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I have a 9 year old and a 13 year old. My wife works on location at a hospital 10 hour days. I fortunately had an employer that sent us all home and said "stay there".
We've been doing e-learning for just short of a year. It's one of the worst experiences of my parenting life.
I have a big boy job. I run a lot of meetings, have to participate in a bunch of calls. And generally need some uninterrupted time to do what I have to do. I don't have that. I have two kids that have vastly different schedules, and every 20 minutes from 9am to 2pm I'm making sure they are in class. If I'm on a call and running a meeting I'll lose track of time and forget to check on a kid and then end up getting texts from teachers that my kid isn't there. Each kid has roughly 2-3 hours a day of "in class" stuff where they are actually logged into a google class. The rest is "asynchronous" learning which means they just get 5-15 assignments sent to them electronically.
On any given day I'm getting 2-5 texts from a variety of teachers. Emails from the middle schools, emails from the middle school teachers, emails from the elementary school, emails from the elementary school teacher, emails from the school district overall. My kids get messages sent direct to them in one app for one kid that I might not catch. Then the other one gets messages from teachers in another app. One kid has homework assigned in one app. The other in another.
And we haven't even gotten to homework. My fucking god. The homework. Some days it's 3-4 hours of busy, but non-productive stuff that my 9 year old is being assigned. Stuff that would take 30 seconds with a piece of paper is taking 15 minutes to manipulate text boxes and what not on a laptop to complete. The chromebooks themselves are their own distraction and one of the worst mediums for young kids to learn. My oldest has clinically diagnosed, severe ADHD. Her homework assignments are a black hole of despair. There's little communication from the school. You get vague text messages to complete "X" assignment, but you have no idea what the assignment is. And it's another multiple hours a week trying to make sure she's staying on task for a curriculum that is literally virtual and opaque.
I've had to proctor MAP assessment tests. I have to be the PE teacher. I have to be the science teacher. I have to be chef in the middle of the day. I have to be the micromanager hounding them for hours a day to get assignments done. It's exhausting.
And then you get into the fact that this is now approaching a year with no end in site. Every single one of us is so over this. My kids have totally checked out. They straight up don't give a shit. I'm exhausted and frankly don't have the time or energy to spend hours a day dogging them on obnoxious and tedious busy work. I had 3/4 people in this house in tears this weekend over school stuff. And then you throw in the additional tears and and counseling since my kids aren't actually seeing other kids their age. My 9 year old hasn't played with a kid his age in close to a year. That is not healthy.
We cannot vaccinate teachers, throw money at safe schools and get kids back in classes fast enough. It's not a daycare. It's a foundational society pillar we've been accustomed to for decades. Kids are suffering, parents are suffering. The downstream impact of these last 12 months are going to be studied for decades.
We've been doing e-learning for just short of a year. It's one of the worst experiences of my parenting life.
I have a big boy job. I run a lot of meetings, have to participate in a bunch of calls. And generally need some uninterrupted time to do what I have to do. I don't have that. I have two kids that have vastly different schedules, and every 20 minutes from 9am to 2pm I'm making sure they are in class. If I'm on a call and running a meeting I'll lose track of time and forget to check on a kid and then end up getting texts from teachers that my kid isn't there. Each kid has roughly 2-3 hours a day of "in class" stuff where they are actually logged into a google class. The rest is "asynchronous" learning which means they just get 5-15 assignments sent to them electronically.
On any given day I'm getting 2-5 texts from a variety of teachers. Emails from the middle schools, emails from the middle school teachers, emails from the elementary school, emails from the elementary school teacher, emails from the school district overall. My kids get messages sent direct to them in one app for one kid that I might not catch. Then the other one gets messages from teachers in another app. One kid has homework assigned in one app. The other in another.
And we haven't even gotten to homework. My fucking god. The homework. Some days it's 3-4 hours of busy, but non-productive stuff that my 9 year old is being assigned. Stuff that would take 30 seconds with a piece of paper is taking 15 minutes to manipulate text boxes and what not on a laptop to complete. The chromebooks themselves are their own distraction and one of the worst mediums for young kids to learn. My oldest has clinically diagnosed, severe ADHD. Her homework assignments are a black hole of despair. There's little communication from the school. You get vague text messages to complete "X" assignment, but you have no idea what the assignment is. And it's another multiple hours a week trying to make sure she's staying on task for a curriculum that is literally virtual and opaque.
I've had to proctor MAP assessment tests. I have to be the PE teacher. I have to be the science teacher. I have to be chef in the middle of the day. I have to be the micromanager hounding them for hours a day to get assignments done. It's exhausting.
And then you get into the fact that this is now approaching a year with no end in site. Every single one of us is so over this. My kids have totally checked out. They straight up don't give a shit. I'm exhausted and frankly don't have the time or energy to spend hours a day dogging them on obnoxious and tedious busy work. I had 3/4 people in this house in tears this weekend over school stuff. And then you throw in the additional tears and and counseling since my kids aren't actually seeing other kids their age. My 9 year old hasn't played with a kid his age in close to a year. That is not healthy.
We cannot vaccinate teachers, throw money at safe schools and get kids back in classes fast enough. It's not a daycare. It's a foundational society pillar we've been accustomed to for decades. Kids are suffering, parents are suffering. The downstream impact of these last 12 months are going to be studied for decades.