IF a girl starts to talk about her ex-bf to you, is it game over?

Qianglong

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One of my friends asked that if a girl starts talking to guy about her ex-bf, then its game over and you are forever in her friend zone... Or that means you are just her emotional vent hole..?

Is this true?
 

AMDZen

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It just depends, some girls play games and talk about their ex non stop. But they're doing it to see what you say about it. I've seen a couple girls do this, one wanted the guy to say - "Hey I don't need to hear about your ex all the time". Where as the other girl wanted to see if the guy would get jealous and what not.

Women don't make sense, and unfortunetely they don't all make equal sense (meaning that some make less sense then others). So its a case by case basis.
 

Qianglong

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Originally posted by: AMDZen
It just depends, some girls play games and talk about their ex non stop. But they're doing it to see what you say about it. I've seen a couple girls do this, one wanted the guy to say - "Hey I don't need to hear about your ex all the time". Where as the other girl wanted to see if the guy would get jealous and what not.

Women don't make sense, and unfortunetely they don't all make equal sense (meaning that some make less sense then others). So its a case by case basis.

So its sort of a test? If you act jealous, its game over because you are a wussy?
 

Fingolfin269

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Nah, it's not game over. Just be sure to recognize when the friendship line fades and the time to hook up appears.
 

AMDZen

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Originally posted by: Qianglong
Originally posted by: AMDZen
It just depends, some girls play games and talk about their ex non stop. But they're doing it to see what you say about it. I've seen a couple girls do this, one wanted the guy to say - "Hey I don't need to hear about your ex all the time". Where as the other girl wanted to see if the guy would get jealous and what not.

Women don't make sense, and unfortunetely they don't all make equal sense (meaning that some make less sense then others). So its a case by case basis.

So its sort of a test? If you act jealous, its game over because you are a wussy?

For that one example I gave, yes. But like I said, that was simply one instance. The two instances I gave were two girls that did that when they were in fact very interested in the guy they were doing it to. And both of those girls were the type that liked to play games.

I didn't mention the other instances, where I've seen girls do this - and they were doing it to show their LACK of interest in the guy (i've been on the receiving end of both).

Like I said - case by case.
 

Chryso

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You never know. Some girls want a guy to be jealous. Those girls are typically psycho. Avoid them at all cost.
 

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Originally posted by: Chryso
You never know. Some girls want a guy to be jealous. Those girls are typically psycho. Avoid them at all cost.

qft.

Many Womenz get off on teh jealousy...because a fight usually ensues.:confused:
 

GasX

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Some girls are crazy, some are insane and some are out of their minds. If you can figure out which category she falls into, you might be able to decipher the code behind her favorite topics of conversation.
 

AMDZen

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Oh and also, I forgot to mention. If a girl is constantly talking about their Ex, I simply lose interest. So I know about one of the above examples because the girl was actually trying to get a rise out of me by talking about him all the time. It backfired and I just stopped talking to her. I simply can't stand girls that do that so I don't really look into it anymore.

You should give us your age - and her age. That may help determine her intentions. Younger girls play games a lot more then when they get older.
 

BigToque

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Originally posted by: Qianglong
Originally posted by: AMDZen
It just depends, some girls play games and talk about their ex non stop. But they're doing it to see what you say about it. I've seen a couple girls do this, one wanted the guy to say - "Hey I don't need to hear about your ex all the time". Where as the other girl wanted to see if the guy would get jealous and what not.

Women don't make sense, and unfortunetely they don't all make equal sense (meaning that some make less sense then others). So its a case by case basis.

So its sort of a test? If you act jealous, its game over because you are a wussy?

Some people are immature and will try to play stupid games. If they are, ditch them because they're not worth your time.

Sometimes there are times when it's acceptable to talk about ex's. It's always a case by case basis. There are no rules or guidelines to follow. Just do what your heart tells you to do and you'll be fine.
 

Qianglong

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Originally posted by: AMDZen
Oh and also, I forgot to mention. If a girl is constantly talking about their Ex, I simply lose interest. So I know about one of the above examples because the girl was actually trying to get a rise out of me by talking about him all the time. It backfired and I just stopped talking to her. I simply can't stand girls that do that so I don't really look into it anymore.

You should give us your age - and her age. That may help determine her intentions. Younger girls play games a lot more then when they get older.

Both person's age is 21 and I think it happened because one of the girl's roomate broke up with her bf and talked to her about it and plus, the guy has the same english name as this girls ex-bf, so i guess that triggered the memories?
 

Adica

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It all depends on what exactley she is talking about. If she is saying how much she misses him or how good looking he is, or comparing you to him, then get out. If she is merely telling some funny or memorable moments then you (your friend) should not be worried. Anyways with a small bit of common sense and intuition, you should be able to tell if the game is over.
 

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It depends on what she is saying about the ex and how the topic got brought up.... If she starts going on and acts like she misses her ex or something then yeah I would say it's game over.
 

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Originally posted by: Qianglong
One of my friends asked that if a girl starts talking to guy about her ex-bf, then its game over and you are forever in her friend zone... Or that means you are just her emotional vent hole..?

Is this true?

false.. people will always talk about thier pasts when they are together its human nature..

means nothing other than she wants to talk about stuff