I'm so depressed about gaining my weight back...

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BigToque

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I have been fat for as long as I can remember. When I started grade 12, I was 242 lbs (5'9). I vividly remember on the day of my graduation I was 224lbs.

When I met my girlfriend 2.5 years after I graduated, I was in the best shape of my life. I had put on some muscle and I got myself down to 170lbs on the dot. I never made it to 169. (I've got a big frame with broad shoulders - so if I was 180lbs with muscle I would look fantastic).

It has been 5 years since I graduated (I'm 23 now), and I've been with my girlfriend for 2.5 years. I am now 233 lbs.

Right after I met my GF, I hurt myself at the gym and just stopped going. I started eating poorly and not getting much exercise.

My girlfriend put a scrap book together with pictures of us over the first year. Looking at the pictures I couldn't believe how thin and good I looked (even though I didn't think I looked good - that's how much being fat your whole life can affect your self-esteem). It made me so depressed because I've gone back to what I was when I graduated.

I keep trying to push myself and I just keep hitting a wall and I don't know how to break through it :(

that's all... I'm just feeling sorry for myself...
 
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xospec1alk

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pics?

maybe you and the gf can goto the gym together?

last year i went from 210 to roughly 180. i have yet to make it under 178 but now im back at 185 and pretty much maintaining weight. its tough, but totally doable. and having a gf doesn't help. last year without a gf to tie me down i was pretty resolute in losing weight.
 
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Gravity

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Depression can be easily assassinated in the gym. How did you hurt yourself? There are other ways to excercise. Get a bike and ride like Lance.
 
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blackdogdeek

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as i see it, you have 2 choices:

1. continue to wallow in self-pity

2. do something about it

i hope you go with the 2nd choice.
 
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pclstyle

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Yep- my gf pretty much killed my gym routine. Since she's been overseas this summer, i've been hitting the gym 4x a week, muscle group rotations. Never felt better.

Good luck
 
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pclstyle

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Originally posted by: Gravity
Depression can be easily assassinated in the gym. How did you hurt yourself? There are other ways to excercise. Get a bike and ride like Lance.
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I'd like to keep both my testicles, thank you very much.
 
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Juice Box

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Originally posted by: pclstyle
Yep- my gf pretty much killed my gym routine. Since she's been overseas this summer, i've been hitting the gym 4x a week, muscle group rotations. Never felt better.

Good luck
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gfs tend to do that....kinda sucks when it ends :p
 
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BigToque

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Originally posted by: YetioDoom
I'm down to 197 from 271. You can doo eeet!
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Congrats! You know how I felt after going from 240 to 170... just don't let yourself go back to 270.
 
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Patt

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You know you just have to break through the wall ... just do it. I'm right there ... I'm halfway through the wall, and working further at it. Get your GF to help you be motivated, it has worked for me. We now cook something healthy every day (with leftovers for lunch), and that alone has helped. Now that I'm eating better, working out feels so much better, and I have a lot more energy. Down to < 210 from around 230ish ... 5'10". My goal is 180 ... get back in saddle OP :)
 
SaltBoy

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My wife and I have recently started to work out together. She pushes me and I push her; so far it's going great! Maybe a little encouragement from your girlfriend would help you out.

Also, I've come to realize that dieting (at least for me) alone doesn't work as well as exercise alone. Sure, I'd lose weight, but it's hard for me to change my eating habits. I figure exercise will not only increase my metabolism but will also get me in shape. So I suggest exercise first, then probably dieting later when you're ready.

Good luck!
 
Iron Woode

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Originally posted by: Stefan
I have been fat for as long as I can remember. When I started grade 12, I was 242 lbs (5'9). I vividly remember on the day of my graduation I was 224lbs.

When I met my girlfriend 2.5 years after I graduated, I was in the best shape of my life. I had put on some muscle and I got myself down to 170lbs on the dot. I never made it to 169. (I've got a big frame with broad shoulders - so if I was 180lbs with muscle I would look fantastic).

It has been 5 years since I graduated (I'm 23 now), and I've been with my girlfriend for 2.5 years. I am now 233 lbs.

Right after I met my GF, I hurt myself at the gym and just stopped going. I started eating poorly and not getting much exercise.

My girlfriend put a scrap book together with pictures of us over the first year. Looking at the pictures I couldn't believe how thin and good I looked (even though I didn't think I looked good - that's how much being fat your whole life can affect your self-esteem). It made me so depressed because I've gone back to what I was when I graduated.

I keep trying to push myself and I just keep hitting a wall and I don't know how to break through it :(

that's all... I'm just feeling sorry for myself...
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I went through the exact same thing.

I weighed around 240 in highschool and then had a massive weight loss when I was 20. I weighed 175 (I am 6'1"). I worked out and looked pretty darn good. Then I grew long hair and met a great woman:

http://pics.bbzzdd.com/users/IronWoode/Ironwoode_and_sue.jpg

Then at 26 I started gaining weight and had a serious case of clinical depression. Everything fell apart. I maxed out at nearly 300 lbs. :Q

I have since worked hard and have dropped to 240 lbs. Hopefully I will hit 200 lbs soon.
 
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Tiamat

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Yeah, you know you can do it since youve done it before, you just have get motivated! If you can get your gf to help you get your butt to the gym, that would probably help quite a bit!

Although we have opposite problems (i need to gain 40lbs) I know how ya feel cause I lost about 4 months worth of work due to 3 weeks of illness :/
Someday I will concur my insane high metabolism.
 
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Lonyo

Lifer
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Isn't it weird than almost all asians seem to be skinny and able to stay skinny?
Damned lucky asians.
 
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BigToque

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Originally posted by: Tiamat
Yeah, you know you can do it since youve done it before, you just have get motivated! If you can get your gf to help you get your butt to the gym, that would probably help quite a bit!

Although we have opposite problems (i need to gain 40lbs) I know how ya feel cause I lost about 4 months worth of work due to 3 weeks of illness :/
Someday I will concur my insane high metabolism.
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I'll gladly trade metabolisms for a few months if you'd like :)
 
Joemonkey

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i'm 6'1" and weighed 170 when i graduated high school. Got up to 230 in college, then started working at a liquor store where i was on my feet all day lifting cases of beer/liquor/wine. I stayed at 230 for a few weeks but kept losing inches. I got back down to 190, and now that I have a job where I sit behind a desk i'm back up to 222. I like food way to much to change how i eat, and we have a 6 week old baby so finding gym time is pretty difficult.
 
Aharami

Aharami

Lifer
Aug 31, 2001
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thats it. u have convinced me to get back to the gym. been slackin for a month now.

gonna spend 3 hrs there tonight!!

thanks!
 
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