I need some serious advice. No flamers need apply.

[BuckleDownBen]

Originally posted by: ThePresence

Originally posted by: BuckleDownBen
I have to g oagainst all the advice you've received so far. This is your fiance, which, to me, is as almost equivalent to your wife. I am of the opinion that a man and his wife should have no secrets. Tell her you have something that you need to get off her chest. Hell, she may already know.

What if he's wrong? Then he's in deep trouble.

He can't be wrong if he just tells her what he knows.

 

[ThePresence]

He can't be wrong if he just tells her what he knows.

C'mon, it doesnt work like that in real life. Telling her his suspiciouns will be construed as an accusation of her mother messing around. Thats just the way these things work. And if he's wrong about that........

 

[Phoenix15]

Originally posted by: FettsBabe
Ok lets analyze the clues...


Photo resembles guy she is now seeing who also happens to be black.

Coincidence??? I don't think so

Not resembles. IS. He has a small birthmark on his forhead, near his hairline. The "bo" has it too. The photo is now on her dresser. It IS the same guy. The photo being hid (and hid well) is what put me over the top. Along with the 50 other clues, that are too numerous to mention.

 

[MomAndSkoorbaby]

Ah, be careful my friend.

Sometimes the messenger...you know the saying. I would be very careful, so that I would not ruin my relationship with her. Sometimes we lash out at those we love when bad news is delivered. I can't imagine how that would be if it came from you since you are going to be her support as it is. She may feel threatened.

I personally think the responsibility lies with Wade for sure. However, you do what feels right to you. You know her. You know the situation. We only have a glimpse!

 

[UDT89]

god this makes me not want to get married

 

[FettsBabe]

Wade and you should do it together...Wade tells her and you support her when she gets upset. She will be pissed at her mom, which she should be. Quite frankly, the mother needs to be confronted, so she knows how she tore the family apart, hurt her kids, etc. So far the mom has had the easy way out...still gets money, support, etc. The mother needs to fess up. Growing Apart...is not what she did...she lied, deceived her hubby and family, didn't forfil her obligation as a mom or wife, etc. The more I think about it the more I think she needs to be confronted..... :|

 

[Phoenix15]

Originally posted by: FettsBabe
Quite frankly, the mother needs to be confronted, so she knows how she tore the family apart, hurt her kids, etc. So far the mom has had the easy way out...still gets money, support, etc. The mother needs to fess up. Growing Apart...is not what she did...she lied, deceived her hubby and family, didn't forfil her obligation as a mom or wife, etc. The more I think about it the more I think she needs to be confronted..... :|

You must be my long lost sister. Thats just how I feel.

[Rant On]

Today is Rhonda's birthday. Now I have to go spend money I don't have on someone I'm super pissed at right now. Then Ray is taking her out to a nice dinner, then we all are going to go out together. This is going to be running through my mind all night.

[/Rant Off]

 

[MichaelD]

Originally posted by: Phoenix15

Originally posted by: FettsBabe
Quite frankly, the mother needs to be confronted, so she knows how she tore the family apart, hurt her kids, etc. So far the mom has had the easy way out...still gets money, support, etc. The mother needs to fess up. Growing Apart...is not what she did...she lied, deceived her hubby and family, didn't forfil her obligation as a mom or wife, etc. The more I think about it the more I think she needs to be confronted..... :|

You must be my long lost sister. Thats just how I feel.

[Rant On]

Today is Rhonda's birthday. Now I have to go spend money I don't have on someone I'm super pissed at right now. Then Ray is taking her out to a nice dinner, then we all are going to go out together. This is going to be running through my mind all night.

[/Rant Off]

Hmm. [evil] Being that your stomach is in knots and you're pissed-off already; why not, right in the middle of dinner say:

Hey Rhonda, I think it was really nice of Ray to take you out for your birthday! (She'll agree) Then you say: "so, what did "Bo" (<--insert her BF's name here) get you for your birthday, hmm?"

That oughtta do it. When she plays stupid, have Wade chime in "yeah Mom, I would've thought that your BOYFRIEND OF TWO DAMN YEARS would get you something nice!!!!" [/evil]

How's that for spilling the beans. Rhonda is a scumbag...I didn't think women could be called that, but if the shoe fits....

 

[Phoenix15]

There's a idea!