i think i may just kill myself.....

Pers

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Today has sucked. I have reason to contemplate suicide (not really, i'm just being melodramatic).

Anyway...a few weeks ago, an old classmate went up to my sister and told her that she knew who i was. I didn't care much at the time, because that
girl was always a bitch to me. Then i realized that she was a friend of a girl i had been obsessing over for the last year and a half. So i told my sister
to tell my old classmate that i liked her friend. This friend of hers had been in my class for 1.5 years! well anyway....so the classmate my sister met went and
told the girl that i liked her. However, when she told her who i was, she wasn't familiar with the name. SHE FREAKIN DIDN'T EVEN KNOW WHO I WAS.

Normally, i would understand this, because i am the quiet kid in class. But, in this situation, something was different. I ALWAYS stared at her. I stared at her sooo
often, i thought she knew i liked her. I made sure she knew i was staring at her.....and had even caught her staring back. This happened for a year and a half, and little
did i know that she didn't even know my name. What sucks is that i was _really_into_ this_girl. Anyway...i have lost all interest and have just been turned off to the whole
girl thing.

I don't even think that if she does learn my name and shows interest, that i will ever think of her the same. And it's a shame, because i really thought good thoughts about her. I blame myself, because i had idealized her sooo much, that i don't think anyone could live up to my expectations. But...she didn't even know my name. Oh, and the rest of the day sucked too. I did horrible in both my tests, because i was thinking all about her (this was before i found out her reaction to the news of me liking her).

Well, i guess that's life. I hope i at least learn something from this....something positive.... For now, i will try not to let my heart eat at my mind. I will stop trying to get all emotional and stuff... sorry for going on about this....
 

BDawg

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Lemme guess...you're in middle school or high school...you've tons of time and girls to meet. One obsession is no need to conteplate suicide. Neither is a broken engagement or divorce.

Lots of people don't even date in high school. The quality of the fish in the sea increases exponentially in college.
 

Pers

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Have you ever been picked up by the police on a stalking charge?

Wow, that made me feel better about myself.. Thanks!

Oh, and i wasn't serious about the suicide thing.. I just used that to show you how serious i was about this girl, and how much it hurt. OH well....
 

Russ

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<< Today has sucked. >>



There is a universal characteristic that all bad days have in common; they end, and are followed by a new one.

Russ, NCNE
 

jfall

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<< Well, i guess that's life. I hope i at least learn something from this.... >>



How true it is.. I think most people have at least gone through a similiar situation... having a crush on someone that doesn't even know you exist that is. Cheer up, don't feel down about it.. really though, how much can you possibly feel for someone just by staring at them? your probably just physically attracted to her anyways, if you got to know her, she may be a total b!tch, but she may be great too.. never know. It's still no reason to stop persueing her.. why don't you try to spark up a conversation with her some time? if she doesn't know your name, then let her know it.
 

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my advice, dont be too emotional. There's no benefit for you to destroy your life over one girl. Good thing you realized that you have many years ahead of you and there are many opportunities in life, so relax, and try to enjoy what you have now ...
 

Pers

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whoa...you people are great. thanks for the advice...it actually is helping me. I guess jfall is right.
i only knew her because she was attractive. I would love to get her to know me...but it's too late (i feel)

It would be very awkward for me to go up to her, now that i know that she hadn't noticed me.

Anyway... i guess this teaches me to be less shallow, and not to be attracted to girls just based on appearence.


ok..thanks again.
 

BamBam215

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dude you did nothing but stare at her for a year and a half. She might know who you are, but hell, I'd be freaked out if all a guy did was just stare at me all the time. You might want to try going up and talking to her.
 

n0cmonkey

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<< whoa...you people are great. thanks for the advice...it actually is helping me. I guess jfall is right.
i only knew her because she was attractive. I would love to get her to know me...but it's too late (i feel)

It would be very awkward for me to go up to her, now that i know that she hadn't noticed me.

Anyway... i guess this teaches me to be less shallow, and not to be attracted to girls just based on appearence.


ok..thanks again.
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Its not too late. Get off your whiney ass and talk to her. I recently saw someone I never really talked to in school and we got to talking and she and I hung out for a while. Since she doesnt know your name you two have plenty you can talk about ;)
 

Pers

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Its not too late. Get off your whiney ass and talk to her. I recently saw someone I never really talked to in school and we got to talking and she and I hung out for a while. Since she doesnt know your name you two have plenty you can talk about

Lol, i'll see what happens in the upcoming days...and then if it seems appropriate, i will get to know her a little better (i wil approach her). I think i should first find out if I really like her, and then see if she has any interest in me. Wish me luck. except...i have really been turned off from her.
 

