I think I've got a problem..

[lyssword]

Ok, I think I've got a mental problem, I admit to it. I go to great lenghts to appear good in social situation (i.e make sure I don't appear too aggressive/or an ass or whatever). I constantly worry about what people think about me. And I don't even notice it at the time, only looking back at events, I realize I'm trying too hard for no good reason. I'm not very social, so this happens pretty rarely. Anyone know what I'm talking about?

 

[Gunslinger08]

The only cure is more cowbell.

 

[rocadelpunk]

it's ok i'm sure your effors are in vain.

get some alcohol in you, that'll loosen you up.

 

[IEC]

Relax.

 

[Mermaidman]

You're insecure.

 

[Barfo]

Just keep in mind you will look like an ass whatever you do, that should do it.

 

[Alone]

Get a nice haircut, some new clothes, etc. Trust me, it helps.

 

[arrfep]

Man, pretty much anybody above the age of three worries about what other people think of them, to some extent. It's normal. Actually I think it's the ones that don't care at all that end up as sociopaths.

 

[db]

Originally posted by: Mermaidman
You're insecure.

Sometimes this comes from a parent (usually same sex) who is also insecure, or who does not like social situations. And sometimes that parent is a very critical person (analytical/critical). That parent may have low self-esteem. We mimic our parent's characteristics.

 

[lyssword]

Originally posted by: barfo
Just keep in mind you will look like an ass whatever you do, that should do it.

 

[olds]

Originally posted by: lyssword
Ok, I think I've got a mental problem, I admit to it. I go to great lenghts to appear good in social situation (i.e make sure I don't appear too aggressive/or an ass or whatever). I constantly worry about what people think about me. And I don't even notice it at the time, only looking back at events, I realize I'm trying too hard for no good reason. I'm not very social, so this happens pretty rarely. Anyone know what I'm talking about?

Do you use body spray?

 

[lyssword]

Originally posted by: oldsmoboat

Originally posted by: lyssword
Ok, I think I've got a mental problem, I admit to it. I go to great lenghts to appear good in social situation (i.e make sure I don't appear too aggressive/or an ass or whatever). I constantly worry about what people think about me. And I don't even notice it at the time, only looking back at events, I realize I'm trying too hard for no good reason. I'm not very social, so this happens pretty rarely. Anyone know what I'm talking about?

Do you use body spray?

Yes. I guess the problem is I care too much what people think about me. Usually they like me. Ok lets just / thread.

There, I've done it again. I worry what people reading this will think of me, now I'm trying to escape from uncomfortable situation I guess I only react this way if something relates to my personal character. I can voice very honest and strong opinions about anything, except when it relates to me as a person. Perhaps my subconsciousness is trying to protect me by casting this shield, probably because of bad experiences when I was young and got embarrassed many times in public, either by my own actions or my family's actions.

 

[FP]

You are probably very empathetic and have a high emotional IQ.

Do you find yourself feeling embarrassed for other people?

Do you feel uncomfortable when you know other people are uncomfortable?

Do you strive to make sure other people are having a good time when you are around?

 

[lyssword]

Originally posted by: binister
You are probably very empathetic and have a high emotional IQ.

Do you find yourself feeling embarrassed for other people?

Do you feel uncomfortable when you know other people are uncomfortable?

Do you strive to make sure other people are having a good time when you are around?

Yes to all And generally I get sad when I see people suffering in any way. I'm almost 21 yr old, I haven't noticed this behavior until I was 14.

 

[ShadowOfMyself]

Originally posted by: lyssword

Originally posted by: binister
You are probably very empathetic and have a high emotional IQ.

Do you find yourself feeling embarrassed for other people?

Do you feel uncomfortable when you know other people are uncomfortable?

Do you strive to make sure other people are having a good time when you are around?

Yes to all

< answered yes too

I specially hate when I see one of those prank videos where someone is getting embarassed.. I cant stand watching them, I feel so bad for the person lol

You know Im kind of a turtle person... On the outside I always look really cold/distant, yet Im always aware of everything going around me, and Im very emotional... I guess its some sort of defense mechanism

I just cant stand people in general, they are stupid and they hurt eachother, and I keep wanting more and more distance from them each time, thus creating this "shield"

 

[FP]

Originally posted by: lyssword

Originally posted by: binister
You are probably very empathetic and have a high emotional IQ.

