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UPDATE: So I was still friendly with the girl I had that conversation with in my original post. She seemed friendly enough, so I ask if she'd like to hang out, as friends obviously (since I had already been thrown under the bus when I asked her on a date). She said that she didn’t want to because of what Jen was saying (present tense…as in still talking), and because she had heard even MORE rumors and things about me having a girlfriend. That set me off. Here’s a snippet:
12:24am Matt: Jenn told a friend of mine she did it to throw me under the bus. not sure why. and I understand you not wanting to tell me who else was saying stuff...but it makes it awkward for me because now I don't know who's spreading high school rumors
12:25am Girl: lets just go with. everyone.
12:25am Matt: are you shitting me?
12:25am Matt: nicole? erika? seriously? [Pretty much two of the last people I vaguely trusted there]
12:25am Girl: everyone.
Yeah, these douchebags are going to make great counselors. Not a shred of empathy, integrity, or ethics. Just spread shit you heard and brainlessly assume it’s true. Ironically I've completely withdrawn socially up there. I don't even act polite to anyone, or interact with them in any way...yet somehow new rumors are starting.
Then, for one of my classes we have to have these mock 1:1 therapy sessions. It's to practice skills/theory we learn in class. It helps more for people that haven't had on the job experience (like my partner I was just assigned to) and less for people like I that have a couple years experience. Regardless it's necessary to do it, for professional licensure. We're mandated to do one session per week. Last week was the first week of this round. My partner says she can meet last weekend, then changes her mind since she's going to New Jersey, and asks if we can meet Monday. I say, sure, fine. She calls Monday 15 minutes before and says she never left new jersey. Then this Friday we were going to...but it was her birthday. So we were supposed to meet today....but she just texted saying she's too hung over. Seriously. This is grad school. These people are all in their mid 20's. We're at the point where we should have 2 sessions done, and we don't even have one. We rescheduled for tomorrow and if she skips that I'm writing the professor. I've had enough of the fucking asswipes in this program.
OP: If anyone from the 23-24 age range could chime in it'd be appreciated...
So here's the story:
I'm a first year grad student in a master's (and probably eventually doctorate) in psychology program. I'm 28 (I took a few years off and worked in IT after getting my bachelor's). So for the first couple weeks of the program I was still with the girl I had been seeing for several months. Things didn't work, and we broke up. I only had told a few people I was seeing the girl, and after we broke up I mentioned to them that I was single again. So a couple weeks go by and I figure I'll look around my program and see if there's anyone I'd like to hang out with, not looking for anything serious. I work full time as well as go to school so I don't really have any spare time to be going out of my way to find anyone to date. There's a cute, friendly, girl in one of my classes. I ask if she wants to grab coffee sometime, she says yes. That evening I get home and I get an IM from her. We have the following exchange:
Girl: Hey I just wanted to let you know I heard some disconcerting things about you today, after class.
Me: Um...ok
Girl: After class 5 girls came up to me and started swearing that you had a girlfriend and that you aren't single.
Me: so a few girls came up to you and said that?
Girl: No, like 5, literally 5.
Me: I'm single, and have been for a few weeks now. That is REALLY frustrating, who the hell snitches on someone else like that? It's not even accurate..was there anything else?
Girl: This one girl Jenn says that you hit on her all the time and talk about her puerto rican abs.
Me: What the fuck?
Girl: Yeah...
Me: What the fuck does Puerto Rican abs even mean? She's not Puerto Rican...fuck her.
Girl: I'll still hang out with you, I just wanted to be honest and let you know what people are saying, I'll trust that you're being honest...but it was weird that all those people were saying that stuff, and then Jenn..
Me: Well yeah I'd be leary too, but it's complete bullshit what they're saying. We're in grad school for fuck's sake, they need to grow the fuck up.
Seriously though, who does that? Who says "Hey that guy just asked some girl to hang out, let me round up 4 of my degenerate friends and throw him under the bus"?? The girl Jenn did strike me as kind of fruity, so I'm not entirely surprised, but still...we're in (at least) our mid-20s here...come on.
Then to make matters more bizarre people keep doing that; saying I'm not broken up with this girl, which is frustrating for obvious reasons. But then they start using excuses like "well you didn't delete all her pictures off your facebook", like we're 12 or something. The most creepy part of all of the thing however is this: I've had MULTIPLE people from the program come up to me and say "Oh I thought you were broken up but (ex's name) just commented on the 83rd picture in your 2009 photo album"
(I'm still friends with the girl, we didn't end on bad terms). The thing is, it will have JUST happened like 20 minutes prior, I haven't even seen it yet, and they have the picture number either completely accurate or only off by one or two.
The thing is, when I talk to some of my friends in the program about this, they don't think it's that odd, even the picture number thing. Is this like a mini-generational thing? If any of the 23 or 24 year olds that are on the forums could say if they think it's odd/creepy or not I'd appreciate it. Because to me that is REALLY fucking creepy, but I seem to be the only person I know who thinks so. The ironic thing is, I'm starting to see how good I had it with the ex, seeing as the girls in my program are absolutely fucking batshit.
Cliffs:
1. Broke up with gf
2. People at grad school insisting I'm still with her.
3. Group of girls throw me under bus with potential date.
4. Multiple people tracking exact number of which photos ex-gf comments on, and when.
5. No one else finds this odd/creepy except me.
Update:
1. Attempted to be friends with girl from OP (NOT jenn, the girl I had originally asked out)
2. She says that everyone is saying I'm a scumbag that's trying to cheat on his gf, even my friends. I still don't have a gf.
