How do you know I overreacted? You don't know the response I had with them? Here, I am pissed and showing my emotions. With them I didn't make a public scene of it. I communicated my feelings about it via private messages.
That said, joking about one's mom or sister is one thing. As I've said. Clearly it was a joke. Calling someone a nagger is not joking - because that shit isn't funny, ever.
I was simply following what you wrote.
(1) the other guy trash talked him with comments involving his sister and possibly something of a sexual nature.
(1) this guy added the n-word in his taunt back.
(2) you declare he is an "ignorant racist fuck" and want him ostracized.
Is my sequence of events wrong? If you want to offer some other examples of his racist behavior, be my guest! If not, then in my *subjective* opinion you over-reacted. I look at that sequence of events and I say it is insufficient for me to conclude he is an "ignorant racist fuck."
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vIsfjS5KLCE
To me, the n-word is just 6 letters, nothing more, nothing less. I will never feel the deep emotional response it triggers in other people. I can respect your view that you passionately never want to hear that word. But you have to respect other people's views too. I guarantee there are things that trigger deep emotional responses to me, that you would say "I don't get it."
Respect goes both ways.
Hell, you just deeply pissed off anyone who has had a loved one suffer through rape. And you just pass it off as no big deal, all in the name of joking! You ignorant fuck.
(have you figured it out yet?)