Im Hurting Even Worse Guys

[Darkstar757]

Well I think it has finnally happend. My girlfriend of a year and half is gone. Im so sad and depressed right now, I feel like my world is crashing in. After this I dont know if I could ever love a woman again because she hurt me so bad. Its all because her family is crazy and she doesnt want to distance herself from it. Now im all depressed man I think I might need some professional help but I dont have the money to get it.

Any help would be appericiated.

 

[Jetblade]

Find another girl ASAP!

Nothing cures the broken heart better than some more lubbin!

 

[maziwanka]

hmmmm

 

[bernse]

Originally posted by: Darkstar757
Well I think it has finnally happend. My girlfriend of a year and half is gone. Im so sad and depressed right now, I feel like my world is crashing in. After this I dont know if I could ever love a woman again because she hurt me so bad. Its all because her family is crazy and she doesnt want to distance herself from it. Now im all depressed man I think I might need some professional help but I dont have the money to get it.

Any help would be appericiated.

Your first real girlfriend or love I am guessing?

 

[TheBoyBlunder]

:beer:

 

[Aharami]

we are here to help man. what happened? why did she leave?

 

[SaltBoy]

Hey, there's nothing wrong with hurting really bad guys. They probably deserved it!

Sorry, laughter (even at really lame jokes) is the best medicine. You'll get over it soon. There's plenty more women out there for ya'!

 

[KahunaHube]

without pain one cannot experience joy

 

[tennisflip]

She chose her family over you? If that's the case then your better off w/someone who will always put YOU first.

 

[Nitemare]

bury yourself in cheap booze and ho's it dulls the pain.

Then you can go out and look for her replacement

 

[ragazzo]

trust me on this: you'll find another girl you'll love and who will love you. don't keep yourself locked up in your room and feelin sorry for yourself. get out there and make yourself available. hang out with friends. hone your skills (sports?). any hobbies? exercise. etc.

 

[Darkstar757]

Well she didnt cheat on me or anything like that. For the record I really really loved this girl. Well she has alot of family problems and she has a college degree but now she is living at home. Her mother just married this new guy after only dating him for four months! Well to make a long story short we argue about how she handles things. Im often quick to get mad but she is very calm. I have taken her advise on how to calm down but she wont take my advise that she need to come live with me or move out of the house. So after months of arguing about this we kind of decieded to break up. What hurts me so much is how she says she loves me but she can ever put me first. This whole issue is making me ill, I really think I need some depression consuling because I dont think its normal for me to feel so sad all the time. By the way this sadness issue has been around before we broke up. Basically it has been around since we started the long distance thing with me in TN and her in Delaware.

 

[Hammer]

i read the title wrong. thought you were beating up some lowlifes

 

[JulesMaximus]

Been there done that. Time will heal your wounds...nothing else will though. Just try to keep yourself busy and one day a few months from now you will realize that it doesn't hurt much anymore. I found that spending time with friends and family was the best thing to help me forget her. I still talk to the one who hurt me the worst. We are long distance friends now (we talk a few times a year). She's married now as am I.

 

[gopunk]

Originally posted by: Hammer
i read the title wrong. thought you were beating up some lowlifes

yea i thought you were like a bounty hunter or something

do you go to school? they might have some cheap counseling services...

 

[Darkstar757]

Originally posted by: gopunk

Originally posted by: Hammer
i read the title wrong. thought you were beating up some lowlifes

yea i thought you were like a bounty hunter or something

do you go to school? they might have some cheap counseling services...

Naw no school im a young working professional now.

 

[SP33Demon]

Sorry to hear about the LD relationship... if you're still in college, it makes it that much harder man. I went through some bad breakups with girls I dated for a year and 3 years, both LD.

What you need to do is spend some time with the most important person, YOURSELF. Don't jump out in the field and look for a replacement, that's the wrong approach. You will only suppress your pain in trying to hide it if you do that. Just do what makes you happy, whether it be playing video games, or hanging out with good friends. Don't worry about women again until you are ready.

 

[XZeroII]

www.kevorkian.com


j/k

Cheer up. Thing will work out. I guarentee.

 

[new2AMD]

you arent the first to experience this nor will you be the last. Time heals all wounds. Remeber that.

 

Go out with your guy friends if you have any, and drink it away.

 

[JulesMaximus]

Originally posted by: Darkstar757
Well she didnt cheat on me or anything like that. For the record I really really loved this girl. Well she has alot of family problems and she has a college degree but now she is living at home. Her mother just married this new guy after only dating him for four months! Well to make a long story short we argue about how she handles things. Im often quick to get mad but she is very calm. I have taken her advise on how to calm down but she wont take my advise that she need to come live with me or move out of the house. So after months of arguing about this we kind of decieded to break up. What hurts me so much is how she says she loves me but she can ever put me first. This whole issue is making me ill, I really think I need some depression consuling because I dont think its normal for me to feel so sad all the time. By the way this sadness issue has been around before we broke up. Basically it has been around since we started the long distance thing with me in TN and her in Delaware.

It's normal to hurt so much. Sounds like you two had quite a few issues. It is for the best, if you were sad in the relationship prior to the breakup then it is definitely for the best. I did the long distance thing with my girl also. I had a job opportunity 200 miles away from her (we actually got back together after she dumped me the first time-that was a big mistake). Moving so far away actually helped me get over her and move on because I wasn't always around mutual friends or places we used to go together.

I actually thought about proposing to this girl...man, that would have been a HUGE mistake. She did cheat on me...Ironically, when she dumped the guy she left me for she came back to me and he was the one she was cheating on. What a mess. I was so dumb back then.

 

[Shelly21]

Get a transitional gf to get over your grief.

 

[PunDogg]

sorry to hear about that but a buddy of mine just lost his girlfriend of 6 years, but she was crazy, but still 6 years. It will only get better man

Dogg

 

[Darkstar757]

Originally posted by: SP33Demon
Sorry to hear about the LD relationship... if you're still in college, it makes it that much harder man. I went through some bad breakups with girls I dated for a year and 3 years, both LD.

What you need to do is spend some time with the most important person, YOURSELF. Don't jump out in the field and look for a replacement, that's the wrong approach. You will only suppress your pain in trying to hide it if you do that. Just do what makes you happy, whether it be playing video games, or hanging out with good friends. Don't worry about women again until you are ready.

See but I was ready I mean I was thinking about proposing to her very soon. Now I feel like maybe its all my faults

Man I really need some help

 

[bernse]

Well, since you didn't answer my post if it was your first, I'll assume it is.... "real" love anyhow.

It's normal. Really. You might feel like jumping in front of a bus or something at times.

If it lasts for months and starts interfering with your life, look at counselling. If this just happens (which is how it sounds) you're normal and will get over it.
Really.