I want to stop crying

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MaxDepth

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I am sooo sorry you live there. Oh well, go to Cincy and find an artist type or a Bearcat grad student.

She'll keep you on your toes and make you sleep with one eye open.


Or does that only happen to me?
:confused:


EDIT: and get some radiation. Either find a sunny day or go to the tanning bed. Trust me it works.
 

conjur

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Jun 7, 2001
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Originally posted by: MaxDepth
I am sooo sorry you live there. Oh well, go to Cincy and find an artist type or a Bearcat grad student.

She'll keep you on your toes and make you sleep with one eye open.


Or does that only happen to me?
:confused:


EDIT: and get some radiation. Either find a sunny day or go to the tanning bed. Trust me it works.

Forecast for this weekend is 60s and :sun: !!!
 

wyvrn

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Things will look up eventually. My sob story years ago was that 1) my mother died. My dad died when I was little, so she was my only parent. It hurt BAD. 2) I dropped out of college party because of depression and resulting horrible grades. 3) I had no place to go, no money, and no direction.

I got over it and now my life is on the right track. I am married, have a beautiful baby, financial success, am about to graduate summa cum laude from college, and my wife and I are building our dream home in August. Even though times look black, don't give up. The measure of a man is how many times he gets back up after being knocked down. You have to ask yourself, what do you want from life? Who do you want to be? What are you going to allow to define yourself?

My suggestion is to write down your goals (along with your GF) on a piece of paper, and talk about how you are going to reach them. That will get you on the track to recovery. Eventually you realize that you can have happiness again. It was worth it for me not to quit. I still have things I have to work on, but no more regrets. Keep your chin up.

Oh btw, nothing wrong with crying. I sometimes still get teary eyed when I think about the tough times in my life and how my wife and I made it through. Emotion is what drives and motivates us, so I embrace it and try to use it to my advantage.
 

Turkey22

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My wife left 2 days ago. Strangely enough I feel like I can move on after talking to her again. You need to realize that the pain doesnt go away until you let it go. I broke down twice at work yesterday, but after reading alot of things (just googled divorce forums) and talking to her (which you may not be able to do anymore) I realized it was really over and that I need to move on. There is nothing wrong with crying, but there comes a point when you have to move on. As for your mom I cant give you any help there and I'm sure it makes everything just that much worse. Spend time with friends, do the things that you like to do. Not sure how long since she has left, but you have to think about meeting new people even if its just a casual date or two. Just remember to let go of the pain and it wont exist.
 

Gulzakar

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i didnt realize you were from louisville... I was born in Owensboro :)

Just put things into perspective, k? On a scale of Earth-like proportions your situation is one of many (not to downplay your situation), so what that means is that there are other like you out there! Use this time to talk to others who have been thru the same thing.

Destiny is something control freaks use explain life, to define every little moment...I learned you cannot do that. Life is an endless list of choices...each path has it's own outcome...just remember to not only focus on the outcome, but on the path taken.

Remeber the old saying in bad times, "Live today for we die tommorrow".
 

conjur

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You're gonna be ok. I can tell it.

Like we talked about...focus on the job. That's your lifeblood right now. In the meantime, work on simplifying (pay off stuff, cancel monthly stuff you don't need.) And go ahead and ask that hostess out. ;)


BTW, thanks for the :beer:
 

T2T III

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Oct 9, 1999
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Originally posted by: spidey07
Counseling appointment made for monday.

Filling perscription for lexapro.

Trying. My stress levels are through the roof.

Spidey, Sounds like a good start. I read through the "other" thread. All I can say is "wow." Lex is a good med and should work towards making you feel a bit better. When I've been through stressful/anxious/depressed moments, I've found that if I were to take a walk, I could think through some of the problems I was facing. Plus, the fresh air made me feel a bit better, too.

Also, don't forget to practice some form of relaxation to lessen the stress that you are feeling. During the period of relaxation, see if you can focus on the "good" things that you have at the moment. Seeing them is a bit hard - and the view is clouded at the moment, but they are there. If it's too impossible to attempt to focus on good things, see if you can't just clear your mind a bit to free up some of the struggles that are going through your mind.

Best of luck to you. :)

 

spidey07

No Lifer
Aug 4, 2000
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Originally posted by: Tiles2Tech
Originally posted by: spidey07
Counseling appointment made for monday.

Filling perscription for lexapro.

