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I went clubbing tonite and nearly clubbed a guy.........

The Stigenator

The Stigenator

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So vanessa and I are there dancing.. and at some point some guy comes up to her and tries to ask her to dance with him..

She tells me about it but doesnt physically point him out. He disappears and comes back a while later and disappears again... then around 12am just about we were to leave he is standing there staring at us. By then I realised it was that guy.. anyway he approaches facing me (vanessa has her back to him) and he starts to freak dance to her. I immediately moved backwards with vanessa and tapped her in the shoulder, he moved with us, I moved again and soon I ran out of space..to go any more back.

Then I told him "She is taken" he didnt budge.. so I told him "please move away" the guy goes "oh I think I know her" . I then asked vanessa if she did, she said no. Then teh guy goes "I have seen her here before" Vanessa hasnt been to that club before, much less anything. Then he goes "I think your really pretty, and if you get bored of him I am single and available".

By then I had vanessa on my right arm and my left arm was ready to give him one. I told him "walk away.. " the guy didnt.. so I told him again "walk away before I....." and I think he got the message.. but he still hung around.. when we left he was like near the door and he goes "have a good night".. I stared at him..

Ugh.. why are guys jerks... Esp when I was kissing her, and making sure that it was clear that I was with her..

Ugh!

I am confused.. what else should I have done?
 
As vanessa put it "if he didnt back away I would have clubbed him".. Frankly she knows me.. I am not violent but I would have clubbed him hard..

He was all over vanessa.. yes she looked HOT in a slinky black dress and high heels. I mean she really looked hot.

But trying to steal her away from her boyfriend being right there.

I for one did not want to have a repeat of 1996 when Kavita was stolen out of my hands. But that was a diff situation but it still hurt me.. this is vanessa we are talking about, the girl who I relaly really care about and love her to death.

So what's the deal with jerks..
 
Originally posted by: The_good_guy
As vanessa put it "if he didnt back away I would have clubbed him".. Frankly she knows me.. I am not violent but I would have clubbed him hard..
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It is clear you would not have.
 
Originally posted by: PipBoy
Originally posted by: The_good_guy As vanessa put it "if he didnt back away I would have clubbed him".. Frankly she knows me.. I am not violent but I would have clubbed him hard..
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It is clear you would not have.
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trust me I would have at some point.. I would have called security or I would have socked him depending on how it turned out.

There were a few guys who commented on vanessa's look (they said she looked very classy - which is true) but getting hit on while she is with her boyfriend and more over asking her to leave me for him when she is bored..

ugh!

I think my meaner side is coming out because of this.... i dont like to be mean and violent.. I believe in Ahimsa.. but the point is that even my ahimsa has limits.
 
Originally posted by: The_good_guy
So vanessa and I are there dancing.. and at some point some guy comes up to her and tries to ask her to dance with him..

She tells me about it but doesnt physically point him out. He disappears and comes back a while later and disappears again... then around 12am just about we were to leave he is standing there staring at us. By then I realised it was that guy.. anyway he approaches facing me (vanessa has her back to him) and he starts to freak dance to her. I immediately moved backwards with vanessa and tapped her in the shoulder, he moved with us, I moved again and soon I ran out of space..to go any more back.

Then I told him "She is taken" he didnt budge.. so I told him "please move away" the guy goes "oh I think I know her" . I then asked vanessa if she did, she said no. Then teh guy goes "I have seen her here before" Vanessa hasnt been to that club before, much less anything. Then he goes "I think your really pretty, and if you get bored of him I am single and available".

By then I had vanessa on my right arm and my left arm was ready to give him one. I told him "walk away.. " the guy didnt.. so I told him again "walk away before I....." and I think he got the message.. but he still hung around.. when we left he was like near the door and he goes "have a good night".. I stared at him..

Ugh.. why are guys jerks... Esp when I was kissing her, and making sure that it was clear that I was with her..

Ugh!