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<< dude you did nothing but stare at her for a year and a half. She might know who you are, but hell, I'd be freaked out if all a guy did was just stare at me all the time. You might want to try going up and talking to her. >>



Dammit I have the same problem that Pers has (where you are "staring" at someone that you like but have never talked to them or gotten to know them), except worse. There's someone who I like and I basically have done what Pers did. But my main problem is that I don't talk to ANYONE, except for my friends. It sucks, because now I basically only have one friend and I'm sorta hopeless about meeting any other friends. It's the same thing with the girl I like...it is really difficult for me to talk to anyone, especially a girl who I like. Maybe I should start a thread about it instead of replying to someone else's. Well if any of you have any suggestions, please let me know (either reply to this thread, PM me, email me (see my user info)). :(

edit: Btw I'm (almost) 16 and in 10th grade.
 

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<< Its not too late. Get off your whiney ass and talk to her. I recently saw someone I never really talked to in school and we got to talking and she and I hung out for a while. Since she doesnt know your name you two have plenty you can talk about

Lol, i'll see what happens in the upcoming days...and then if it seems appropriate, i will get to know her a little better (i wil approach her). I think i should first find out if I really like her, and then see if she has any interest in me. Wish me luck. except...i have really been turned off from her.
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No you havent. Your little ego has been hurt. It happens. Its called life. Wait till you go out and get a job and stuff. Heh. Just get to know her, and then worry about other stuff. She may end up being a gf, she may end up just being a friend, and she could always remember you and get a restraining order. Who knows? But Im sure you want to find out :)
 

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<< Have you ever been picked up by the police on a stalking charge? >>



LOL

but seriously ... learn something from this :) dont be so shy... a lil bit is cute but more is just ridiculous (no offence) and this will happen to ya time and time again...
 

Pers

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::cough:: stalker:: cough::

I don't believe i explained the situation thoroughly enough for you to call me a stalker. A loser, maybe?

Anyway....thank you for keeping your posts relevant and polite....
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n0cmonkey

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<<

<< dude you did nothing but stare at her for a year and a half. She might know who you are, but hell, I'd be freaked out if all a guy did was just stare at me all the time. You might want to try going up and talking to her. >>



Dammit I have the same problem that Pers has (where you are "staring" at someone that you like but have never talked to them or gotten to know them), except worse. There's someone who I like and I basically have done what Pers did. But my main problem is that I don't talk to <STRONG>ANYONE</STRONG>, except for my friends. It sucks, because now I basically only have one friend and I'm sorta hopeless about meeting any other friends. It's the same thing with the girl I like...it is really difficult for me to talk to anyone, especially a girl who I like. Maybe I should start a thread about it instead of replying to someone else's. Well if any of you have any suggestions, please let me know (either reply to this thread, PM me, email me (see my user info)). :(
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Grow a nut and introduce yourself.
 

Azraele

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So you're disillusioned because she didn't know your name? Think about it from the flip side for a sec. If she has, in fact, met your gazes, she may be wondering who you are, who is that guy who looks at her so? She may be too shy to ask your name, or ask one of her friends if they know who you are.

Relax, it's not the end of the world. :p
 

Pers

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ok...so how would you approach a girl you hardly know??? Oh, and by the time i do so, i think she may realize who i am (i hope not).
 

cressida

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<< Lemme guess...you're in middle school or high school...you've tons of time and girls to meet. One obsession is no need to conteplate suicide. Neither is a broken engagement or divorce.

Lots of people don't even date in high school. The quality of the fish in the sea increases exponentially in college.
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listen to him
 

BamBam215

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Grow a nut and introduce yourself

LOLz... i'm sorry to say but it's kind of true. Rejection isn't the end of the world. If she's a nice person, she'll talk to ya, and if she brushes you off then you know she's a b*tch to begin with.
 

dude8604

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Yeah I think Azraele has a point there. I mean, how can you expect her to know your name if you've never talked to her?

Maybe you are doing what I think I do and looking for any reason you can not to like her because it would be really hard to talk to her and get to know her. Just a guess.
 

Pers

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Azraele:

You have an awesome ability to make the sh!ttiest situation seem ok.. That's damn cool.. ;)

Anyway..i hope you are right, but i _highly_doubt_it. :|