3. In another class my partner keeps skipping meetings that are mandated for licensure because she doesn't feel like coming, or is too hungover.
12:24am Matt: Jenn told a friend of mine she did it to throw me under the bus. not sure why. and I understand you not wanting to tell me who else was saying stuff...but it makes it awkward for me because now I don't know who's spreading high school rumors
12:25am Girl: lets just go with. everyone.
12:25am Matt: are you shitting me?
12:25am Matt: nicole? erika? seriously? [Pretty much two of the last people I vaguely trusted there]
12:25am Girl: everyone.
Yeah, these douchebags are going to make great counselors. Not a shred of empathy, integrity, or ethics. Just spread shit you heard and brainlessly assume it’s true. Ironically I've completely withdrawn socially up there. I don't even act polite to anyone, or interact with them in any way...yet somehow new rumors are starting.
Then, for one of my classes we have to have these mock 1:1 therapy sessions. It's to practice skills/theory we learn in class. It helps more for people that haven't had on the job experience (like my partner I was just assigned to) and less for people like I that have a couple years experience. Regardless it's necessary to do it, for professional licensure. We're mandated to do one session per week. Last week was the first week of this round. My partner says she can meet last weekend, then changes her mind since she's going to New Jersey, and asks if we can meet Monday. I say, sure, fine. She calls Monday 15 minutes before and says she never left new jersey. Then this Friday we were going to...but it was her birthday. So we were supposed to meet today....but she just texted saying she's too hung over. Seriously. This is grad school. These people are all in their mid 20's. We're at the point where we should have 2 sessions done, and we don't even have one. We rescheduled for tomorrow and if she skips that I'm writing the professor. I've had enough of the fucking asswipes in this program.
OP: If anyone from the 23-24 age range could chime in it'd be appreciated...
So here's the story:
I'm a first year grad student in a master's (and probably eventually doctorate) in psychology program. I'm 28 (I took a few years off and worked in IT after getting my bachelor's). So for the first couple weeks of the program I was still with the girl I had been seeing for several months. Things didn't work, and we broke up. I only had told a few people I was seeing the girl, and after we broke up I mentioned to them that I was single again. So a couple weeks go by and I figure I'll look around my program and see if there's anyone I'd like to hang out with, not looking for anything serious. I work full time as well as go to school so I don't really have any spare time to be going out of my way to find anyone to date. There's a cute, friendly, girl in one of my classes. I ask if she wants to grab coffee sometime, she says yes. That evening I get home and I get an IM from her. We have the following exchange:
Girl: Hey I just wanted to let you know I heard some disconcerting things about you today, after class.
Me: Um...ok
Girl: After class 5 girls came up to me and started swearing that you had a girlfriend and that you aren't single.
Me: so a few girls came up to you and said that?
Girl: No, like 5, literally 5.
Me: I'm single, and have been for a few weeks now. That is REALLY frustrating, who the hell snitches on someone else like that? It's not even accurate..was there anything else?
Girl: This one girl Jenn says that you hit on her all the time and talk about her puerto rican abs.
Me: What the fuck?
Girl: Yeah...
Me: What the fuck does Puerto Rican abs even mean? She's not Puerto Rican...fuck her.
Girl: I'll still hang out with you, I just wanted to be honest and let you know what people are saying, I'll trust that you're being honest...but it was weird that all those people were saying that stuff, and then Jenn..
Me: Well yeah I'd be leary too, but it's complete bullshit what they're saying. We're in grad school for fuck's sake, they need to grow the fuck up.
Seriously though, who does that? Who says "Hey that guy just asked some girl to hang out, let me round up 4 of my degenerate friends and throw him under the bus"?? The girl Jenn did strike me as kind of fruity, so I'm not entirely surprised, but still...we're in (at least) our mid-20s here...come on.
Then to make matters more bizarre people keep doing that; saying I'm not broken up with this girl, which is frustrating for obvious reasons. But then they start using excuses like "well you didn't delete all her pictures off your facebook", like we're 12 or something. The most creepy part of all of the thing however is this: I've had MULTIPLE people from the program come up to me and say "Oh I thought you were broken up but (ex's name) just commented on the 83rd picture in your 2009 photo album"
(I'm still friends with the girl, we didn't end on bad terms). The thing is, it will have JUST happened like 20 minutes prior, I haven't even seen it yet, and they have the picture number either completely accurate or only off by one or two. The thing is, when I talk to some of my friends in the program about this, they don't think it's that odd, even the picture number thing. Is this like a mini-generational thing? If any of the 23 or 24 year olds that are on the forums could say if they think it's odd/creepy or not I'd appreciate it. Because to me that is REALLY fucking creepy, but I seem to be the only person I know who thinks so. The ironic thing is, I'm starting to see how good I had it with the ex, seeing as the girls in my program are absolutely fucking batshit.
Cliffs:
1. Broke up with gf
2. People at grad school insisting I'm still with her.
3. Group of girls throw me under bus with potential date.
4. Multiple people tracking exact number of which photos ex-gf comments on, and when.
5. No one else finds this odd/creepy except me.
Update:
1. Attempted to be friends with girl from OP (NOT jenn, the girl I had originally asked out)
2. She says that everyone is saying I'm a scumbag that's trying to cheat on his gf, even my friends. I still don't have a gf.
3. In another class my partner keeps skipping meetings that are mandated for licensure because she doesn't feel like coming, or is too hungover.
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