i would sit quietly and insert an "indeeeeeed" every once and a while

no no date, just going out with my bfs friend, who is a girl.

*kat. <-- so nervous she finally forgot!
<-- ack!
<-- looks cute though

 

[Aceman]

gittyup, I'm in the same boat as you. Lost on who exactly the players are in this. But kat, you should do fine and be feeling comfortable in no time. You seem to have a very pleasant upbeat attitude on the board. I don't see why this wouldn't carry on in person with you.

 

[kranky]

The best way to have people think you're good at conversation is to ask them about themselves and then let them talk! Don't feel like you have to do all the talking.

It's a good thing to meet new people. You won't like them all, but you'll eventually meet people you will get to be friends with.

You can always talk about what they are doing this summer, school plans, what new music they got, Gap commercials, movies they want to see, what really happened to Mariah Carey, what new car they'd most like to have, favorite foods, most disgusting thing they ever ate, what would be their dream job, or comment on an item of jewelry or clothing they are wearing.

 

[gopunk]

i was thinking i would sit quietly and insert an &quot;indeeeeeed&quot; every once and a while

or you could stroke your chin thoughtfully and speak in riddles j/k, bad idea...

*kat. <-- so nervous she finally forgot!

forgot what?

<-- looks cute though

er... any pictures?

 

[gopunk]

oh yea and if there's somebody you don't like, give it a little time. sometimes (although more often not) i find somebody to be really arrogant or something, but then i realize that they're good people and fun...

 

[jsbush]

Being shy does suck! You should really work on trying to over come it! I have come a long way even though I still am shy.

Doing simple things is what helped me most.

Good luck! I don't recommend this but you could have a few beers befor hand, help you unwide! Hehe

 

<< i cant even believe im going, this is so not me, i always stick with what i know and with people i know really well and stuff. >>



How do you party then?

 

[eakers]

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<< i cant even believe im going, this is so not me, i always stick with what i know and with people i know really well and stuff. >>



How do you party then? >>



with people i know then once i have had a few drinks or i get really comfortable then i can go around meeting new people. its different at parties you know a whole different atmosphere than normal society, well except for now there are alotta cliques forming and what not but i know alotta peeps by from the old days.

*kat. <-- and by party she assumes you mean raves.

 

[GoldenGuppy]

You should just stop being nervous and just go with the flow, it's probably the best thing you can do right now. It is easy for us to give you the advice because we're not in the same &quot;nervous&quot; position as you are. If you just contemplate every little thing we say, you might get even more nervous!

You're invited to a get-together, and even though your bf isn't with you, you should still be able to have a good time. I'm sure that you'll meet a lot of people to talk to and that you'll have a great time. It's a party - it's meant to be a place where people can go to relieve some stress...

Just go have a good time and don't have an anxiety attack =) ... good luck, have fun.