Do you find yourself feeling embarrassed for other people?

Do you feel uncomfortable when you know other people are uncomfortable?

Do you strive to make sure other people are having a good time when you are around?

Yes to all And generally I get sad when I see people suffering in any way. I'm almost 21 yr old, I haven't noticed this behavior until I was 14.

Take this test and tell me what you score. I am guessing pretty high. Remember to actually PLAY the video of the person smiling.

In any case, it isn't anything to be concerned about. Just relax and try to focus on the bigger picture instead of yourself.

Are you left handed by any chance?

 

[ShadowOfMyself]

Originally posted by: binister

Originally posted by: lyssword

Originally posted by: binister
You are probably very empathetic and have a high emotional IQ.

Do you find yourself feeling embarrassed for other people?

Do you feel uncomfortable when you know other people are uncomfortable?

Do you strive to make sure other people are having a good time when you are around?

Yes to all And generally I get sad when I see people suffering in any way. I'm almost 21 yr old, I haven't noticed this behavior until I was 14.

Take this test and tell me what you score. I am guessing pretty high. Remember to actually PLAY the video of the person smiling.

In any case, it isn't anything to be concerned about. Just relax and try to focus on the bigger picture instead of yourself.

Are you left handed by any chance?

Woah, thanks for that test... I scored 18 out of 20 :Q

Sorry for the thread hijacking but since I seem to share the same problem with the OP I thought Id chime in

 

[dighn]

Originally posted by: binister

Take this test and tell me what you score. I am guessing pretty high. Remember to actually PLAY the video of the person smiling.

In any case, it isn't anything to be concerned about. Just relax and try to focus on the bigger picture instead of yourself.

Are you left handed by any chance?

19/20. I've always thought of myself as a very empathetic person. A lot of the things people said in this thread apply to me as well.

 

[FP]

It is funny. I scored a 19/20 as well. I am pretty empathetic too and was really surprised to find out how hard my friends thought the test was. Most of them scored less than 10 and are very Type A "I don't care about anyone but myself" personalities.

I actually find my tendencies help in social situations.

 

[lyssword]

Originally posted by: binister

Originally posted by: lyssword

Originally posted by: binister
You are probably very empathetic and have a high emotional IQ.

Do you find yourself feeling embarrassed for other people?

Do you feel uncomfortable when you know other people are uncomfortable?

Do you strive to make sure other people are having a good time when you are around?

Yes to all And generally I get sad when I see people suffering in any way. I'm almost 21 yr old, I haven't noticed this behavior until I was 14.

Take this test and tell me what you score. I am guessing pretty high. Remember to actually PLAY the video of the person smiling.

In any case, it isn't anything to be concerned about. Just relax and try to focus on the bigger picture instead of yourself.

Are you left handed by any chance?

Hehe, only 15/20 and I'm right handed.

 

[eldorado99]

Scored 19/20, similar problem as OP. and I'm left handed... :Q

 

[toolboxolio]

Originally posted by: joshsquall
The only cure is more cowbell.

pfft.. noob.

that only cures "cowbell fever."

 

[angminas]

I resemble this thread. 18/20 (after three beers), right-handed. Being highly empathetic can indeed lead to distance and coldness, something which less empathetic people do not understand. It's not easy to deal with, but it is possible.

I recommend The Worrywart's Companion and The Neurotic's Guide To God And Love. I also recommend committing to being bigger than the problem- everybody has issues, but not everybody lets the issues control them. I've actually done a lot of work on this myself, and would be glad to share experiences and suggestions.

 

[imported_Devine]

Originally posted by: joshsquall
The only cure is more cowbell.

I like your kinda thinkin

 

[Roguestar]

Originally posted by: angminas
I resemble this thread. 18/20 (after three beers), right-handed. Being highly empathetic can indeed lead to distance and coldness, something which less empathetic people do not understand. It's not easy to deal with, but it is possible.

I recommend The Worrywart's Companion and The Neurotic's Guide To God And Love. I also recommend committing to being bigger than the problem- everybody has issues, but not everybody lets the issues control them. I've actually done a lot of work on this myself, and would be glad to share experiences and suggestions.

EDIT: nm