I think I might be a workaholic. Is that bad?

[amnesiac]

I was really bored all day today and actually kind of depressed.. I found some stuff to keep me busy for most of the day then went into work about 2 hours early. When I got to work THEN I was happy. Is that a problem?

Granted, I *am* dating one of the girls that works with me and a the HOTTTTTT girls at the front desk and I flirt all the time, but aside from that there's no real reason whY I should be so happy to be at work..

 

[frizzlefry]

I wouldn't say you're a workaholic if you are bored when there's nothing to do. But dating someone at work IMHO is a big mistake. Hope you two aren't in the same dept. OR same floor. I think it's more of a social thing. When you're at work, there's stuff to do and you have people to talk to.

 

[amnesiac]

Yeah I *KNOW* it's a big mistake. But I'm a sucker.
Anyway we work in the same station at a restaurant so we're on the same shift up to 3-4 times per week working in the same 3'x15' area...that probably makes is a VERY bad idea. We're both playing it by ear and taking things slowly so if it starts to look like it won't work out it won't be that big of a deal. We're good friends anyhow. The funny part is that no one really knows we're dating but I'm sure EVERYONE in the restaurant suspects something.

 

[TripleJ]

What's wrong with dating a chic from work? It's just like having a gf at high school or Uni me thinks. Do you go out often at night?

 

[Wingznut]

"What's wrong with dating a chic from work?"

My guess is that you've never dated a girl that you worked with.

 

[ace31216]

When a girl is involved, of course your body and mind is whacked! Nothing is normal. Trust me, its the woman and not the job thats making you happy.

 

[amnesiac]

You're probably right, ace. Today was a really good day because both of my favorite hotties were working tonight. I always hook up the front desk girl with free lattes which she calls "Stevie-Treats." She winks and blows me kisses a lot too. Hehe. If things don't work out with my other coworker this one is definitely next in line. I am such a skank.

 

[amnesiac]

dp

 

[cherrytwist]

<< I always hook up the front desk girl with free lattes which she calls &quot;Stevie-Treats.&quot; >>



LOL

Damn I could use a latte right now.

 

[TripleJ]

Oh and your're the guru Wingznut PEZ I'm sure. I've known heaps of people who have married through meeting at work. There can't be anything wrong with that.

 

[amnesiac]

Well the problem that I would see is that if anything went wrong in the relationship the work relations would suffer. But if both people are mature, rational types then it shouldn't be a problem

 

[HansHurt]

Man that's so familiar...it's almost scary. The flirting, and the work relationship. I worked around lifeguards all the time which makes it prime grounds for constant flirting.


As far as the workaholic thing, I can tell you this; I literally worked 7 days a week anytime I was able(which was just about always) a lot of days two or even three shifts/day. This was from age 23-28 approx. at this intensity(I started working full-time@15yrs.). People said that I would burnout, and of course I responded w/ &quot;No way&quot;. Suddenly @ age 29 it all came crashing down...fatigue overwhelmed me from which I could not recover, my body forced me to rest, and it still does. The boundless energy was completely depleted. I almost developed an aversion to work which I previously enjoyed.

&quot;Workaholic&quot; is a strange thing...you have to ask yourself if it interferes w/ your normal liesure activities, some confuse work w/ play, and liesure time. Do you dream about work? Do you talk about work more than other things? Workaholism masquerades as a positive trait in our culture. This has been linked to stress-related conditions, and pre-mature heart attacks. Many workaholics are most comfortable being extremely busy. Free time and vacations can cause even more stress than their daily routine.

If you find that you lose ties w/ friends, and family outside of work or feel yourself being to wrapped up emotionally in your job you may have a problem. Now when I say &quot;problem&quot; I don't mean it's a disease (for some it may be), it's just time to take a step back, and examine your values, goals, and ambitions from outside the engulfing sphere of a work environment. When you do analyze these things be sure to take note of goals etc. that are linked to work, rather than true liesure/relaxation.



You know what I just lost my train of thought completely here...time for bed...sorry for the incomplete mumbo-jumbo I guess to be honest I don't have much interest in the subject thus the loose logic, and random thoughts poorly collected here. Gotta love that Pop Psychology :disgust:

 

[atom]

<< the HOTTTTTT girls at the front desk and I flirt all the time, but aside from that there's no real reason whY I should be so happy to be at work.. >>



Do you really need another reason?

 

[BruinGuy]

Yeah dating people from work is usually a bad idea.

 

[Optimus]

I think its fine until it starts interfering with your life in negative ways (family time, etc). But as you are not yet married, then you are probably just fine.
Just make sure you can &quot;unaddict&quot; yourself in the future when it becomes necessary.

 

[Wingznut]

&quot;Oh and your're the guru Wingznut PEZ I'm sure.&quot;

Ouch! Now I know why I don't post in OT. Some of you guys need to lighten up a bit. Everything I post here is just my opinion. Doesn't make it a fact.

And no, I'm no &quot;guru&quot;. The girl that I dated, that I worked with, was a psycho. It wouldn't have mattered whether or not she was a co-worker.

Btw TripleJ, have you ever dated someone that you worked with? And no, dating someone at school, is DEFINITELY not the same as dating someone at your full time job.