If you were in love with your best friend would you tell her?

[Atlantean]

I am in love with my best friend, but I don't know how to tell her or if I should. What would you do if you were in love with your best friend?

 

[Triumph]

ahhh, not another one! sorry buddy, grin and bear it. you can never tell her.

 

[b0mbrman]

<< I am in love with my best friend, but I don't know how to tell her or if I should. What would you do if you were in love with your best friend? >>



I'd let what's to happen, happen...

 

[Siva]

it'd probably be best to drop hints, get a little more affectionate, then if she responds and seems to like it make your move.

 

[ThisIsMatt]

It's not hard to drop hints...drop hints...

 

[Blayze]

I wouldn't...

 

[ThisIsMatt]

whoa

 

[cressida]

1. If she see's you only as friend then no ...
2. If you start droping hints and she goes with it, then yes...

 

[Parrotheader]

I married mine! I'm glad I told her!

Seriously though, take it slowly like others are saying. Odds are if you're feeling something, she may feel something too even if she doesn't show it. Tread carefully.

 

[spanky]

uh-oh... this could get ugly...

 

[Juniper]

Atlantean, Valentines Day approaching, maybe you could make a move then. Everybody is mushy on that day

 

[Viper GTS]

I was, and I did.

Can't tell you yet how it worked out (long term), but so far I'm glad I did.

Viper GTS

 

[Keego]

compliment her shoes then jump her

 

[Howard]

If she's really your best friend, chances are she already knows. Don't sweat it, if she wants something to be done you'll know.

 

[mastertech01]

If the feeling is mutual it could end up a great situation since you know each other well. But if its not a mutual feeling it could end up with a broken connection in your friendship that will never be regained. Once you are rejected you may feel deeply hurt, and she would likely feel she could not entrust you with her personal thoughts as before and you would grow apart as friends. I would assess how close your friendship is, and evaluate whether the chances of true love were greater than the chances of a lasting friendship. However realize also, that in time, your lifetime mate IS your best friend.

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

My love is my best friend.

Nik

 

[waggy]

tell her. I was good friends with my wife before we started dateing. hell she was waay out of my legue for it. But we got real close and when we were both single decided to try it. Well she actually told me were going to date since we spent all our free time together. We dated for 4 years and got married 3 and half years ago =)

 

[DannyLove]

edit, omg, im a dork, typed up a novel and realized that wasnt the answer to your question,

danny~!

 

[pillage2001]

You'll only regret if you don't.

 

Okay, I know people have been preaching this best friend thing, lately, but trust me sweetie: In the long-run, it doesn't work.

Now, let me elaborate: Trying it will not harm you as much a it would if she were a stranger. So, since you're best friends, make it known to her and have the short-term pleasure, but don't expect any long-term effect.

The good thing about going out with a best/really close friend is, when and if you split (which is most likely to occur) , you'll still be able to remain friends/revert to friendship. Contrary to that, a relationship formed by other means are usually hostile/irreversible once things go wrong.

So, don't be afraid to ask her out, but don't expect a long-term effect either. Additionally, if she says 'no' or feels uncomfortable about it, it creates some tension between the two of you and can cause some rocky periods. My sis was and still is in such situation with her supposed best friend. They are still "best friends" though!

 

[Ns1]

<< ahhh, not another one! sorry buddy, grin and bear it. you can never tell her. >>



you must have read hte platonic bible! you must've!!~

 

[Triumph]

yup. where's that link?

 

[Ns1]

learn it live it love it

 

[Angrymarshmello]

I think you should tell her - you never know, she might feel the same way. (Might not though)

 

[Kev]

<< If the feeling is mutual it could end up a great situation since you know each other well. But if its not a mutual feeling it could end up with a broken connection in your friendship that will never be regained. Once you are rejected you may feel deeply hurt, and she would likely feel she could not entrust you with her personal thoughts as before and you would grow apart as friends. I would assess how close your friendship is, and evaluate whether the chances of true love were greater than the chances of a lasting friendship. However realize also, that in time, your lifetime mate IS your best friend. >>


yeah my situation was the latter. trust me, it sucked.