Originally posted by: alkemyst
I have had tons of relationships. Those with married, unmarried, single and in relationships....I myself haven't cheated, but I have also been involved while going through a divorce I started...sometimes things take time, and I am not one to put my life on hold waiting for paperwork to be shuffled.
The single person is never the 'cheater' or the 'unhonorable' one. Perhaps if the woman/man was their friend's mate, then it would be different...but if the couple is nothing to the single person then no disloyalty or problem is there for that person. The other party is the one that's wrong. The single person owes no committment to anyone but themselves, that's what marriage is for (or an engagement or the expressed verbal commitment to not see anyone else).
Saying otherwise is the same analogy that you should take all injustice in to your hands regardless if it has anything to do with you. If you believe this you better get on a plane (sell off everything you own if you have to) and hop on a plane to one of several places in the world that needs you 😉.
Now thinking the 'cheater' is relationship material is a little foolish most of the time, however, it can happen especially if the reason they are cheating is major neglect. I was in that case, although I wasn't cheating 'technically' since although I was married we had agreed to start new relationships/dating and also during that time we still 'dated' each other.
I am not saying having an affair with a married person is right or wrong, it's really no one's business but the married couple's.
In reality marriage is what someone makes it....and if legal there would be many polygamists/people with additional partners. If you live in a big city with a swingers club, check out how many couples are waiting to get in and then how many leave with a 'third' (or more) party.
