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If you're going through a divorce, DON'T use facebook.

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SunnyD

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And you thought your boozing it up was only going to make it harder to get a job...

I'm honestly surprised at why people are so brazen behind the guise of a social networking site. It's like dancing naked in front of the windows with the blinds and curtains open.

Cited case examples are rather funny. Farmville strikes again!

Forgot to de-friend your wife on Facebook while posting vacation shots of your mistress? Her divorce lawyer will be thrilled.

Oversharing on social networks has led to an overabundance of evidence in divorce cases. The American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers says 81 percent of its members have used or faced evidence plucked from Facebook, MySpace, Twitter and other social networking sites, including YouTube and LinkedIn, over the last five years.



"Oh, I've had some fun ones," said Linda Lea Viken, president-elect of the 1,600-member group. "It's very, very common in my new cases."

Facebook is the unrivaled leader for turning virtual reality into real-life divorce drama, Viken said. Sixty-six percent of the lawyers surveyed cited Facebook foibles as the source of online evidence, she said. MySpace followed with 15 percent, followed by Twitter at 5 percent.

About one in five adults uses Facebook for flirting, according to a 2008 report by the Pew Internet and American Life Project. But it's not just kissy pix with the manstress or mistress that show up as evidence. Think of Dad forcing son to de-friend mom, bolstering her alienation of affection claim against him.

"This sort of evidence has gone from nothing to a large percentage of my cases coming in, and it's pretty darn easy," Viken said. "It's like, 'Are you kidding me?'"

Neither Viken, in Rapid City, S.D., nor other divorce attorneys would besmirch the attorney-client privilege by revealing the identities of clients, but they spoke in broad terms about some of the goofs they've encountered:

— Husband goes on Match.com and declares his single, childless status while seeking primary custody of said nonexistent children.

— Husband denies anger management issues but posts on Facebook in his "write something about yourself" section: "If you have the balls to get in my face, I'll kick your ass into submission."

— Father seeks custody of the kids, claiming (among other things) that his ex-wife never attends the events of their young ones. Subpoenaed evidence from the gaming site World of Warcraft tracks her there with her boyfriend at the precise time she was supposed to be out with the children. Mom loves Facebook's Farmville, too, at all the wrong times.

— Mom denies in court that she smokes marijuana but posts partying, pot-smoking photos of herself on Facebook.

The disconnect between real life and online is hardly unique to partners de-coupling in the United States. A DIY divorce site in the United Kingdom, Divorce-Online, reported the word "Facebook" appeared late last year in about one in five of the petitions it was handling. (The company's caseload now amounts to about 7,000.)

Divorce attorneys Ken and Leslie Matthews, a husband and wife team in Denver, Colo., don't see quite as many online gems. They estimated 1 in 10 of their cases involves such evidence, compared to a rare case or no cases at all in each of the last three years. Regardless, it's powerful evidence to plunk down before a judge, they said.

"You're finding information that you just never get in the normal discovery process — ever," Leslie Matthews said. "People are just blabbing things all over Facebook. People don't yet quite connect what they're saying in their divorce cases is completely different from what they're saying on Facebook. It doesn't even occur to them that they'd be found out."

Social networks are also ripe for divorce-related hate and smear campaigns among battling spousal camps, sometimes spawning legal cases of their own.

"It's all pretty good evidence," Viken said. "You can't really fake a page off of Facebook. The judges don't really have any problems letting it in."
 
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Yreka

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"If you have the balls to get in my face, I'll kick your ass into submission."

Classy, and they have reproduced.. Wonderful....
 

guyver01

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An article full of information that should fall into the "no shit, sherlock" category.

If ever a demotivational poster was appropriate:
 
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Who the hell would post those type of pictures anyway?
The guy who got the job, I had been inquiring about for 3 years, when he already had a job.
Looks like he removed all that incriminating evidence now, but he used to have photo albums on myspace where they were literally like this, shit you not. Baby photo album, next to it, drug & paraphernalia album.
 

JulesMaximus

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I'm currently looking for work and I deleted almost all of my posts on FB just in case any potential employer checks it out.
 

thraashman

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I just have most of my Facebook privacy settings on really high so it's very difficult to get anything about me from there.
 

InflatableBuddha

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I just have most of my Facebook privacy settings on really high so it's very difficult to get anything about me from there.
This. Unless I accept a friend request from a potential employer (which I wouldn't), they can't see my wall, photos, statuses or anything else. In any event, there's nothing lurid or incriminating on my profile.
 

DrPizza

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This. Unless I accept a friend request from a potential employer (which I wouldn't), they can't see my wall, photos, statuses or anything else. In any event, there's nothing lurid or incriminating on my profile.
HAhahahahaha! That's what you think! All you've done is made it slightly more difficult to see that stuff.
 
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