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eits

Lifer
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Ok, Mr. Physic ;)

Since you are predicting the future, would you go out and buy me a megamillion lottery ticket and make it a winner? :D

Your "doom and gloom" feelings, ummm... time for some St. John's Wort or something?
Also, you posting about this is a good, and a healthy thing. Just getting it out and getting some feed back is helpful. :thumbsup:
Plus, we have a pact, and you'd better not break it.

haha mr. psychic, eh? i wish... that'd be pretty sweet.

yeah, i know it's just stress and anxiety. it's just a really weird, horrible feeling... never felt like this before.

and don't worry, we made a pact.
 

moshquerade

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haha mr. psychic, eh? i wish... that'd be pretty sweet.

yeah, i know it's just stress and anxiety. it's just a really weird, horrible feeling... never felt like this before.

and don't worry, we made a pact.
♥

gotta learn to deal with the stress. stress is what life is about. hell, it's stressful just holding our head up :awe:

i don't like stress either.... my level went up this week. damn co-workers having babies and going out on maternity leave making me work their schedules along with mine. :\

but so, find a way to blow that stress off, find some down time to clear your mind. take a deep breath, count your many blessings, and continue onward. somebody else always has it a lot worse than you. :)
 

IceBergSLiM

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What is causing you stress?

How can you remove it from your life?

Would doing that improve your quality of life?

If yes....do those things

also start your day by reading this blog:

http://greatday.com/

he is masterful at re-framing negative though patterns.
 
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AreaCode707

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Feelings of foreboding can be part of the onset of a panic attack. If you're under stress the way you say you are, this is not at all an unusual reaction. It's part of our physiological makeup, keeping us keyed up and ready to run from a predator if we sense we're in a dangerous situation.

Taking a very measured approach to calming yourself, physically and mentally, will help. If it doesn't, you may need medication temporarily to help your body get a break and relieve the pressure, so see a counselor for a referral.
 

KidNiki1

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ya, i had a panic attack ( at least, i think i was, went to the hospital cause i thought something was wrong but they said nada ) earlier this year. anxiety attack...whatever you want to call it..i felt a really strong sense that something was wrong with me, and i worried about what would happen to my kids if i died, and i was afraid to fall asleep cause i might not wake up. freaked me right the shit out. then i read about panic attacks. they suck. if you need to talk (or not, if that makes sense), i'm more than happy to listen. either way, i hope it works out ok for you.
 
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All I can say is life's a bitch. I've been stressed as f@ck lately as well. Usually I go running or lifting weights or something and it helps to blow off some steam but lately it's been so bad I can't do that. Tonight I'm going running or playing pick up basketball just to let some steam off. I suggest the same for you.
 
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Lifer
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All I can say is life's a bitch. I've been stressed as f@ck lately as well. Usually I go running or lifting weights or something and it helps to blow off some steam but lately it's been so bad I can't do that. Tonight I'm going running or playing pick up basketball just to let some steam off. I suggest the same for you.

yeah, i'm the same... i used to lift weights regularly, but now i just can't seem to shake the stress and depression in order to get in there. wednesday nights, i play soccer.
 

eits

Lifer
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What you say reminds me of when you're in the wild and you hear the usual animal noises, then suddenly it goes quiet or the noise changes, like singing birds start cawing, and you know that it's a sign that a predator lurks.

In your own life, you say you're seeing your own signs of the world, that all the events seem to conspire, point to one inevitable conclusion. Well, things may happen, but the experiencer of these events can failingly interpret the meaning.

You take liquid fire, and someone understands that the heat can destroy. If you throw something into the fire, that someone assumes destruction of that thing, and if they don't know, if they have never realize or seen, if the object is steel, they can very well assume destruction of the steel as well. This person has failingly interpreted the meaning of dipping the steel into the fire. The excruciation and harshness of the heat isn't meant to destroy but to forge and temper. Rebirth. Independence of being. Letting go of things, letting people live their own realities, freeing yourself.

wow. that was incredible.

thank you.
 

dud

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OP, lately the news has been almost all bad. I can relate in a way ...
 

Ronstang

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Most people don't talk to their friends about serious issues for the same reason their friends don't talk to them. Everyone is afraid of being judged. Everyone has an issue that is serious.

Then they are not and do not have real friends. Everyone that considers me a good friend would come to me if they really needed someone to talk to. You would be amazed at some of the stuff I have heard over the years. If your friends think you will judge them then you have given them a reason to believe so and thus are not a real friend.
 

Malak

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Then they are not and do not have real friends. Everyone that considers me a good friend would come to me if they really needed someone to talk to. You would be amazed at some of the stuff I have heard over the years. If your friends think you will judge them then you have given them a reason to believe so and thus are not a real friend.

But you right there proved you judge people. You will never know the secrets your friends don't tell you.
 

lxskllr

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Just do what I do; don't give a shit. If you die, you die. There's no point in worrying about it. It takes some willpower and practice, but there isn't a single problem that can't be ignored indefinitely. Enjoy the sunrise, fuck the work, and don't worry so much. Regardless of what you do, the world will keep on spinning, and the sun will come up tomorrow ;^)
 

bfdd

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you're born preparing for the end, stop worrying about it and just do what it takes to get to that point. i personally look forward to the day i die. it'll be a change from the mundane.


Just do what I do; don't give a shit. If you die, you die. There's no point in worrying about it. It takes some willpower and practice, but there isn't a single problem that can't be ignored indefinitely. Enjoy the sunrise, fuck the work, and don't worry so much. Regardless of what you do, the world will keep on spinning, and the sun will come up tomorrow ;^)


and if it doesn't oh well, who cares.
 
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OP, it could be the stress, and you very likely might be having something big happen to you soon (you mention finances and well, there's been plenty of people that have gotten the shit kicked out of them there, losing their jobs, business, homes, etc) that you've just kinda been deluding yourself into thinking it won't or can't happen but deep down you know its inevitable.
 
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BoomerD

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eits, it looks like you're in metropolitan St. Louis...that puts you in one of the highest crime areas in the country...you have a 1/48 chance of being a victim of violent crime...1/11 chance of being a victim of a property crime...
http://www.neighborhoodscout.com/mo/st-louis/crime/

so...you COULD be right...




Or, you might just be suffering from stress...IIRC, you're single, right? Go get laid...only be careful...I'm sure the St. Louis hookers aren't the safest around.
 

Locut0s

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this is gonna sound weird, but have any of you ever had feelings of... i dunno... bad feelings of foreboding?

i feel like my life is gonna end soon and i don't know how or why... i just feel like the way things are going in my life is all happening out of my control in preparation for the conclusion of my life.

i've been under an extreme amount of stress lately... i'm hoping that's all it is.

i know this sounds crazy... please tell me i'm not alone in this.

It's called anxiety. Life long 'friend' of mine.