I can't believe it. I knew the day was eventually going to come but not this soon.
So here's the deal. When I was about 15-16 years old and still going to high school. One of my friends introduced me with this one chick. She was a bit on the ugly side but man she did have a nice body. Well a week later I was already bored of her and just wanted some nookie. I was trying to play it safe and refused till i had a condem on me. She gives me that old "I"m on birth control" bit. Me being 16 and this being my first time I totally believed her. Next few weeks she tells me she's pregent and asks If i'm going to be there for the kid. Me being 16, was totally stumped. I didn't know what to say to I hesitaited. She then sees that (over the phone) and tells me that she is leaving and I'm not going to have anything to do with it. Thats the last I hear of her.
Fast-Foward 6 years later, she then shows up at my house asking (my brother-in-law)if I want anything to do with the kid because the kid is depressed that her husband had gone to jail for a really bad thing he did (child rapist) to her family and he wasn't he's real father.
So of course I do the right thing and head over there ASAP! I fell in love instantly! 95% of this handsome young boy looks like ME!
PIC!
Then the drama starts. We get to talking and she says she wants to play it safe and that I should become friends with him first. Understandable, so I agree. Then says she wants to wait at LEAST a year before telling him. I instantly tell her I can't wait that long. That I can't be a part of my sons life with him only knowing me as a friend.
She also said she is planning on moving farther away into the country. She already lives 30 minutes away from me and wants to move 30 more minutes more, that she already had planned it. I tell here that I can't be a weekends dad. I want to see my son everyday. Then she tells me she hasn't decided all of this yet for sure because her husband (child rapist) still has a say in this and she hasn't even told him I'm back in my sons life!
Then to top all that off she sending him away with his grandparents for this coming summer ALL SUMMER! I can't even see him this weekend because she's going to be "busy".
I don't know what to do. She's making this very hard on me. I understand I missed 6 years of my kids life. I understand I should've looked for him sooner. I'm very sorry and have been very misserable all those 6 long years (been single ever since). I'm already growing attached to him and I can't wait another minute before telling him that I'm his father and that I'm never going to leave his side ever again! I'm thinking about sucking it all up and obey her every wish. I haven't been there for him so why should she make it easy on me.
Thanks for listening...
**CLIFF NOTES**
I get a girl pregnant at 16 she takes him away. She comes back in my life 6 years later so I can be a father to my son but now she's tripping that I won't see him as much as I wanted to and he won't know I'm his father till another year.
So here's the deal. When I was about 15-16 years old and still going to high school. One of my friends introduced me with this one chick. She was a bit on the ugly side but man she did have a nice body. Well a week later I was already bored of her and just wanted some nookie. I was trying to play it safe and refused till i had a condem on me. She gives me that old "I"m on birth control" bit. Me being 16 and this being my first time I totally believed her. Next few weeks she tells me she's pregent and asks If i'm going to be there for the kid. Me being 16, was totally stumped. I didn't know what to say to I hesitaited. She then sees that (over the phone) and tells me that she is leaving and I'm not going to have anything to do with it. Thats the last I hear of her.
Fast-Foward 6 years later, she then shows up at my house asking (my brother-in-law)if I want anything to do with the kid because the kid is depressed that her husband had gone to jail for a really bad thing he did (child rapist) to her family and he wasn't he's real father.
So of course I do the right thing and head over there ASAP! I fell in love instantly! 95% of this handsome young boy looks like ME!
PIC!Then the drama starts. We get to talking and she says she wants to play it safe and that I should become friends with him first. Understandable, so I agree. Then says she wants to wait at LEAST a year before telling him. I instantly tell her I can't wait that long. That I can't be a part of my sons life with him only knowing me as a friend.
She also said she is planning on moving farther away into the country. She already lives 30 minutes away from me and wants to move 30 more minutes more, that she already had planned it. I tell here that I can't be a weekends dad. I want to see my son everyday.
Then she tells me she hasn't decided all of this yet for sure because her husband (child rapist) still has a say in this and she hasn't even told him I'm back in my sons life! Then to top all that off she sending him away with his grandparents for this coming summer ALL SUMMER! I can't even see him this weekend because she's going to be "busy".
I don't know what to do. She's making this very hard on me. I understand I missed 6 years of my kids life. I understand I should've looked for him sooner. I'm very sorry and have been very misserable all those 6 long years (been single ever since). I'm already growing attached to him and I can't wait another minute before telling him that I'm his father and that I'm never going to leave his side ever again! I'm thinking about sucking it all up and obey her every wish. I haven't been there for him so why should she make it easy on me.
Thanks for listening...
**CLIFF NOTES**
I get a girl pregnant at 16 she takes him away. She comes back in my life 6 years later so I can be a father to my son but now she's tripping that I won't see him as much as I wanted to and he won't know I'm his father till another year.
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