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Lifer
- Aug 9, 2002
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I did both in my life and can't decipher in which one leaves more regret. No, not because I felt bad after I got rejected and could never date again. Just felt regret I couldn't get intimate with her like they way I wanted to.
You just have to ask yourself what you really want. Try to see thru all the smoke. Difficult, but pain passes.
You're missing a c) option: she points and laughs at you, and tells all your other roommates what a fool you are. You live in humiliation for the rest of your lease.
I'll say this: You're worried about what happens if you ask her out and she rejects you. While this is an understandable concern, you yourself said that she's gonna be leaving for a while in February. Therefore, if things don't go in a positive way, you'll only have to deal with it for a couple months, and her not being around will definitely help you get over it if that turns out to be the case.
On the other hand, if you ask her and she says yes, well, you already know all the obvious benefits of that.
I've been in the 'friend zone' before because i didn't act, and even now i wonder what would have happened if i did...also, i see in hindsight that i didn't really have much to lose by asking. I wouldn't necessarily say that you have to do it now like a lot of people on this board, but you should at least let her know that you like spending time with her/being in her company...and that you'd like to treat her to a day out to just get away together.
On the other hand, if you ask her and she says yes, well, you already know all the obvious benefits of that.
I've been in the 'friend zone' before because i didn't act, and even now i wonder what would have happened if i did...also, i see in hindsight that i didn't really have much to lose by asking. I wouldn't necessarily say that you have to do it now like a lot of people on this board, but you should at least let her know that you like spending time with her/being in her company...and that you'd like to treat her to a day out to just get away together.
By all means make a move. BUT, if she's just coming out of a long-term relationship, now may not be the best time. Just remember, it's better to act to early than too late.
Oh, and when in doubt, whip it out.
Oh, and when in doubt, whip it out.
GTaudiophile
Lifer
- Oct 24, 2000
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Originally posted by: SickBeast
I don't have any pics of her. I suppose I could snap one of here with my digicam when she gets all dressed up tomorrow night...nice...use this bad situation to my advantage.
You're running out of time, sir!
Adul
Elite Member
OK here's the all-important update:
She went on her little date, but things didn't go very well. She said that it was too soon for her after her last relationship.
I'm really upset about the pics; I had my digicam set to "macro" mode by accident and the pics didn't turn out!! ARGH! You guys will just have to trust me on this one. I'll try to snap another one of her ASAP.
I haven't said anything to her yet, aside from telling her she's beautiful and some various other compliments.
I'm pretty sure that by now she has SOME idea that I'm interested in her. The fact that she hasn't given me any clear signs has me worried that she's either not ready yet or else she's just as worried about things getting complicated around here as I am.
LOL!!! :Q
Ask her out.
Don't make it an official date. Just go do something fun together. Do that a few times, see what happens. Purposefully setup romantic situations, make any moves you decide to make then, see how it pans out.
Just let things flow. Thinking about things too much will screw you up.
The purpose here is to not make her feel threatened with the prospect of a new relationship, but.. to just go out and have fun, and see if a relationship develops. It won't be so "in your face", and perhaps she will embrace it.
That's just how I would go about it, off the top of my head, given the details I've read. You never know.
You may have only known her for 2 months, but thats a lot longer than any of us have, so you're much more qualified to tune yourself to her personality and "do the right thing" than we are.
hahaha. i left for thanksgiving break and i saw this thread. im back, and this thread is still here.
then by all means pull back... if you try to jump on her now after she told you it was too soon since her break-up, you'll look like an ass.
Dude, get on it. Don't try to press anything if she doesn't want something serious. Just offer to freaking buy her dinner or something! If you get along so well with her, then she shouldn't be offended at the idea of spending more time with you. Just don't make it out to be something big.
dude ask her out quick, you dont has to ask her out like a date, just ask her to go hang out with you as roommate, if she even rejects you as a roommate, then at least you know. If she says yes, you can then ask her out again next time, and go from there.
go luck,
rich
go luck,
rich
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