I need to take my own advice sometimes

Alphathree33

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I feel rather hypocritical right now because I blabbed on for four posts in steve0's thread about how to not end up 'just friends' with a girl and I very nearly ended up 'just friends' permanently with someone today.

This, if you don't already know, is the Alphathree's-guaranteed-not-to-work-girl-method:

(A) Meet girl
(B) Determine if girl likes Alphathree
(C) If yes, flirt with girl
(D) Become stuck and not know what to do after flirting for a while
(E) Slowly become alienated from girl
(F) End up friends with girl

This process happens over about a week or two. I'm on step D right now with girl# n where n is a large positive integer.

I'm heading over to her dorm in about an hour ... we're going to play some warcraft (her idea, don't worry, she's pretty good actually...) and she wants me to fix her camera or some such thing. We flirt every single morning at breakfast and walking to class and at lunch hour, and that's why I'm in the initial phase of step D right now.

So, yeah, I don't really know what I'm talking about. I hope this thread doesn't elicit responses from anyone calling me a pathetic bunghole (now I know I can't avoid it since I've said that ;-))
 

lozina

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<text here editted out because I got beaten to it>

I'm still wokring on Step A :)

chick who plays Warcraft... if she cooks too I'd say thats a keeper
 

Orsorum

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Originally posted by: xuanman
just ask her out already

That's seriously all it takes.

"Hey, you want to go to a movie tomorrow night?" If she says no, or gives some lame excuse, that's okay. Just keep on being friends with her. If she accepts, w00t!
 

Alphathree33

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Originally posted by: Zakath15
Originally posted by: xuanman just ask her out already
That's seriously all it takes. "Hey, you want to go to a movie tomorrow night?" If she says no, or gives some lame excuse, that's okay. Just keep on being friends with her. If she accepts, w00t!

See I'd have no problem with that except I've become so damn good at saying things casually that even going to a movie could be misinterpreted as 'just friends'. ( I *know* it can be interpreted as just friends because I've had it happen both dinner and movie and both hehe )
 

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Originally posted by: Alphathree33

See I'd have no problem with that except I've become so damn good at saying things casually that even going to a movie could be misinterpreted as 'just friends'. ( I *know* it can be interpreted as just friends because I've had it happen both dinner and movie and both hehe )

Most girls are fairly adept at guessing someone's intent... one of my female friends (where it's a defined friendship) would be suspicious or invite a group of our friends along if I were to say, "Just you and me go to a movie."

 

Alphathree33

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Originally posted by: Zakath15
Originally posted by: Alphathree33 See I'd have no problem with that except I've become so damn good at saying things casually that even going to a movie could be misinterpreted as 'just friends'. ( I *know* it can be interpreted as just friends because I've had it happen both dinner and movie and both hehe )
Most girls are fairly adept at guessing someone's intent... one of my female friends (where it's a defined friendship) would be suspicious or invite a group of our friends along if I were to say, "Just you and me go to a movie."

Yeah exactly, and if she throws in "with who?" when I ask (which she will) then I won't have the guts to say "just you and me". Well, I might. It depends on the time of day and the color of the sky.
 

Lonyo

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During WC3, just send a message to her saying, "Do you wanna go out sometime? (no, not just as friends)"
See what happens, if she says less, let her win, if not, whoop her ass ;)
 

radioouman

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Originally posted by: Alphathree33
Originally posted by: xuanman
just ask her out already

And thus we have the part where I get stuck.

Don't let yourself get stuck!! Just ask her out (like everyone else said)!

I did the exact same thing (as you) with a girl my freshman year in college. Became friends, and it became too friendly. Never got anywhere with it. Drove me nuts especially the night that was really warm and we went to a hockey game together... man she kept telling me how horny she was, and it was all for other guys!! I just laughed since this was about 6 months after I met her, so I had pretty much accepted that she was just a friend.

Glad it didn't work out though... she called me 3 months before I was supposed to get married... the nerve! I blew her off and that's the end of it. Oh, sorry, guess you didn't need to know this part :)

 

lilFajita

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it seems to me if you are spending alot of time with her, and she doenst talk about other boys or something like that, then she probably likes you too! Maybe you should just go for it...like one day, just be playing around with her (being flirtatious or whatever) and just kiss her!

Just an idea :)
 

Alphathree33

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Originally posted by: lilFajita
it seems to me if you are spending alot of time with her, and she doenst talk about other boys or something like that, then she probably likes you too! Maybe you should just go for it...like one day, just be playing around with her (being flirtatious or whatever) and just kiss her! Just an idea :)

Heh she just spent a couple hours here in my dorm... we were 'sharing' my single chair the whole time. That was nice :)

We we goofing around with my digi cam... I tried to fix her cam but couldn't. Then we just goofed around on the comp for a while. It would be out of character (or just out of any possible range of actions that I have) for me to randomly kiss her.

HOWEVER, once things were rapping up I asked if she had seen "The Ring" and she said no -- I knew she'd seen a few other movies earlier so we talked about that for a while. Anyway I set it up so perfectly but I couldn't say the words. Felt like an idiot. Then, luckily, one of my other female friends called (her friend too) and we're all going out together. Oh well, not so bad I suppose.

Still, doesn't really solve the problem.
 

gopunk

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Originally posted by: Zakath15
Originally posted by: Alphathree33

See I'd have no problem with that except I've become so damn good at saying things casually that even going to a movie could be misinterpreted as 'just friends'. ( I *know* it can be interpreted as just friends because I've had it happen both dinner and movie and both hehe )

Most girls are fairly adept at guessing someone's intent... one of my female friends (where it's a defined friendship) would be suspicious or invite a group of our friends along if I were to say, "Just you and me go to a movie."

no, they just think they are. i can't tell you how many times girls have misjudged my intent... sometimes it's so off it's funny.
 

xuanman

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Originally posted by: Alphathree33
Originally posted by: lilFajita
it seems to me if you are spending alot of time with her, and she doenst talk about other boys or something like that, then she probably likes you too! Maybe you should just go for it...like one day, just be playing around with her (being flirtatious or whatever) and just kiss her! Just an idea :)

Heh she just spent a couple hours here in my dorm... we were 'sharing' my single chair the whole time. That was nice :)

We we goofing around with my digi cam... I tried to fix her cam but couldn't. Then we just goofed around on the comp for a while. It would be out of character (or just out of any possible range of actions that I have) for me to randomly kiss her.

HOWEVER, once things were rapping up I asked if she had seen "The Ring" and she said no -- I knew she'd seen a few other movies earlier so we talked about that for a while. Anyway I set it up so perfectly but I couldn't say the words. Felt like an idiot. Then, luckily, one of my other female friends called (her friend too) and we're all going out together. Oh well, not so bad I suppose.

Still, doesn't really solve the problem.

hmm, that's not going to work. going to the movie with her and a female friend is just going to perpetuate the whole friend thing...as that other female friend to help you out. explain the situation, and somehow mysteriously she's going to come down with that flu bug that's been going around...
 

MazerRackham

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ASK HER DUDE!!!! You can do it..... ALL NIGHT LONG! :) Seriously, ask now or regret it forever my friend .....
 

Alphathree33

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Originally posted by: MazerRackham
ASK HER DUDE!!!! You can do it..... ALL NIGHT LONG! :) Seriously, ask now or regret it forever my friend .....

Sigh... I wish.

Me: So, have you seen The Ring yet?
Her: No
Me(saying): Oh, that's good.
Me(thinking to self): you stupid lame pathetic bunghole say it!