I *SERIOUSLY* need new friends...

[mztykal]

...I thought my "friends" problems were over when I got rid of the other two, that kep fvcking me over. Today, I find out that my three weeks of planning and running around for my girlfriends x-mas gift was ruined in ten seconds.

God damn! My friend told her, when I told him not to.

Now I'm SOL without a gift, because she wants to be "surprised".

Seriously, I really need to reevaluate (spelling?) my "friends"...I mean, when they ask for favors, I hook them up. When I ask for favors it's usually "it's cheap, go buy it at the store" or "I don't have time" or "it's fvcking easy, go do it yourself".

Blah! Time for basketball! :|

 

[Ulfwald]

You sound like me, always there to help people, but can never count on anyone to help you.

 

[eshrai]

that is pretty messed up. but on the bright side, at least your friend isn't sleeping with your girlfriend or anything...

 

[mztykal]

Blah! Seriously though. I have a friend who works at Champs. I hook him up all the time with free stuff from where I work. And when he has employee appreciation day, he tells us, he'll hook us up with 50% off.

So I call him up today, to buy some new shoes. His reply, "oh sorry, I'm busy, gotta go to my g/f's house". I'm like WTF?! You say you'll hook it up, and then you back out. ARGH! :|

So far, I'm down to like 5 really good friends.

 

[PliotronX]

Those are "moochers", they only call you when they need something, and they actually get a kick out of fscking you over. Most of these kinds of people exhibit covert hostility characteristics. I suggest you read the book "How to Choose Your People" by Ruth Minshull. It explains the "tone scale", and will teach you how to plot people on this scale just by talking with them. You usually want to associate with high-tone people, but they are far and few between as the years go by.

 

[yoda291]

well, I hope your friendship is based on more than favors. The whole lack of trust thing tho, kinda makes me think it might not be.

 

[mztykal]

If he slept with my g/f, he could have her. If she ever cheated on me, I'd kick her to the curb in a milisecond.

 

[mztykal]

No, I trust them without a shadow of a doubt on some stuff. Like for hitting on my g/f and stuff. They know that's a "no-no", but come on now, when you tell someone "don't tell her" and the next day you find out he told her, WTF?!

That's just not kewl....

 

[mztykal]

I mean the guy that ruined my x-mas gift, helps me out at times. And there are times when he's just a total ass. But usually he makes up for it. He's a good friend. But he fvcked up beyond kewl this time.

 

[eshrai]

<< maybe their not friends at all. >>



or maybe they just have some seriously screwed up values
or just don't understand what jerks they are being

 

[yoda291]

<< No, I trust them without a shadow of a doubt on some stuff. Like for hitting on my g/f and stuff. They know that's a "no-no", but come on now, when you tell someone "don't tell her" and the next day you find out he told her, WTF?!

That's just not kewl.... >>



Well, I mean, that's just a given. It's like the holy grail of rudeness to hit on one of your boys's girl without explicit and clear cut honest permission. Even then...kinda iffy

But if you were holding a sack with a billion dollars cash, could you trust them to hold the bag for a few months and not take a dollar and not tell anyone?

 

[mztykal]

He found out only a couple days ago, and then told her the next day. Come on, it's not hard not to say anything.

 

[urameatball]

you know... in life, there's only 1 or 2 real friends... and the rest are only acquaintances.

I don't know who said that, but it's true

 

[geekybear]

if you think you need new friends...that means it's time for new friends

it's a law of the universe that a person only has about 5 really true friends ever...just something to think about

 

[flyfish]

If you want to keep a secret...DON'T TELL ANYONE!!! Plain and simple, but not always easy.

 

[rippy]

they say that throughout life, you can count your true friends on one hand... just some food for thought.

 

[TallBill]

heh.. yeah.. i only got like 1 or 2 real good friends... then some medium.. and a shizload of acquaintainces

 

[Hoeboy]

yeah that's why i try my best not to rely on anyone but myself, especially for really important sh!t. btw some people seriously don't understand the meaning of friendship so they might be doing things that you feel is messed up. try talking to them about it. if they apologize then cool. see if they change. if they moan and bitch or try to blame it on something else, then for sure you can cross them off your list of friends

btw, i've learned to categorize friends into lists. some friends are cool to know and hang around but not the best to rely on. list them as on and off friends. don't put yourself into the position of being dissappointed.

 

[no0b]

well all i know about friendship from personal experience is if you dont have any close friends then make it up with friends and acquantainces (SP?). It fscking amazing how many different types of people you can meet that way. I've meet the A student in the National Honors Society to the H.S. drop out. The only bad part is that you dont do alot on the weekends because you only know the peoples.

 

[thomsbrain]

<< that is pretty messed up. but on the bright side, at least your friend isn't sleeping with your girlfriend or anything... >>



Don't say that, it might come true.

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

<<

<< maybe their not friends at all. >>



or maybe they just have some seriously screwed up values
or just don't understand what jerks they are being >>

Or maybe it's his inturpretation of them and the issue that makes them lesser friends.


...hmm


Nik

 

[bbqweed]

hahahah...i understand the "i wanna be surprised" part of the relationship.

here's one way to go about it...
---"Surprise...you get nothing this year"...hahahhaha --Then you'd be dead...so never mind...


as for the friends...they may seem like the fcuk up sometimes...but if they are your real friends....let it pass, cuz good friends are hard to find...

from experience....

 

[nullshark]

It's time for a friendly ass-whuppin'

 

[d1abolic]

LMFAO that sounds a lot like me. When people need something they come to me but when i do, they all suddenly disappear.

 

[IGBT]

No good deed goes un-punished..