serious, that nagging voice in my head that shames me for wanting to do nothing keeps me from doing so
So this is actually my current area of focus, as I've been working on figuring out a holistic approach to managing my life for a long time now. I've finally cracked the code & am working on documenting everything up at the moment. Let me share some introductory material with you. First of all, this is how I define productivity, in this order:
1. Work
2. Personal pursuits
3. Guilt-free unstructured time
We all have different problems that we have to deal with in life. Some we share (eat, sleep, exercise, etc.) and some are different (work, parent, student, health conditions, etc.). The key to living a productive life is simply to stay on top of your responsibilities, but that's not the entire story because of the nature of how time really works. The theory is that time is constant, but time operates off our perception, which is why time flies when you're having fun, but it drags when you're stuck in a boring class or project at work or meeting that seems like it will never end. You've probably experienced this at some point in your life, such as if you got home from school, watched TV & played video games, and then all of a sudden it's dark out & your homework wasn't done. So the order of the items above is important: work first, play later, and that ensures that you are staying on top of your commitments in a responsible manner.
However, all work & no play makes Jack a dull boy! Particularly if work isn't your primary source of satisfaction in life, you need to have some personal pursuits to give you some fulfillment, whether they're hobbies or personal projects or a side gig or whatever. So when you take a look at personal productivity in that order: get your work done first, then work on your personal pursuits, and then enjoy some free time, then things start to make sense. When you goof up the order of that formula or when you leave things out, things start to get wonky: if you goof off all day, then you're going to drop the ball on you responsibilities. If you goof off before you work, then you're now using your enjoyment activities as avoidance behavior, and in order to enjoy them, you have to put yourself into denial-mode so that you're not thinking about them, which causes stress & anxiety. If you don't have any personal pursuits, then you're probably going to be left feeling pretty unfulfilled. It's a fairly simple formula, but I've had major struggles with it myself over the years, simply because it's hard to motivate yourself to do stuff.
So that's where the solution comes in: the problem has been identified (we need a work/life balance), the formula has been defined (work first, then work on personal pursuits, then goof-off). The solution is to remove yourself from having to remember to do stuff & to also remove willpower from the equation, so that you don't have to motivate yourself every single day. You need an easier, more sustainable approach than that! Thus the answer is to create a "personal productivity system" (or PPS, for short), which enables you to fulfill that initial personal productivity blueprint of "work first, then work on personal pursuits, then play later & enjoy it guilt-free".
I believe I've succeed in creating a very accessible, powerful PPS system that enables you to take good intentions & actually convert them into reality. I'll have to make a separate post at some point once I've completed the documentation. I think that having a PPS is a
huge game-changer for a lot of people (myself included) because we all see & are interested & understand all kinds of good things in life, like we should be exercising, eating better, chipping away on our hobbies, working on fun projects, actually putting those into play - consistently - is much harder than just knowing about it & understanding how to do it. The majority of us have probably owned exercise machines that eventually turned into dust-collecting laundry-hanging systems, for example...good intentions, but without a support system to enable consistent follow-through, you end up relying on your fickle daily willpower & end up not being as consistent as you like across everything across the board, which is why I've been pursuing the creation of a PPS - to help transform those intentions into reality & to feel good about whatever I'm doing, whether it's working on work, working on a personal pursuit, or simply enjoying some unplugged time from being productive.
Anyway. I feel ya.