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i really should write a book on parenting

SandEagle

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so for the last few months my younger daughter has been acting pretty bossy, throwing tantrums, not listening to me, and constantly whining and arguing with her siblings. wth. i had told her a few times jokingly that i would send her away to boarding school if she continued to misbehave. my empty threats unfortunately fell on deaf ears.

well last week, my Midland handheld cb radio came in. it has the words 'Midland cb transmitter' labeled on the front. my kid sees it and says 'daddy! what is that thing?'. i decided to take advantage of this situation.

i told her that a rep from Midland Boarding Schools came by earlier and dropped it off. i then proceeded to tell her how i explained her behavior to 'Samantha', the rep, and she gave me this 'transmitter' for monitoring purposes. i told her it records all voice, whining, crying, etc. and sends it back to the rep. and that we have an interview next week to listen to the results and make a decision on whether to send her to boarding school or not.

my daughter doesn't believe me. how typical. so i put my google-fu to use, run a seach for 'midland boarding school' and lo and behold i get this: http://www.midland-school.org/ i tell her to straighten up or your going to california and will only be able to visit us twice a year lol. she looks at the site and started crying saying that she doesn't want to go and that she'll try to behave.

well, guess what? she's been acting like an angel for the past few days! yay, no more crap! she's listening, going to bed on time, finishing her din din, etc. and when i sense that she's going to act up, i wave the cb in the air. anyhoo, if it goes this good this week, i'll have to postpone 'the interview' until next month. lulz

/asom dad

please feel free to share some of your asom parenting techniques
 
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ichy

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Meh, military school would've been a much more intimidating threat.
 

rh71

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how old is she?

it's a good short term solution... they will act up eventually again. Right now this is still fresh in her mind. When it comes time for tantrums, her emotions will get the best of her before the threat will.

and oh yeah... every kid is different... books on parenting don't work. :D
 

Texashiker

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uh, pull the sarcasm meter out of your butt and look at it once in a while. :rolleyes:

You posted a thread saying your daughter drew a picture in school of you telling her she was your slave?

Didn't you also say you were worried about what the teacher might think of the pic?
 

Fausto

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You posted a thread saying your daughter drew a picture in school of you telling her she was your slave?

Didn't you also say you were worried about what the teacher might think of the pic?

You do realize that 90% of what SE posts never happened, right?
 

Texashiker

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You do realize that 90% of what SE posts never happened, right?

For once, I think you and I are in agreement here.

SE must be delusional. How do you go from telling your kids to make stuff up for school assignments, to bragging that you are a great parent?
 

Madwand1

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/asom dad

please feel free to share some of your asom parenting techniques

Lying to your kids is near the bottom of my asom parenting list. It's sure to fail over the long or short term, and earn you distrust from your kids when they figure out that you lied to them and cannot be trusted. Even joking lies can turn out badly when the child takes it for truth and figures it out later -- the joke is lost, and all that remains is the manipulative lie.

It's much better to keep the reward and punishment real. Take away game and entertainment privileges for misbehavior, give special rewards for good behavior, and explain and explain the differences between the good and the bad. Real threats, rewards and understanding the reasons work much better than imaginary threats.

my daughter doesn't believe me. how typical

Yep.
 

nageov3t

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there was an old brick building in the town where I grew up... my dad convinced my sister and I that it was an orphanage and he would regularly drive past and threaten to leave us there when we were misbehaving.

I still consider him an asshole to this day.
 

SandEagle

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Lying to your kids is near the bottom of my asom parenting list. It's sure to fail over the long or short term, and earn you distrust from your kids when they figure out that you lied to them and cannot be trusted. Even joking lies can turn out badly when the child takes it for truth and figures it out later -- the joke is lost, and all that remains is the manipulative lie.

It's much better to keep the reward and punishment real. Take away game and entertainment privileges for misbehavior, give special rewards for good behavior, and explain and explain the differences between the good and the bad. Real threats, rewards and understanding the reasons work much better than imaginary threats.



Yep.

but its ok to tell them that the tooth fairy, Santa Claus, Easter Bunny, and Mr. Hanky are all real? :rolleyes: sure buddy
 

Fausto

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but its ok to tell them that the tooth fairy, Santa Claus, Easter Bunny, and Mr. Hanky are all real? :rolleyes: sure buddy
Yes, because playful childhood mythology and lying to your kids as a means of control are the same thing.
 

nageov3t

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Easter bunny
Santa Clause
Tooth Fairy
ngl, lying to your kids about that still seems kinda fucked up.

I walk a fine line with my nieces... my sister is doing the whole lying thing, and while I'm not going to be the asshole who blurts out "haha, there is no santa clause!", I'm not doing anything to perpetuate the lies and I'd answer honestly if asked.
 

SagaLore

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So far every thread you've started about your kids involves you doing something dishonest. o_O

Now every time I read one of your replies about how many millions of dollars you give to charity I will not be so sure. :colbert:
 

PingSpike

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Honestly, you are correct that is basically the same scam as Santa Claus with the only difference being a punishment in place of a reward. I'm not sure I agree is a great parenting strategy but it is par for the course.
 

ichy

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:colbert: a lot of kid's shows show how awful boarding schools are. they wouldnt even know what a military school is at this age

Ha, you should have her read a couple of old Roald Dahl books that describe what boarding schools in the UK used to be like back in the day. Sounds like she's young enough to think that things haven't changed.