I am confused.. what else should I have done?
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Leave, get the hell out of the situation. Any other action, confrontation, fighting, argument could lead to something happening that you would regret for the rest of your life.
 
Pepper spray would have worked great, you shoulda let her had the honors. Can you imagine that pepper spray in the middle of a club, people wouldnt even know wtf just happened, the guy would be lost as hell rubbing his eyes...hah 😀
 
I agree, I would have just left.

Some guys suck. You just have to know that and deal with it.
 
make fun of his manhood.... wait for him to hit you
then respond in kind
it's pure self-defense!


maybe... say "Let's take this outside!" and run him over 🙂 errr
 
guys at clubs often don't understand no, often they are drugged up in one way or another. Hell, they'd have to to think your girl is hot 😉 jk
 
Originally posted by: zeruty
make fun of his manhood.... wait for him to hit you
then respond in kind
it's pure self-defense!


maybe... say "Let's take this outside!" and run him over 🙂 errr
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The beauty of taking Aikido private classes for 6 years is every move is counterattack oriented 🙂 its always self defence.
 
I agree that you probably should've been more forward about getting your point across, but it doesn't sound like your girl was really putting up a big fight...maybe a little more "cold shoulder" from her, and it'd be easier?
 
she had ignored him and said sorry when he first asked her..

She later told me she was planning to interject if he didnt back away but then by then I intervened.

I can understand going after a girl who is dancing by herself, but not when she has her arm around someone she loves.

I did not want to create a scene by whacking him in the balls or socking him in the face due to legal reasons plus teh club was really really crowded.

I am not going to sleep tonite.. i wont be able to until i can figure out how best to handle a situation next time. I think I did okay but somehow the other side of my brain says no i didnt..

 
Originally posted by: The_good_guy
she had ignored him and said sorry when he first asked her..

She later told me she was planning to interject if he didnt back away but then by then I intervened.

I can understand going after a girl who is dancing by herself, but not when she has her arm around someone she loves.

I did not want to create a scene by whacking him in the balls or socking him in the face due to legal reasons plus teh club was really really crowded.

I am not going to sleep tonite.. i wont be able to until i can figure out how best to handle a situation next time. I think I did okay but somehow the other side of my brain says no i didnt..
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Relax dude, it's okay. Your reaction is completely normal. It sounds like you handled it quite well. Remember, the goal is to avoid physical conflict.

I would have pulled her away and stood infront of her. If that doesen't work, walk.. and keep walking.

My girlfriend gets talked to and honked at all the time. You just learn to go along with it. You have to be secure in knowing that she's yours, and other people's actions don't really matter. Although, what you describe is pretty aggressive, and I can easily imagine myself loosing my cool in a situation like that.
 
Originally posted by: jooksing
which club in LA was this?
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The Palace (Hollywood & Vine).

I have heard about guys doing this before. my friend katrin told me how an guy tried to do that when she was with her bf...but in her case it wasnt like when he was dancing with her, he tried to grab her when she made her way to the restroom.


 
Originally posted by: The_good_guy
Originally posted by: jooksing
which club in LA was this?
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The Palace (Hollywood & Vine).

I have heard about guys doing this before. my friend katrin told me how an guy tried to do that when she was with her bf...but in her case it wasnt like when he was dancing with her, he tried to grab her when she made her way to the restroom.
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Yikes, that's just scary.

That's kinda why I don't like the whole "clubbing scene". I realize that it could be fun, but it sounds like more trouble than it's worth, IMO.
 
Dude... If you're gonna have an imaginary girlfriend, at least pic one that's HOT. You must be on some serious crack if you think that THING is HOT!!! *SMACK* Back to reality. I wouldn't hit on that swamp donkey if she was covered in money holding two pitchers of beer..... and snacks. If you don't like the ridicule you are receiving about your monster of a girlfriend, DON'T BRING IT UP ON HERE! You would have to expect people to comment on that hairy armadillo looking thing.

I appologize if offended any armadillos.

- Meth

Is that anyway to be talking about your Mother on Mother's day? Go away..far far away!
 
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