Trying. My stress levels are through the roof.

Spidey, Sounds like a good start. I read through the "other" thread. All I can say is "wow." Lex is a good med and should work towards making you feel a bit better. When I've been through stressful/anxious/depressed moments, I've found that if I were to take a walk, I could think through some of the problems I was facing. Plus, the fresh air made me feel a bit better, too.

Also, don't forget to practice some form of relaxation to lessen the stress that you are feeling. During the period of relaxation, see if you can focus on the "good" things that you have at the moment. Seeing them is a bit hard - and the view is clouded at the moment, but they are there. If it's too impossible to attempt to focus on good things, see if you can't just clear your mind a bit to free up some of the struggles that are going through your mind.

Best of luck to you. :)

Thanks for the words bro. I'm tryin'. I'm generally a very happy, outgoing, relaxed person...but right now I feel totally stressed out all the time and literally cannot relax one bit and hurt everywhere.

That's why I know I've got it bad and need to take action. Working on simplifying my life and focusing on my career.
 

sxr7171

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You did the right thing by seeking help. It is not humanly possible to hold a job during a period like that without help. I read your post in the sad movies thread and I remember when I was exactly like you are now. I would go off several times during some movies. I know how it is for you, quite an unsettling time, and the only way you can relax is if you are so tired that you don't the energy to move or if you are taking medication for it. It's like something is constantly eating at you no matter where you are or what you are doing. If you need help relaxing or sleep, talk to a physician about it and they can help you. What you went through is one of the most traumatic things a person can go through, but know that you will make it through and you will be stronger than you ever could be without this experience. This strength will help you sail through the curveballs you will get during the rest of your life.
 

robh23

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Originally posted by: spidey07
Originally posted by: notfred
What are you crying about?

Lost love and lost mother.

I'm regressing for some reason. I'm 32 years old and I want my mommy.

oh crap...here it comes again.

of couse, just cry, but also talk, to family first and foremost, forget about the lost love, it obviously was a case of mistaken identity or something, but do mourn your mom, always. dont let it turn into depression though.
 

dds14u

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Feb 24, 2004
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Society...tradition...its evil. and About that SAD thing...tried explaining to my friends how sunlight can affect mood...and I can't believe they laughed at me!
 

vi edit

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Oct 28, 1999
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Type O Negative

1. Unsuccessfully Coping With The Natural Beauty Of Infidelity

[a. Anorganic Transmutogenesis (synthetic division)]

Trust and you'll be trusted
Says the liar to the fool
Lust and so what if you're busted?
In love and war there ain't no rules

Do you believe in forever?
I don't even believe in tomorrow
The only things that last forever
Are memories and sorrow

Out of sight out of mind
The motto of betrayal
The prophets preach to forgive and forget
I'm sorry, but I am unable

[b. coitus interruptus]

[c. I Know You're Fscking Someone Else]

You went to L'amour Saturday night
Red nails and lipstick dressed two sizes two tight
His tongue down your throat
His hand up your skirt
Yeah I'm a man
But it still hurts

Slut
Whore
Cvnt

I know you're fscking someone else
(He knows you're fscking someone else)
I know you're fscking someone else
(He knows you're fscking someone else)

You had cock on your mind
And cum on your breath
Inserted that diaphragm before you left
Practicing freelance gynecology
Where there's a womb there's a way
With you it's for free

Slut
Whore
Cvnt

I know you're fscking someone else
(He knows you're fscking someone else)
I know you're fscking someone else
(He knows you're fscking someone else)

Done it before
Time after time
Refused to learn your lesson
Gave 'til it hurt
Thought it was right
Only fools make mistakes twice

So you sit home
Drinking alone
Empty bottle in your hand
Don't even try
To sort out the lies
It's worse to try to understand

You
You make me hate myself

I know you're fscking someone else
(He knows you're fscking someone else)
I know you're fscking someone else
(He knows you're fscking someone else)
I know you're fscking someone else
(He knows you're fscking someone else)
I know you're fscking someone else
(He knows you're fscking someone else)

I know
(He knows)
I said I know
(He said he knows)

I know
(He knows)

 

spidey07

No Lifer
Aug 4, 2000
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fvck her. I've made a connection again.

I am strong. I am spidey. I will get through this. I will love again. Look out world, here I come.

(been rollin)

way too fast, but damn it feels good.

-edit- DAMN, she's got a nice body...hard body.